I just need to vent a little, and maybe a hug

[Sonya]

I'm having a stressful week. My babysitter, also a good friend, lost her evening job and has to get another. She won't be able to care for Sam any more. So I have to find a new place for Sam in a week. All of my leads have turned into dead ends. No one wants a new baby for a month only. No one has room right now. No one knows anyone they would trust. It's been a week full of tears. It's bad enough I have to leave him at all!

Then DH and I had a disagreement over parenting styles. That's a nice little strain on an already stressful time.

Plus I'm trying to wean myself off prozac for my post partum depression I had, I really feel I'm over it and ready to be off any meds. This is the last week! Yea! Of course I'm scared that it will come back but I feel like I'm in a much better place now.

And then there is the caffeine addiction....

So now it's Friday night, DS is in bed, DH is downstairs hiding from me, and I'm here talking to you all. (just 300,000 of my closest friends and lurkers) I think I may have found a solution for day care but I'm not 100% sure.

But at least I didn't have as bad a day as my friend who teaches in the same building as me. She told a kid that he couldn't leave to go to the bathroom, he didn't have any passes out of her class left, and there were only 10 minutes left. He could wait. He grabbed the trash can, went to the back of the room and proceeded to relieve himself!

 

[tiggersmom2]

Bless your heart. Here's a hug!

 

[Serena]

Wow!!!

 

[Jolie C]

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

Gotta love the Dis, don't know you, but I can hug you!

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Oh dear, you've had a rough week for sure! *tons of hugs*

I hope you find that sitter......finding one can sure be tough sometimes.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

Here's hoping for good luck on the sitter front. It is so hard to find someone you can trust with your treasure. I am so very lucky to have my mom able to watch usually when we need a sitter. Hugs to you!

 

[catsrule]

You need a Kaki Gori and a .

 

[shortbun]

Gee, I hope you find solutions to ALL the issues at hand!
Tell your husband to take a number.


sorry your friend had the potty incident but it's akin to
the instructions my son has if anyone refuses him the
right to go to the bathroom


celebrate, it's the weekend!!!

 

[JetMom]

Keep your chin up, Sweetie. Things are bound to get better!

 

[wdw4us]

your friend is lucky, when I was in 2nd grade and we were getting ready to leave for lunch I had to "go" real bad. Sister G would not let me leave, I had to say prayers. Well during prayers, I let "GO" all over the floor. She had a nice mess to clean and I had wet tights to walk home in at lunch.

denise

 

[Nutsy]

Gosh, what a dilema Wish I lived way closer....I'd look after him for you till you could find something else.

 

[Talking Hands]

Originally posted by Sonya
But at least I didn't have as bad a day as my friend who teaches in the same building as me. She told a kid that he couldn't leave to go to the bathroom, he didn't have any passes out of her class left, and there were only 10 minutes left. He could wait. He grabbed the trash can, went to the back of the room and proceeded to relieve himself!

Sorry you are having a rough time Sonya.
I hope she wrote that student up. I've had a few strange ones lately. Dropping their pants in class. I've given up saying anything. Just pull out a SCAM sheet and write them up and let admin deal with htem.

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, I am not sure why Admin would have to"deal with" a student who was refused the right to go to the bathroom, and chose to deal with it in some other manner rather than going on the floor or in his pants, but maybe I'm the idiot.

As far as your babysitter thing, that stinks, when you have a good thing going and it changes. Good luck...hope the person you think you've found works out.

As far as DH and your differing parenting styles...it's OK to have differing styles...no two people are alike...but you both must support each other in what you do. Discuss it later, work it out later...whatever. But in front of your child, you must present a united front. Kids are smart, and if he knows you disagree, he'll play you against each other.

 

[Mermaid02]

I hope you find a good place for Sam.

As far as the child relieving himself.... guess he really had to go. My son was not allowed to go to the bathroom in kindergarten during gym class and he wet his pants. I have NEVER been so angry at a teacher in my life.

 

[joshsmom]

Hang in there. Just remember, if you ever need to talk, the DIS is always open!!!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Sorry you had such a rough week Sonya. Daycare issues can stink!

That is a tough situation for any teacher. Nobody wants to refuse a child the right to use the restroom. But there are also some students who abuse the bathroom pass as a means to get out of class. I imagine that is frustrating and disruptive for your friend.

 

[Microcell]

If you want to tell me where abouts in KC you live I may have some ideas. Are you talking someone's house or a daycare center? I can tell you ones to avoid, that is for sure. Is it an all day thing? I know of a few places in Johnson County that I think are worth checking out. I have some ideas for Lee's Summit of course- If you live near here at all yo may want to check Boone Preschool- talk to Patty Boone- she is really great. They teach a cirriculum and were trying to get an all day situation going for two and up but were thinking about younger. That was a year ago when my DD was in 4 year old class in the preschool part.The teachers are all great there and treat even the all day people like it is school. They are reasonable too. I liked that so much my DS will go next year! I also have talked to other moms and some church daycare providers so I have some knowledge. I was also involved with Early Childhood education at KU. PM me if you want. I am very sensitive about some of the daycares here so I assure you I will not steer you wrong!!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Sorry to hear all that, Sonya, hoping all improves, as I am sure it will, always does.

As for the youngster in class, a real shame all around; too bad for the kid, embarrassed I am sure, but when you have to go, you have to go, permission or not. And I know the rules the teacher was probably following too. A for both.

 

[Sonya]

That "youngster" was 16 years old and knows better. Our school was in lock-down mode and the principal came on and said NO ONE could leave the classroom for any reason. They were having the drug dogs come in to search and didn't want anyone to run out and try to remove anything from their lockers. The student in question didn't need to go until the principal said he couldn't leave. His fellow students were egging him to to use the trash can so he did it on their dare.

Please don't make this into a debate about drug searches in the schools.

The lock down lasted 15 minutes. As I said earlier he used the trash can with 10 minutes of class left. He knew what he was doing and it is the teacher's belief that the kid did it to be funny, not b/c he couldn't hold it.

That you all for your hugs. In the light of day things look much better. I'm going to call a lady today about taking care of Sam. I'm really hoping this works out!