I hate Mother's Day

[d.kurz]

I really dislike this holiday. First of all, I have my Mom over to dinner EVERY Sunday. She truly appreciates this. My Dad passed away 14 years ago. I have 4 other siblings in the area. Only one of them sees her on a semi-regular basis. Ingrates, but I love them all. She will see the semi-regular tomorrow for Mass and breakfast. The others have yet to come out of the woodwork.

I, too, am a mother. Still, my mother expects me to re-arrange my day and kowtow to her demands on mother's day. This makes me CRANKY. I know it's coming every year, the same thing.

Generally speaking, she's pretty demanding and a master manipulator. And generally speaking I don't let this bother me.

Then there's DH. He thinks we should go out to breakfast. I think restaurants should be avoided at all costs on Mother's day and Valentines Day. He will be working MD. Can't even give me an estimate on what time he will be home. He offered to pick up take out on his way home. This sounds great to me, but MY mother expects DINNER tomorrow. And she's really annoyed with me because I'm being non-commital.


I know I'm lucky she's still here. And I know I'm acting like a brat. And I'm not really looking for answers. I just want to know...

Does anyone else hate Mothers Day????

 

[Tony-NJ]

but I'd just tell MOM that "this is the plan". Maybe she'll understand. And yes you are lucky to have your MOM still with you.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

I sympathize, I understand, and I also don't like the day. Thankfully DD had an event at School yesterday that was very special to me. So I will cater to mom and mother in law tomorrow(who both don't realize I also am a mom). Actually I made lunch reservations for us tomorrow so I won't have to cook. DH will just have to pay. BUT, they will be the queens!

 

[minniecarousel]

I'm especially grateful for my Mom when I read stuff like this! My dear Mom lives with DH & I - so I see her every day! On Mother's Day, DH is taking me to see MY sons - 250 miles away. My siblings are entertaining mom for the day. She thinks that this is just fine! And, with 7 sibs - some are more attentive than others!
So - no, I don't hate Mother's Day - but it feels like a "Hallmark" day. I think that people should honor their mothers more than one day a year! d.kurz - I would tell Mom what you're willing to do: DH will be picking up dinner - we'll both be surprised!

 

[crs7568]

I feel your pain. It is hard to balance the mothers in your life and keep everyone, including yourself, happy. I just told my husband yesterday to remind me that when our girls grow up and become mothers the day is for them and not about me anymore. I hope that I will remember that. I also agree with you about restaurants on Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. I would rather cut off my right arm with a butter knife than deal with crowds and heavy volume, mass production food.

Enjoy your day!

 

[nativetxn]

I don't hate Mother's Day, yet. Since my mother was diagnosed with stomach cancer in December and has had a very difficult time with her radiation and living without her stomach, I intend to devote the day to her. I may not have her next year, I don't want to miss every chance to show her how much I love her right now.

She is doing quite well as far as the cancer is concerned. Sadly, she is starving to death. I'm hoping they can stop that quickly

My mother's mother was emotionally manipulative, so I know how you feel. I hope you can enjoy your own mother's day.

Katholyn

 

[Pooh93]

My mother has been gone since May of 1987, and I am working my tail off today trying to get things here in order to have MIL over tomorrow, or go to her house. Either way I'm sure us women will end up cooking. All I can hope for is that dd's grow up and want to have me around and maybe throw a meal or two my way!

 

[Meriweather]

I wish my mother was here to cater to

 

[MerryPoppins]

Let me start by saying how thrilled I am that I still have my mother around. However, I do feel pulled between her and my demanding MIL. It's always hard to fit everyone in, so what I want to do always gets left out.

We are off to Oklahoma City today to celebrate with MIL. DD's ballet recital is scheduled for Mother's Day evening, so that added an extra facet to the whole agenda this year. FIL is a stroke victim, so they won't be able to come to the recital and there is no way now to work both moms into the window after church and before warm ups. Sigh. We'll do Mother's Day with my mom after church tomorrow.

 

[Grog]

I think restaurants should be avoided at all costs on Mother's day and Valentines Day.

I can never understand why people want to eat out on Mother's Day (or Valentines or Easter... the three biggest "eat out" holidays). Having reservations at some quiet "out of the way" place is one thing, but I've driven by some of the restaurants around here that do Sunday brunch without reservations and the lines are coming out the door. I saw one place last year where the line went down the sidewalk and around the side of the building. No restaurant's food is that good. Even when you have a reservation, and don't have a long wait, the restaurant is usually too crowded to enjoy yourself. JMO

 

[poohbears5]

I dread Mothers day every year since the year i lost my mom it just leaves a empty pit and I hate those darn hallmark commericals .

 

[kayeandjim00]

I dread Mothers day every year since the year i lost my mom it just leaves a empty pit and I hate those darn hallmark commericals .

I'm with you poohbears5

Luckily I do have a wonderful mother in law but it's not the same.

 

[lilallybean]

Meriweather and poohbears5...First of all let me say that I really feel for you. I too lost my mom. It has been about 9 years now and I still cry when this day comes around. I don't know that I hate mothers day, I just hate that I end up trying to make it special for MIL when all I really want is MY mom! I know, I sound like some crybaby lil kid but I miss her. I do hate that everybody feels obligated to do something THIS day. What about all the others? I don't think there should be ONE day to prove that you love moms. I hate that it is all so commercialized.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

That is really what I don't like, the commercialism of it. What DD's class did yesterday was so much more special (luncheon, songs, books and corsages and powerpoint show for us) !
All I really want to do is take off for the beach for the day tomorrow, but the mom's would be offended. If my mom had not had such a bad year, we might have been brave enough to go for it and I could take her to lunch Monday. We did stuff like that growing up and her mom did not hold a grudge. Can't do that this year though. I hate all the running around! I think I feel like I have catered to my mom for the past year anyway. I will enjoy the little local steak place(best in town!) we have reservations for. We have the first seating too !

 

[dianeschlicht]

Mother's Day is definately on my "don't care for it" list too. My mom passed away 11 years ago. My DH was not taught how to plan for Mother's Day by his father, so he didn't teach our kids either. Ergo, my kids usually forget about it too. Granted, they are adults now, but it is nice to be remembered. DS is taking me to lunch on Monday for Mother's Day, and I am glad for that. For one thing, it is always nice to have one on one time with him. DD will forget completely.

 

[d.kurz]

Originally posted by lilallybean
I do hate that everybody feels obligated to do something THIS day. What about all the others? I don't think there should be ONE day to prove that you love moms. I hate that it is all so commercialized.

Well, I am glad to see that I'm not alone. And lilallybean said it....that's what I mean...and how I feel about it.

So sorry to all of you that have lost your moms.

Let's all try to make thae best of it, shall we??!!

 

[Buckalew]

I don't get to spend Mother's Day with my mom because she is always working at Dollywood that day. If our weather forecast was better I might think about driving up there to say 'hi')

I already gave her a small gift and a card as well as to my MIL. I don't hate the day, but I don't like it either. I think it sets people up for heartache all the way around.

To you all who have lost your moms, I'm sorry & I send hugs to each of you. I know it must be a very hard day.