I hate mean kids!!!!

[binny]

Binny- hugs to your DD. And luckily she has a friend that tried to stand up for her. Maybe the principal should be asked to ackowledge that for her friend?

Now, I may really be off base her, I have no practical experience here, just heresay from other I know. Would enrolling her in something like "tea kwon do" help? I seem to recall this happening to a co-workers daughter. I think the tae kwon do really helped her DD's overall self esteem, and gave her some "tools" to help her deal with the bullies. Again, I don't really know much about this, but I do know it is a very popular sport. Maybe someone on the DIS could help?

Thats a great idea, thanks

I thought that cheerleading would help to build her self confidence but I dont know.

 

[BrinxFam]

Tae Kwon Do is a great idea! We had a similiar situation with our dd throughout her early years in school even into jr. high years. She took tae kwon do when she was about 9 but was taught that she was never to use it unless she was backed into a corner. When she started the 8th grade the teacher did a lesson on talents or something and she was given the opportunity to show the class some of what she knew. Needless to say, most of them backed way off. There were a few that kept abusing her into the 9th grade but when she finally stood up for herself they backed off and wanted to know what her problem was. Now she has a great time at school. Sure there are still people that try to get under her skin but she deals with it in her own way, non violent that is. She has lots of new friends now so the mean ones don't matter as much anymore. I know it isn't much comfort but things will get better.
Hugs to your dd and you should really consider the Tae Kwon Do.

 

[binny]

Thanks, I will look into that

 

[Marseeya]

God, is there something in the air or is there a full moon??? So many kids are getting picked on this week.

to all of them.

I was picked on as a kid too, mostly in high school where I was tormented by groups of older kids. The only way I survived it was because I had a very nice group of friends. Had my parents shown me the least amount of support, the way the parents on this board are doing, my life would have been so much easier and I might have toughened up a lot sooner.

So, kudos to all your parents who stand behind your kids and protect them.

 

[Stitchfans]

That is so sad. I feel so bad for your DD. Seems like the timid kids are always the perfect targets.

 

[taximomfor4]

Poor Kaylee! I can so feel your pain, as the parent. My 2nd dd (7) is in second grade. She has some special needs that are really unknown to her classmates, and currently is not on an IEP. But due to whatever genetic syndrome she has, she is also small. She makes friends very easily, is very sensitive, and is actually quite popular. BUT she is a great target whenever her friends are not around. The bus stop, for example. Kids in first grade tease her because they are "bigger than the second grader." They tell her they are going to pick her up and put her into a trash can. They throw snowballs at her at the bus stop. They call her pants, coat, hat, mittens "baby stuff" because it is all little. (She wears size 5, and will be 8 in 3 1/2 months). I have been calling the principal and the transportation dept all school year, after trying to talk to the bus-stop kids myself. Nobody will help, because I can't get the kids real names (they lie to me). FINALLY, dh called since dd won't even GO to the bus stop anymore till the bus is coming. The principal brought the kids all together (how did she find out their names? Duh, she was just AVOIDING the issue). The kids apologized, missed the school party for valentines day, and apparently really felt bad. I think a lot of times, kids pick because they can. No other reason. They don't always have the empathy to realize the emotional toll they are causing their victim. I don't really believe that the kids involved in teasing my dd were completely clueless...they never make fun of her or throw snowballs at her on Wednesdays or Fridays...why??? ... because my KINDGERGARTEN ds is at the bus stop too, on those days. At least since the school meeting, it has all stopped. I don't have to run into the house to check on sleeping youngest dd, then run back outside to stand near bus stop to protect dd.

This got really long, sorry. I was just trying to commiserate and ended up venting. Anyway, I really think that many of these kids are not taught empathy. It is tough to put yourself in someone else's shoes...but I try to teach my kids to try it! Give your dd lots of hugs, and hopefully this will be her only experience with mean teasing!

 

[Maleficent13]

I bet they had a ring leader that instigated it.

Once I was out of school for a week (4th grade), and when I returned one of the mean girls had convinced the rest of the class not to speak to me. Not one person would talk to me for almost a full week. I was completely baffled.

Kids are awful.

 

[cactus]

yeah kids are awful, to be honest, I hate them.

I feel like Scrooge singing "I hate People...."

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

Kids can be so rotten. The one thing I always told my older kids is to never laugh or make fun of anyone!!!! Even now they will never make fun of someone or laugh at anyone. I would be the first one to kill them. A parent knows if they have a bully as a child. They probably think that they are standing up for themselves. They may even praise this behavior. I always say kids are what their parents make them. If kids get away with this in first grade that is a poor indication of what lies ahead. If I was the principle I would send letters home to thoses kids parents giving them a heads up on what has happened. (in first grade??) As a mom you never want a child to be hurt. I know I would be crazy. I would go to school and sit in that lunchroom. I wish you goodluck. Tell her to report anyone that looks at her wrong. Let those kids know that they will have trouble if they do anything. They usually have some fear of the teacher. You have to start something now because kids will only get worse. That is why I sometimes thought I would homeschool.

 

[mytwotinks]

It never fails to surprise me that parents today aren't teaching their children that other people's feelings matter. My 8yo dd is very sensitive and not at all prone to bullying, but we talk all of the time about how important it is to be kind to ALL of the kids in class. When she gets her feelings hurt by another child I always try to really use it as an opportunity to really get her to understand why it is soooooo important to be kind to others. When I hear her say something that might not be the best thing to say (all kids are kids!) I explain why it isn't o.k.

