I have had it with my son!

[binny]

ARRGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

DS's math teacher just called and wanted to let me know that DS had an "issue" today.

They had a quiz as they do every Friday and as she was collecting them she noticed that he didnt turn one in. She called him over and asked him why he didnt take the quiz. He said he forgot his pencil :angry: She said "so instead of asking me for a pencil, which I would have given you, you chose to take a zero on this test." to which he said "Yep."

I am SO angry. WTH am I going to go with this kid???

He is intelligent and capable he is just SO unprepared!! What did I do wrong? Why cant I make him understand this????

 

[ckay87]

How old is he?

 

[mrsv98]

ARRGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

DS's math teacher just called and wanted to let me know that DS had an "issue" today.

They had a quiz as they do every Friday and as she was collecting them she noticed that he didnt turn one in. She called him over and asked him why he didnt take the quiz. He said he forgot his pencil :angry: She said "so instead of asking me for a pencil, which I would have given you, you chose to take a zero on this test." to which he said "Yep."

I am SO angry. WTH am I going to go with this kid???

He is intelligent and capable he is just SO unprepared!! What did I do wrong? Why cant I make him understand this????

He's 11 right? You didn't do anything wrong, this is very common. Do you have consequences for poor grades on a report card? I would let the teacher deal with it, make him take his lumps (poor grade) try not to get into a power struggle about it. He needs to learn there are consequences to his actions and getting busted at school is one of them.

I am already having some of these issues with DD. She is 6.5 yo and in 1st grade. One of her grades is based on at home reading with a minimum pf
90/week. There are nights when she gives me a hard time about reading (she is a very good reader, she just doesn't like to be told to read). I always say, fine, then you can explain to Mrs. J why you don't have enough minutes this week. That way, I am not being the "baddie" and it stays between DD and her teacher.

Just an idea, good luck. I have great ideas now, come back in 5 or 6 years when DD is an adolescent, I may be singing a different tune!

 

[miss missy]

Natural conquences are a good thing. You didn't do anything wrong, they just haven't learned cause and effect yet. He'll get it!

 

[1Prince2Princesses]

Kids are so great at this age, aren't they? I ask myself regularly what I am doing wrong with my son (12). Then I think back to my own childhood and know it's not me. Hang in there. We'll survive adolescence.

 

[binny]

Thank you. I appreciate the support. Yes he is 11


Its the attitude thing that Im angry about even if he had done all of that and then when confronted, said something like " I know Im sorry I should have asked for a pencil" I would be angry but at least he would have seen that he had done something wrong and apologized for it! But the YEP. just puts me over the edge.

I have to go and get him in a few minutes and Im going to get his side ofthe story and if he even tried to weasel out this one my response will be " welcome to 30 days of heck. Im mom and I will be your tour guide"

 

[pyrxtc]

Well I would let him keep the zero grade AND make him do the test anyways!! that way he sees what hapens. He can't just skip it and take the zero. Maybe he can miss recess on Monday and take it then ??

 

[JunieJay]

Knucklehead. I got one at home just like him. When you figure out what to do about it, let me know.

 

[Kitty 34]

Gosh Binny, if you were from Michigan I would have said one of my Math student parents was a DISer!!

I had to call a parent today on her son, not behavior just the fact that he didn't turn in an assignment worth enough pts that it really lowered his grade. She's a very supportive parent and she and I were getting different "stories" from the young man about this assignment but both of us decided it just never got done.

Well by the end of the day and I guess a phone call from her to her son, I had the assignment in my hand as the young man left for the bus. I graded it and sent Mom a happy e-mail to enjoy the weekend.

I told her that when my boys went through Jr Hi that's when I started dyeing my hair!!!

 

[hydster]

I have a very soon to be 12 year old too and honestly I can't decide if he or my overly dramatic 13 year old daughter is more of pain in the rump!

I think I'd ask the teacher to give him the zero and keep him in from recess *if they have that there* and re-take the test but get no credit for it. Eventually it will sink in *or at least that is the hope we all have* but hang in there. Somehow everyone makes it through the "teen" years and mutter under your breath...I hope when you have kids they drive you this insane!

 

[minnieandme]

Does he have a crush on a girl in his class? Maybe he was daydreaming. Maybe he decided to not take the test to see how far they can get away with. If only we can see what goes on in their little heads.

 

[java]

I am lol because as I read this I said I bet he is 11. My son(now almost 13) is just now coming out of the "I forgot" stage. Forgetfullness is part of the process I think. When I was feeling like he was the only one that would go to reading class without the book he was reading I found out that each and every other boy did the exact same thing. I can tell you it gets better. I agree let him get the 0 and then this weekend he can do some extra credit math work from you- even if he doesn't get credit for it. Let him know that his attitude will have consequences. It won't work right away- but after a year and a half it finally has hit home! His grades are all right back where they used to be- Must be the testosterone? Men how do you get on with all that junk? don't talk to me about pms......

 

[mytwotinks]

Just an idea, good luck. I have great ideas now, come back in 5 or 6 years when DD is an adolescent, I may be singing a different tune!

You sound like me! When I hear people talk about their teenager problems, I think I know just how I'd handle it. Ask me what to do with my dd9 though and I am totally lost! parenting is a scarry thing!

 

[binny]

well I gave him a chance to come clean and he didnt

He lied right to my face.



i asked him how his test went today and he said they didnt have one. I said didnt you have a quiz in math? He said nope not today.
I said thats odd I spoke to your math teacher and he got ghastly pale and said You did?

I said welcome to 30 days of hell, I am your mother and will be your tour guide.


Yeah now he is REALLY in for it.

And he has only delt with one parent so far DH hasnt come home yet and he knows allthe details as well.

It doesnt pay well to lie to your mother.

 

[sweet angel]

All I can say is good luck and hold on tight for the teen years. It ain't pretty.

 

[Sinderelli]

I said welcome to 30 days of hell, I am your mother and will be your tour guide.

I gotta use this line!!!

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

I feel for you.

I think it's the age. My older dd is 11 1/2 and she is making me crazy. DH and I just went to the school and met with her team of teachers. They all think she is lovely and great to have in class, but they note that she has "forgotten" to hand in assisgnments -- or they have been incomplete. We scheduled the appointment because we got her progress report to let us know how she was doing this semester and a few of her grades were down from the first marking period.

She conveniently forgets to write assignments in her planner -- or she can never remember thedue date for stuff. We are cracking down big time on her. The teachers are going to let me know next Friday if they see an improvement.

She wants to be in the school play and I told her that if there is no improvement then there will be no play for her.

 

[Cindy B]

My son is a mess when it comes to assignments as well. I can't tell you how many "missing" assignments we have had this year.

 

[cleo]

Gosh Binny, if you were from Michigan I would have said one of my Math student parents was a DISer!!

OMG, is MY son in your class??

Our 14 year old does the same thing. He does the work, he's got it in his backpack, he has it when he gets to class but somehow, mysteriously, it evaporates never to be seen again, certainly not by the teacher. Then he tells us he just 'forgot' to turn it in and doesn't know where it is.

Scream with me now...........................!!!!!

 

[binny]

OMG, is MY son in your class??

Our 14 year old does the same thing. He does the work, he's got it in his backpack, he has it when he gets to class but somehow, mysteriously, it evaporates never to be seen again, certainly not by the teacher. Then he tells us he just 'forgot' to turn it in and doesn't know where it is.

Scream with me now...........................!!!!!

OMG Mine TOO!!!!!!!!


WTHeck is that?????