I need a snarky comeback for people who say stupid things!!

[megan4777]

If you want to be extremely snarky, just wave your hand and say airily, "Oh it really doesn't matter. We're just raising this one for the meat."

If I tell my Dh that he will say that to everyone IF we get pregnant again. We have 2 DD's and are frequently told that we're the it's up to us to have the boy on his side of the family.

Thank-you VERY much for the laugh. That's probably the funniest thing I've read in a long time!

 

[Linnie The Pooh]

I got asked that during my 2nd pregnancy. I'd already had a boy and everyone asked if I was wanting a girl. It was very annoying. I just said, "I will take whatever I'm given. I'd be happy with another boy or a girl." I am not quick thinking so could never think of anything clever to come back with.

Even after I had my daughter, people said stuff like, "Now you can stop having kids b/c your family is complete-you have one of each."

Just dumb comments. I usually answered that one with, "God will let me know when my family is complete." Or "My pregnancies were so hard, we were done no matter what. DH said he can't go through another pregnancy and birth." That usually prompted them to gasp and say, "He can't???"

I don't think you're being overly sensitive. It's no one's business.

 

[lillygator]

I don't think you are being overly sensitive, but keep in mind most people aren't really "realizing" what they are saying. I have two DD's 3 and under.....I still catch myself asking/saying things I thought hurt my feelings when I was pg...simply becasue my coworkers are my friends...I usually apologize within a min of asking!!


BTY, I work for a community hospital...and we just had NATURAL QUADS, here, ALL BOYS!!! Mom has a 12 yr old DD already and, so far all DB's are doing well!! So cool.....!!

 

[Keli]

You know, it's been my experience that it is really, really, really easy to offend some pregnant women. So much so that I often totally ignore the pregnancies of coworkers or others I know that I am not close friends with because I feel like even the most casual of comments could cause offense.

I guess down deep though I just don't see how the question "What are you hoping for, a girl or a boy?" is offensive. I never found it offensive when I was pregnant with my dd. I just gave the honest answer--"We don't really care either way, we just want the baby to be healthy".

 

[Poohnatic]

"A baby" It worked for me. Then the "gonna try for a girl?" happened. The response to that was "Not unless DH is having it." Anyone who was asking had no clue about my second pregnancy!

suzanne

 

[olena]

You could also reply that since the aliens impregnated you during an abduction, you're just hoping it's human.

 

[LisaNJ25]

You can say your hoping for a Polydactyl....That sounds worst that it is.. my Daughter is a Polydactly... she has 11 toes but that would get them thinking lol

 

[msdznyduck]

Look at them in innocently and tell them you're not pregnant.

I love this.......especially for the people you don't know, like on an elevator.
I have 2 boys and a girl, and when I was pregnant with DD, people would ask what I 'wanted', since I had 2 boys already........I told them "either one, good there is only 2 choices".

Also.......why do complete strangers want to touch/rub a pregnant woman's belly....do they think they will have good luck??

 

[Maleficent13]

You could also reply that since the aliens impregnated you during an abduction, you're just hoping it's human.

Best one yet!!! I'm filing this away for future reference.

 

[A4Disney]

OK, here's the deal. I'm pregnant with our 3rd child. DH and I already have 2 great boys, and as with my previous 2 pregnancies we will not find out the gender of this baby until it is born. What is driving me nuts is when we tell people we are pregnant again, we are getting all these rude comments! Things like "We are praying you have a girl", "God, I hope it's not another boy!", and "So, trying for a girl?". DH thinks I am being too sensitive, and maybe I am, but give me a break! I can't control what we are having, we have always wanted 3 kids no matter what, and yes I would be thrilled if it were another boy. I'm definately hormonal so I'm looking for some comebacks that might make people think twice before saying something dumb.

Anyone ever gone through this?

I didn't go through it but I know people who did.You should say "actually I'm so good with boys another one would be wonderful."Or "a girl would be nice but I love the idea of 3 little boys"....

