I just need a minute to VENT...

[Corpsebride]

Yesterday was a friends wedding that I was in, that I took care of her for 3 months last year when she was really sick (45 min each way to and from her house) All while mourning the death of my very best friend of 15 years who passed about 12 days before bridezilla needed me. Not once did she ask how I was.) So obviously the day before was the rehersal dinner. A month ago was the bridal I hosted and cooked for 9 hours and was treated like garbage by the bride. we got into it. she never even apologized. . Last sunday was the bachlorette party, unfortunatly I had food poisoning all week and couldnt go. The day of the rehersal dinner, we were late because my DF's boss had a heart attack and was in the hospital. When we got to the rehersal, just in time, she ripped me a new one in front of about 20 people. I just walked away.People acutally put their heads down because no one knew what to say. during the whole rehersal and dinner she wouldnt even look at me or talk to me. The day of the wedding she shunned me all day, or just treated me like garbage , yelling at me and berating me. She wouldnt even let me say godbye. she just shoved me away. So, upon leaving, I changed back into my street clothes and left the brides maid dress , the shoes and the necklace in the dressing room as a message of "I get it".But she loudly stated while hugging another brides maid how glad she was that "other people" knew how important this was to be ontime, but only the one she was hugging was on time. Like I planned my DF boss to have a heart attack on the rehersal day. How selfish of us. Needless to say, there has been no apology, and she will no longer be welcome in or at my wedding. I have decided to end this friendship. It was so embarrassing when strangers like the make up artist and the food servers who witness her treatment of me , came up to me on the side to ask how I was. I asked the other brides maids what they thought and said that "yes, the bride was awful but being particulary awful to me" . No one knew why. I am mad and sad, I thought this person was my friend. I know this part is shallow, but she didnt have fun at all. All day at her wedding all she did was gripe and moan about "this is wrong or that didnt work out etc." Its like she didnt even notice that there were 300 people around who loved her and were happy for her and that she paid about 2000- and her family covered the rest, about 25,000-. I have to rant about one more part. My wedding will be at disneyland on oct. 31, 2008 and my favorite color is pink. She HATES pink and HATES Disneyland. So naturally she berated me about my love of pink and the mouse all day yesterday. She turned into a complete psycho crazy awful person since she had been planning this wedding. I even drove her around to taste cakes!!! GRRR. I am remembering so much that I did for her. I cant believe I let some one treat me like this.
I vow, in front of all of you, I will never ever treat my brides maids or anyone else the way she did. I dont anyways, I am very careful about being very polite. I have been having a blast planning my wedding. I just dont understand how someone could treat people so badly.
WHEW! Thanks for letting me get that out. So fellow future brides, have fun, things go wrong but life isnt perfect. We only have so many days on this earth, so use them wisely and remember that others have only so many days too, so dont make them feel like they wasted a day with you! Because, I wish I could have these days back from this bridezillas wedding nightmare.
Thanks for the Vent!! I needed it.

 

[Cinderella22]

Wow--that is a nightmare. I'm sorry you had to go through all of that.

You need a 'friend' that treats you like that anyway,

Maggie

 

[jodeeluvsdisney]

No one deserves to be treated like that! I am so sorry about everything that happened. Don't let it at all spoil your planning. I know your wedding will be a happy day with happy bridesmaids, since you will never treat them that way!

Its absolutely good for you to vent in a safe zone like this! We are always here to listen to the good and the bad! Happy planning!

 

[wendy46001]

WOW, no one should be treated like that and it especially hurts when its from someone we consider a friend...forget about her and have fun planning your own wedding…dont let someone else’s selfish behavior ruin your plans....sorry again that you had to go through all that….

 

[Corpsebride]

I love this board! Thank you so much everyone. I was so upset. I think I may be sad for a while, you know it takes time to get over a "break up" but I have this sence of relief too. I look back and think of all the rude things she said to me in the last 2 days that are just deal breakers when it comes to friendship. I dont treat people like that, and I am glad I dont.
And YES! I am having a great time planning with my DF. He gets really into it too. Which is wonderful. Thanks for all the kind words everyone, I feel better now.

 

[dmslush]

Everyone is right, no one deserves to be treated like that. I am so headstrong that I would have no problem walking off right in the middle of the wedding a bride was treating me that way.

 

[Glorydaz]

it's a shame you had to feel like that - the real loser here is her because she has lost a friend who would do almost anything for her. and I can tell you, that's priceless!! looking forward to hearing about all your plans!