My point is....... I keep noticing that other parents don't think it is a big deal if their kid is being a little creep. I mean, why are we allowing kids to talk about their b-day parties in front of kids who aren't invited? Why are kids allowed to leave someone out of a "club" on the playground. These are things that I would not allow my dd to do, but I know lots of moms who don't think that they need to teach their kids to be kind. If you don't teach them as kids, I don't think I want to know them when they are adults!

 

[magicmirror]

HOW RUDE!!!!

And starting so young too, such a shame!

I hope these little deliquents got in big trouble at home, but, if they had proper home training, they probably wouldn't be acting that way at school. IMO Even young children can, and should be taught to respect others.

for Kaylee. (I love her name, very pretty)

 

[MBeds]

I'm sorry this happened to your daughter -

I hope the principle let the parents know what their kids did...

I hope both of you feel better...

 

[CathrynRose]

Stories like that make my blood stinkin' BOIL!!!

Geez - have schools learned NOTHING from the Columbine incident? Why isnt it pounded into kids that this in UNACCEPTABLE behavior?!?!? I'd be all for 'no tolerance' in cases like this.

Imagine going to work everyday and having things like this happen?? How nervous you'd be, scared, anxious... It's unaceptable!!! It wouldnt be tolerated there, and it should NOT be tolerated at a school.

Im so sorry for your daughter.

 

[kilee]

I am so sorry this is happening. We've been there time and time again w/ my ds. I can honestly say I cannot wait for his "school career" to be over. I hope today was a much better day for your little girl!!!

 

[allie&mattsmom]

Gosh darnit! That makes me sooo mad! What is it with kids (especially girls) being so mean! I'm so sorry for your little girl, and in first grade!

Stuff like this goes on all the time at my kids school, and what gets me is it's a Catholic school where all day they are talking about being an "Image of God", etc. Well, let me tell you, the majority of the girls in my DD's 5th grade class definitely do not present themselves like that.


Give your little girl a big hug.

 

[Pam]

yeah kids are awful, to be honest, I hate them.

I feel like Scrooge singing "I hate People...."

Nice sentiment.

Wow! You really bumped up an old post to express yourself, didn't you?!?

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Nice sentiment.

Wow! You really bumped up an old post to express yourself, didn't you?!?

I hate to hear stories like that.
what the heck wrong with these kids that they can do that

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Nice sentiment.

Wow! You really bumped up an old post to express yourself, didn't you?!?

I hate to hear stories like that.
what the heck wrong with these kids that they can do that

please give here

 

[scraptoons]

I have a hearing loss in both ears, wearing hearing aids since I was three.

I have experienced this type of thing first hand.

Little Kids can be so mean!!!

Good new for you.

I am now 36 years old and have a great self esteem:

I am confident, strong, invincible, COURAGEOUS, beautiful, great mom and wife, a leader in my community, a bold and respected teacher, counselor and speaker...the list goes on and on and on.

I can say all those things now, because God has built those character traits in me through my hearing loss and poor speech as a child.

The dirty truth is...I wouldn't be like that today if I hadn't experienced the ridicule and the devastating humility and crying myself to sleep at night.

These things strengthen character. We "strong in character" people are the ones that others rely on and look to for strength and inspiration to carry on in life.

God shaped me and molded me into the very person He needs me to be. I can now carry on His tasks for fulfilling his kingdom.

My mother comforted me with these everyday on the way home from school as I cried my eyes out:

Beauty is only skin deep. You, are far more beautiful and special than any of those that taunt you.

Your value and worth is through God's eyes.

No matter what anyone says...your father and I love you.

Be a sweet girl.

You are smarter and braver than anyone else, even your brothers (chemistry expert and dentist...insert whoever your child admires)

It may be difficult now, but one day you are going to shine!!! Everyone will respect and admire you. You will be so far above them.

Look at the BIG PICTURE! See yourself 10, 20 years from now...not what is going on now, or in high school.

....These are just the top of my head.....

Mother was so right. By the time I reached junior high..I could see my classmates start to struggle with their awkwardness. It was a breeze for me. I held my head high and smiled my biggest smile (I thought my braces on my teeth were so cool). I started wearing two hearing aids instead of one. Therefore I could hear the speech sounds better. My speech improved overnight!

In high school, while others were struggling to find their place in this world. I knew who I was and I knew where I was going. I was already a leader, admired by others, and teachers nominated me for achievement awards. I never had perfect grades...lots of C's in math and science. But I got WHO's WHO's and stuff anyway.

Went to college and studied abroad. In my short lived career (before I quit to be a stay at home mom) I was promoted quickly and was VP of our company's national management assoc. chapter.

*****

My children are perfectly normal. They are beautiful, respectful and have great personalities. God has blessed my life.
I am teaching my children the same things I just wrote about. Teaching them that God has great things in store for them...but you have to be molded and shaped for that first.

 

[Pam]

I hate to hear stories like that.
what the heck wrong with these kids that they can do that

Muffycat,
I just wanted to clarify that my was not directed at the OP (my heart breaks for her and her daughter! ) but rather at cactus' assertion that he/she hates kids.

Not all kids are mean, hateful and vindicative.

I do not condone the spiteful and mean actions of children or adults.

Unfortunately kids were saying and doing nasty and horrid things back when I was in elementary school in the 70s -- and this behaviour can probably be traced back to the beginning of time. Sad, but true.

Kudos to the Principal for taking prompt action -- and kudos to the little friend of the OP's daughter for sticking up for her.