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

The boys are hoping it's a dog!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

HA! I just read the thread....those are good..especially the alien..

I was hoping that the OP would get it as a joke!

 

[kimisabella]

My dsis just had her second baby a couple of months ago - her sons are 15 months apart, so when she was pregnant and had her first son w/her people would say, I hope your having a girl, ect.... She would say matter of factly, oh it's a boy, that's nothing, I've got 4 more at home... That would shut people up!! The funny part is she's 29 but looks like she's 18.

 

[bigolive9]

Also.......why do complete strangers want to touch/rub a pregnant woman's belly....do they think they will have good luck??

I agree 100%. We are wanting to get pregnant this year, and I have already told my husband that I do not want anyone touching my belly without asking. I like to have my space, and I get very uncomfortable when people I don't know are too close to me physically. DH told me he will gladly punch anyone who touches me without asking I don't think that will be necessary.

 

[Minnie824]

From Simon on American Idol last night:
"You're a waste of my time, I'm bored, and thats it."

 

[Skywalker]

You know, it's been my experience that it is really, really, really easy to offend some pregnant women. So much so that I often totally ignore the pregnancies of coworkers or others I know that I am not close friends with because I feel like even the most casual of comments could cause offense.

I guess down deep though I just don't see how the question "What are you hoping for, a girl or a boy?" is offensive. I never found it offensive when I was pregnant with my dd. I just gave the honest answer--"We don't really care either way, we just want the baby to be healthy".

You know, I agree with you.

Why take offence?

Just take such comments as the sort of friendly banter they are intended to be and move on.

 

[Hillbeans]

That reminds me of when I was pregnant with my third...my son (4 at the time) was going through this phase where he loved the color black...clothes, crayons, everything (we were slightly worried, but he is fine now )

People would ask him what he hoped for and he would say "I hope the baby is black"...quite a few raised eyebrows and chuckles with that.

I just spit my iced tea out my nose...thanks for the laugh poohandwendy.

 

[MegaDisney]

OP here.

Thanks for the chuckles, everyone. I'll definately be keeping some of these in mind.

The people I get irritated with are not the ones who ask whether I'm hoping for a boy or girl. That's fine to wonder about. It's the ones who insinuate that if I have another boy, that my world is coming to an end. Why would anyone say "I hope it's not another boy!"? I mean really- why would you say that to someone who ALREADY has 2 boys? I'm sorry, but these are the people who I feel could use a whack with the change-the-attitude stick.

I also have a few family members who have to make a comment about it every time I see them, and it gets tiresome. Trust me, I haven't said anything mean or rude back, but it's getting to the point that I feel that they need to know that the comments about God forbid having another boy need to stop. Yes, I know I could just be polite and say "Thank you for your concern, but we are happy with our 2 boys and would love a third". But then I start feeling hormonal again and just want to get in a little dig, ya know? It doesn't make me a bad person, just someone sick of hearing the same ridiculous statements all the time.

 

[KimR]

I understand where you are coming from. I have 3 girls and would occasionally get those same comments. Most of the time I'd just explain how happy I was with my two girls and that I'd be thrilled with another. However, there was a cashier at Kroger who really made my blood boil. I was with my 22 DDs, obviously pregnant, and the cashier made a comment along the lines of 'oh, i bet you are hoping for a boy'. When I explained that no, we really didn't care one way or the other, she wasn't having any of it. She went on to assure me that no matter what men say, deep down they REALLY want a son...on and on with my 2 DDs listening on. I was furious!

This was the same cashier who always had to comment on the items I was purchasing, asking personal questions and telling me about her life as well. As soon as we left the store, I assured my DDs that their Daddy was thrilled to have 2 girls and never once felt sad that he didn't have son. And in the future, I made it a point to avoid that cashier's line.

 

[roque]

Two wrongs don't make a right if you are looking at it as being rude. IMHO I think you're just being overly sensitive about it.

How about "We're happy with whatever God gives us. We do not know."

agree