Michelle

 

[Princess_Melanie]

That's awful - you have my sympathy 100% - I know it's hard for brides sometimes but some are worse than others!! One of my (ex) best friends got married in 2005 and it was hell from the engagement till I took off the maid of honour dress at the end of the wedding day....but at least I had the other main bridesmaid to talk to - she lost her Aunt to Cancer a week before the wedding, and the sunday before the wedding we had the church rehursal and she couldn't make it - she had been in the hospice for the last 3 days with her Aunt not sleeping or eating etc until she passsed away....the bride was very curt and nasty to the other bridesmaid as it was "selfish of her to be so miserable and miss the rehursal"....I didn't know her Aunt had died till I contacted her to fill her in on the church stuff....oh and the bride told her not to mention her loss to anyone at the wedding - even though some people there really knew her well and heck she needed the support. I also made the 1st anniversary card for the bride when she asked me - I'd just had back surgery but spend hours working on it (and it was really uncomfortable for me with all the stitches I prob shouldn't have done it...) and didnt even get a thank you.

I have let the friendship drift away - I am lucky enough to be very rich in very good, dear friends that love me for who I am, what I believe in and they are the people you can call friends.

Dont worry about the bride you left behind - have a blast at your wedding (I love Pink and Disney too so I love your theme lol!!) and forget about hers!!

 

[M&M126]

I'm really sorry that she treated you that way. It makes me sick to think some people treat others that way...especially "friends." I really hope for her sake she snaps out of it soon. You cant go around this world treating people that way.

I'm glad you're ending the friendship. It will only help you in the long run. Good luck with everything and I hope that you never have to encounter another "friend" like that again!

 

[AbbyPan]

wow- girls I just want to say that I thought I was the only one who has had to let a friendship drift away because of something similar. My "friend" who I spent the whole year before her wedding hanging out with, doesn't need me anymore and not only has she not bothered to speak with me since her wedding, she's badmouthed my whole planning. I hear comments from random people about my dftw.

Isn't it sad? you feel so betrayed! So I totally understand what you are saying. i'm not inviting her to my wedding and you shouldn't have anyone at your wedding that doesn't truly appreciate you either. Just not worth the fuss really.

you are a great friend!!! you put up with all that and now you have a whole group of friends who ABSOLUTELY support you!!! (here )
keep us posted with everything!

 

[Ember]

Wow. Seriously, wow. I was never treated that badly by my friend, but I can kind of relate. I paid for the trip to Disney World for my bridal party. Everyone was so thankful except for my best friend. She has yet to say thank you for the trip, when I tried to book the flights for her she actually told me that her and her finance don't fly the airline I chose (even though I was paying for it), she gave my mum the wrong measurements for the dress two weeks before the wedding so that we actually had to make a second dress which she didn't like and complained about (my mum was making the dresses and she just never gave us her measurements! My poor mother was still hand sewing the morning of my wedding!!)... She also proceeded to talk all about her wedding (which was two months later) while at my wedding! ARRGGHH!

Her wedding is on the 21st and I admit I'm still pretty annoyed at her. She is behaving like a selfish brat. I am trying to get over it so that I can be happy for her, but I'm not sure how successful I'll be...

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

oh my gosh!!! what a bridezilla!!!!

I would have KILLED her, but I respect you , BIG TIME, for keeping it together & cool!!

Isnt it amazing how some people think they are above everyone else!!

I had a friend that I "terminated" with. Knew her since 6th grade. After I woke up to her distructive behavior...i never talked to her again! My life is better...trust me!!

Im sorry you have to go thru all this.....what a #*%(*^@

Im glad your spirits are still high about your DFTW!!!

Stick with us & we are always here for you!!!

 

[cinderella0712]

I totally agree with everyone. I have been cruising the posts for a few weeks today is my first day replying. I must say that just reading the many posts has helped me during some difficult times and as well as the creative ideas and advice.

 

[AbbyPan]

I totally agree with everyone. I have been cruising the posts for a few weeks today is my first day replying. I must say that just reading the many posts has helped me during some difficult times and as well as the creative ideas and advice.

wow! you're sooo close. Have a wonderful time! ...and we'd love to see some pics

 

[JackieSparrow]

So fellow future brides, have fun, things go wrong but life isnt perfect. We only have so many days on this earth, so use them wisely and remember that others have only so many days too, so dont make them feel like they wasted a day with you!

Well put!!!

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this. It is so unfortunate when something has to be this extreme, but sometimes that's what it takes to see how people really are! Please keep up posted, you know we are here to listen.