I just needed to talk about this

[lizanne]

I have an adult son (31) who still lives at home. He suffers from depression and anxiety. He was out of work for the past 3 1/2 years, originally because he was laid-off and couldn't find anything, then he just got lazy, and then the depression took over.

Through a series of events over the last year, some good some bad, things changed. He seems to be on correct medication now and he found a job last month.

The entire time he was out of work he was able to pay for a car he started leasing one month prior to losing his previous job. Six months ago, when his lease was up, he was able to get an extension on the lease and kept up with the payments because he knew he would need a car when he got a job. Well the lease extension is up the end of April, so he called to get it extended again and was told they've changed their policy and are no longer extending any leases. So now he has a job and soon will have no car. He doesn't make a lot of money and has only been working for a month so I can't see anyone giving him a loan to buy a car and I'm not in a position to cosign.

I'm not sure why I'm writing this, I think I just want to ask for prayers that things work out for him and that the severe depression doesn't creep back in.

Thanks for listening

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

(((hugs)))

 

[happygirl]

I have an adult son (31) who still lives at home. He suffers from depression and anxiety. He was out of work for the past 3 1/2 years, originally because he was laid-off and couldn't find anything, then he just got lazy, and then the depression took over.

Through a series of events over the last year, some good some bad, things changed. He seems to be on correct medication now and he found a job last month.

The entire time he was out of work he was able to pay for a car he started leasing one month prior to losing his previous job. Six months ago, when his lease was up, he was able to get an extension on the lease and kept up with the payments because he knew he would need a car when he got a job. Well the lease extension is up the end of April, so he called to get it extended again and was told they've changed their policy and are no longer extending any leases. So now he has a job and soon will have no car. He doesn't make a lot of money and has only been working for a month so I can't see anyone giving him a loan to buy a car and I'm not in a position to cosign.

I'm not sure why I'm writing this, I think I just want to ask for prayers that things work out for him and that the severe depression doesn't creep back in.

Thanks for listening

Is there anyway you can help him get a car? Praying for you all

 

[Hannathy]

Ahh I hope things work out for you and your son.

He should probably talk to the dealership he has had the lease thru. He has proven he is a good customer and has been on time and paid his leases. Based on that they may be willing to work with him to get a used car thru them and have them finance it. They "loaned" him money before and he has a job so they may be willing to do it based on his history with them.

 

[rie'smom]

I have an adult son (31) who still lives at home. He suffers from depression and anxiety. He was out of work for the past 3 1/2 years, originally because he was laid-off and couldn't find anything, then he just got lazy, and then the depression took over.

Through a series of events over the last year, some good some bad, things changed. He seems to be on correct medication now and he found a job last month.

The entire time he was out of work he was able to pay for a car he started leasing one month prior to losing his previous job. Six months ago, when his lease was up, he was able to get an extension on the lease and kept up with the payments because he knew he would need a car when he got a job. Well the lease extension is up the end of April, so he called to get it extended again and was told they've changed their policy and are no longer extending any leases. So now he has a job and soon will have no car. He doesn't make a lot of money and has only been working for a month so I can't see anyone giving him a loan to buy a car and I'm not in a position to cosign.

I'm not sure why I'm writing this, I think I just want to ask for prayers that things work out for him and that the severe depression doesn't creep back in.

Thanks for listening

Prayers and .

 

[KiKi Mouse]

We never stop worrying about our kids no matter what age they are

Hugs mama. Must be so tough to see your child go through depression.


Good thing is he does have a job. Is there another means of transportation if he is not able to keep the car?

 

[JessicaR]

Prayers for you and he that it all works out. You sounds like a wondeful caring mother.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Ahh I hope things work out for you and your son.

He should probably talk to the dealership he has had the lease thru. He has proven he is a good customer and has been on time and paid his leases. Based on that they may be willing to work with him to get a used car thru them and have them finance it. They "loaned" him money before and he has a job so they may be willing to do it based on his history with them.

That sounds like the best idea, good luck, OP.

 

[cm8]

 

[kathie859]

Has he asked the purchase price of the car? It may have a decent residual value and since he's always paid on time he may be able to get financing. If the car's in good shape, it may be worth a try.

Good luck.....

 

[starrzone]

I am the female version of your son; I'm even almost exactly the same age. Depression, PLUS anxiety, plain SUCKS. Thank you for being such a great mom to him .

 

[mlittig]

Good luck

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP,

Maybe if your son stops by the dealership, in person, they can figure out a way for him to keep the car.

TC

 

[minniecarousel]

I wouldn't so sure that the same dealership - or another one - won't let him finance a car. He should check.

But, it's tough being a mom, isn't it. It must be tough to see your child go through the pain of depression. Hang in there.

 

[cabanafrau]

I don't have anything to offer but . I just couldn't read what came pouring out of your heart and say nothing. I'm praying for your son.

 

[MickeysMommy]

 

[tlbwriter]

One more good reason not to lease a car. I hope things work out for him.

 

[horseshowmom]

He should have good credit based on the fact that he's made his payments (I don't know anything about leasing, but I'm assuming it impacts credit scores). It can't hurt to talk to someone at the dealership. You never know.

I completely understand your concern about the increased risk for the return of the depression under these new circumstances. I wish you and your son the best...

 

[Pakey]

I'm sending pixie dust that everything works out. It's heartbreaking to watch our children suffer.

 

[shortbun]

I agree that the dealership where he leased before is his best bet. So, they don't 'renew' leases. Can they not, based on his past lease agreement, write him a new lease? Maybe he can find a used car. Lots of used cars out there. My husband found a great truck through CarMax for a good price. We paid cash but they do have financing.