I just realized last night....

[Cruise04]

the incredible impact that my mom's death has had on my daughter. My mom passed away 18 months ago from breast cancer and I have taken a huge step in making sure my health is checked on. I go to annual visits and ask all the questions I feel I need to have answers on.

I have a huge family history of diabetes; stroke; heart disease (congestive heart failure and valve leaks as well); cancer-breast, colon, lung; high blood pressure. I had an annual physical last week and the doc wanted me to have a full blown blood workup to check everything that could be checked. So, of course, it's a fasting one and I was starving last night. When my daughter asked why I told her I couldn't eat because I had blood tests tomorrow. She immediately stated - Why, what's wrong. Why are you getting blood tests. - and I didn't even think what would come to her mind first. My mom had to have constant blood work done to check her blood counts - moreso the second time around.

Isn't it amazing the things that you don't see people's reactions to until much later than you thought you would. I just never thought about it until last night.

 

[wendyl]

Sending hugs to you and your DD

 

[Mishetta]

I can certainly relate to your story. My oldest DS is 8 y/o & about a month ago, I finally went through one of my Mom's purses to clean it out & found her favorite tube of lipstick. I just put it on my dresser. My DS spotted it that evening & asked where I got it. I told him it was from his Meme's purse. He picked it up ever so gently & just squeezed it in his hand for a full minute before putting it back down. That was the first time I really saw any emotion coming from him & it's been 9 months since my Mom passed on. Funny (like you said) how all of a sudden, something clicks & we see how they have been affected.

So sorry about your Mom. There is no one like Mom, is there?

 

[Cruise04]

Nope there isn't Mishetta!!!! HUGS to you too! And my dd is 14, it just still amazes me.

I think this has all come about with all the Mother's Day hype. It has for me. I keep going back to the day she passed and the events that happened. Sometimes that's my way of grieving - going back to what happened. It happens less and less but usually around significant times.

 

[Princess'Mom2]

My DH suffered a stroke 5 years ago when our DD was 4. DH has made remarkable recovery, but his speech was greatly affected and his thought process is not what it used to be.

DD seemed to deal with everything quite well -- when she was learning her ABC's, DH was right there with her relearning them himself -- they used to do "homework" together.

To get on with this posting.....whenever I so much as sneeze or cough, DD asks if I am okay and if I will be "all right". She used to asked "when will daddy be okay again" and we've had to explain to her that daddy will never be the way he once was, but we are very thankful he is as well as he is now.

Kids seem to absorb so much more than they let on at times....and I do try to protect her by not complaining about a back ache or cold -- just so she doesn't get worried something will happen to mommy.

We took DD to WDW about six months before DH's stroke -- we're going back in 8 weeks and we can't wait!