EllenFrasier
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It's not the candy, that part I like.
It's the costumes. When my kids were little, it was really easy and kind of fun. I would go and pick out a Winnie the Pooh or Strawberry Shortcake costume and they would look cute. Now they are 11 and it's not so much fun anymore. Since they have started to get involved in the process, it has gotten to be a nightmare.
The last few years are a battle of tears trying to find "something to be for Halloween"....my daughter is not so bad. She usually can find something to be. My son, on the other hand is a "challenge" let's call it. 
This year the school is having a Halloween event. My other kids went to this and they didn't wear a costume, which is optional. They have a haunted house, games, food, etc. There is no costume contest or parade or anything like that. He came home today and announced that he wants to wear a costume. So I begged my dd22 to take him to the store after dinner. I don't feel well and after working all day, I was exhausted. I also know how he is about shopping - never can find anything, nothing is good, etc.
Sure enough, they went to 3 stores - Walmart, Target and Kmart and he came home empty handed. He said all the costumes he wanted were in adult sizes and the rest were little kids costumes. My dd22 tried to guide him to help him find something, but nothing was right.
I feel bad because I know it is partial peer pressure that is leading him to feel that he has to wear a costume because "everybody" will be wearing one. But I refuse to go to a costume store and pay $30+ for something he will wear once. When they were in grade school I bought them costumes which they wore in their parade and then TOTing. They cost about $15 or so and they usually wore them more than one year. I wish he could just go to the school tomorrow and have a good time with his friends. I'm sure that not all of them will be wearing a costume.
It's the costumes. When my kids were little, it was really easy and kind of fun. I would go and pick out a Winnie the Pooh or Strawberry Shortcake costume and they would look cute. Now they are 11 and it's not so much fun anymore. Since they have started to get involved in the process, it has gotten to be a nightmare.
The last few years are a battle of tears trying to find "something to be for Halloween"....my daughter is not so bad. She usually can find something to be. My son, on the other hand is a "challenge" let's call it. 
This year the school is having a Halloween event. My other kids went to this and they didn't wear a costume, which is optional. They have a haunted house, games, food, etc. There is no costume contest or parade or anything like that. He came home today and announced that he wants to wear a costume. So I begged my dd22 to take him to the store after dinner. I don't feel well and after working all day, I was exhausted. I also know how he is about shopping - never can find anything, nothing is good, etc.
Sure enough, they went to 3 stores - Walmart, Target and Kmart and he came home empty handed. He said all the costumes he wanted were in adult sizes and the rest were little kids costumes. My dd22 tried to guide him to help him find something, but nothing was right.
I feel bad because I know it is partial peer pressure that is leading him to feel that he has to wear a costume because "everybody" will be wearing one. But I refuse to go to a costume store and pay $30+ for something he will wear once. When they were in grade school I bought them costumes which they wore in their parade and then TOTing. They cost about $15 or so and they usually wore them more than one year. I wish he could just go to the school tomorrow and have a good time with his friends. I'm sure that not all of them will be wearing a costume.

I'm sorry. I know how you feel. My kids are 6, 8, and 11. The 11 year old kind of secretly wants to TOT but then again he doesn't and he's decided to not dress up this year. I have to admit it is a relief. DD talked her Daddy into an EXPENSIVE costume for a school play (she had a solo and she DID look adorable) and "said" she'd wear it for Halloween but lately she's kind of been hinting at wanting to be something else. Guess what? I hear $60 saying "No"
DS 6 is still pretty easy. I talked him into Buzz Lightyear. He really didn't care one way or the other and this is one that can go in the dress up box for playdates so he was happy.
Well, she knows this I'm pretty sure (I've been her DIL more than a decade) and she goes and gets the kids some sort of "black bride of death" and a ghoul costume. Seriously? She thinks it is fun to be grossed out and scared. It makes me a little
but I just said "OH MY! Look at that." and promptly lost them LOL 
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