I may be pregnant....BUT...

[talulabelle]

I agree that the rude, invasive questions people ask are certainly not called-for. People should really learn to censor their questions. I also agree that people should never touch any part of your body without permission. That's just creepy.
But "When are you due?" and "what are you having?" ???
Seriously, I understand that it can get tiring to answer the same questions over and over, but as others have said, babies are an exciting thing for most people, and most are just trying to share that excitement with you. It's just part of being pregnant, and you don't really have to endure it for all that long...

As one other poster commented, I suppose the next time I see a pregnant woman, I'll assume that she has absolutely no interest in talking about her pregnacy. I'll keep my mouth shut, and walk the other way so as not to offend her with my excitement.

I'm all ok with "when are you do?", "What are you having?", and "Will you find out what you are having" That is just normal interest in what is going on in my life and not too personal. I like talking about my baby and pregnancy. But "was this planned?", "are you crazy?", "you do know about birth control don't you?", way over the line.

 

[staley7580]

Oh yes... WHen I was pregnant with my twins, I looked about full term by the time I was 20 weeks. When people would ask when I was due... the looks I got when I said it wasnt for a few months! Am I having a boy or a girl?? One of each! I was told before I got pregnant with my twins that I couldnt have any more babies. I had just miscarried at 14 weeks.. and we decided not to have fertility treatments. The fact that I got pregnant with not just one, but TWO babies about 4 months after the miscarriage.. A freaking miracle! So when we were at Subway and the girl helping us said she would kill herself if she found out she was having twins.. I lost my mind! Are you kidding me?? HELLO!! What a thing to say. We were thrilled.. Once the shock wore off of course.. I dont know how many times I got the better you than me thing.. I think so too.. thank you very much! Now we have my husbands 17yo sister living with us, so we have 5 kids. My days are long, I dont sleep much, and I am stressed out. But I love every single one of these kids very much. Even my sister in law... because now she IS one of my kids.

I did get a little peeved at the high school yesterday though.. I am 29, do I really look old enough to have a 17yo?? But the looks we get when we have all our kids when we are out! SHEESH! Or the looks of the people who pass us on the road counting the little Disney folks we have on our car.. YEs.. Family of seven, right here!

 

[mickey&minniealways]

I'm surprised that this one bothers you. After all, they are asking what your desire is. I know that when people asked us what sex we wanted our kids to be our answer was always that it didn't matter as long as the baby was healthy. That is to say we desired the baby to be healthy.

This does not suggest that we would not love the baby if it was not healthy any more than we would have loved a child of one sex even if we preferred to have a child of the other.

No it doesn't sugges that you wouldn't love it if it was a certain sex. What bugs me is when they say as long as its healthy. As a mother of 2 dissabled children this bothers the @#$% out of me.

I just had to rant about that one.

 

[sbell111]

No it doesn't sugges that you wouldn't love it if it was a certain sex. What bugs me is when they say as long as its healthy. As a mother of 2 dissabled children this bothers the @#$% out of me.

I just had to rant about that one.

I think that it's possible that you are projecting something into the statement that isn't there.

 

[esbrick]

No it doesn't sugges that you wouldn't love it if it was a certain sex. What bugs me is when they say as long as its healthy. As a mother of 2 dissabled children this bothers the @#$% out of me.

I just had to rant about that one.

I think that it's possible that you are projecting something into the statement that isn't there.

I would never assume to understand someone else’s reaction to something, especially if I have never been in their situation. Some statements can irk people based on their personal experience. You may not understand the reaction but it really isn't your place to dismiss it or say it is not warranted. Just sayin. . .

 

[ChrizJen]

I'm all ok with "when are you do?", "What are you having?", and "Will you find out what you are having" That is just normal interest in what is going on in my life and not too personal. I like talking about my baby and pregnancy. But "was this planned?", "are you crazy?", "you do know about birth control don't you?", way over the line.

Oh definitely!! Those are certainly in the RUDE category, and I don't think I would even honor those kinds of questions with a response! People really don't think before they speak. It's insane!!
I definitely see where you're coming from. It's a bit different, but I get all sorts of rude, thoughtless comments about being a foster parent. People just don't think about how their words can affect others.

 

[dogluva]

I so agree with the bolded part. After reading so many of these replies I started vowing to turn around and walk the other way whenever I saw a pregnant woman. It seems there is nothing I can say that she won't take offense to so why even bother talking to her?

On the bright side, I've known several co-workers and friends who've been pregnant and they seem to understand that I, as someone who's never had kids, may be uncomfortable trying to word my questions/conversation in a way that won't seem intentionally offensive. They don't seem to be offended, anyway. Maybe they're just nice to my face and go onto a message board when they get home and complain about that rude person at work. Who knows?

My first reaction will always one of joy for you and your DH. But if I ask you if it's twins or a single, it's not because I'm being rude...it's because I truly don't know. OR maybe I'm making conversation about the blessed event and that's just one of my general "go to" questions right up there with "Do you know it's gender yet?"

I never touch another person, though. I don't like to be touched by other people so I return the favor. At least no one will be complaining about me doing that.

I think the pregant stories are overdramatic, IMO. Like I said, I have had six and never had anyone touch my stomach. If they asked about the pregancy I was happy to answer. Even when I had to tell them that I was having my Sixth child (all singles). So I guess I don't get what the fuss is about. I also don't think seven years has made people more "brazen". Enjoy your pregnancies and don't let the small stuff ruin it. It will be over soon enough.