I hate dating...(long-ish)

[HomeSweetDisney]

So I had been dating this guy for like 7 months. We met in Florida when we both did the college program and for a while things were really great. Then we had to go home to our respective states (I live in Texas, he lives in Tennessee) and things kinda started going downhill. Relationships are hard enough without adding distance to the equation. So anyway, we had decided that maybe it was best if we seperate for a while since it seemed things weren't working out. Well about 3 weeks ago he called me up and told me he loved me too much to end things between us and that despite the long distance he really wanted to try and make it work. And then he called me last night and told me that the girl he'd been dating the PAST TWO WEEKS had just broken up with him. WTH? On one end he was trying to get back together with me and then on the other end he had been seeing some other girl behind my back! And then he had the nerve to pretend like he hadn't done anything wrong since we "weren't back together officially yet." Even though I'm really hurt by the whole situation I'm also really angry. Angry that I wasted my time on someone who didn't even respect me enough to let me know he had met someone else after he had called saying he wanted to work things out.

Sorry this was so long. I really just needed to vent. My family never liked him to begin with so if I told them about this situation I'd just hear a lot of "I told you so's." So I just decided to get that off my chest here. Thanks to anyone who read this.

 

[lewdyan1]

 

[frndshpcptn]

I dated a jerk that I met on the CP - my family didn't like him either.

I feel ya.

It felt good when I was finally able to get over him and get him out of my life.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

I dated a jerk that I met on the CP - my family didn't like him either.

I feel ya.

It felt good when I was finally able to get over him and get him out of my life.

Maybe it's a curse. Guys you date on the CP turn out to be jerks

 

[frndshpcptn]

I think it might be!

Although - didn't someone on the boards meet her husband on the CP?

Either way - most people I know that dated down in Orlando eventually broke up when they got back to the "real world."

My best girl friends from the program on the other hand - we keep in touch almost every single day still

 

[Pop Daddy]

tell him he doesnt make enough money for you anyway

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

tell him he doesnt make enough money for you anyway

That would be the truth, Pop Daddy!

 

[horseshowmom]

So I had been dating this guy for like 7 months. We met in Florida when we both did the college program and for a while things were really great. Then we had to go home to our respective states (I live in Texas, he lives in Tennessee) and things kinda started going downhill. Relationships are hard enough without adding distance to the equation. So anyway, we had decided that maybe it was best if we seperate for a while since it seemed things weren't working out. Well about 3 weeks ago he called me up and told me he loved me too much to end things between us and that despite the long distance he really wanted to try and make it work. And then he called me last night and told me that the girl he'd been dating the PAST TWO WEEKS had just broken up with him. WTH? On one end he was trying to get back together with me and then on the other end he had been seeing some other girl behind my back! And then he had the nerve to pretend like he hadn't done anything wrong since we "weren't back together officially yet." Even though I'm really hurt by the whole situation I'm also really angry. Angry that I wasted my time on someone who didn't even respect me enough to let me know he had met someone else after he had called saying he wanted to work things out.

Sorry this was so long. I really just needed to vent. My family never liked him to begin with so if I told them about this situation I'd just hear a lot of "I told you so's." So I just decided to get that off my chest here. Thanks to anyone who read this.

Venting is fine!

I'm just really glad that you're bright enough to be angry at being mistreated instead of coming on and asking if you should "try to make it work". It's really sad what some girls are willing to put up with just for the sake of a guy.

Good for you!

(P.S. Can I go into "mother mode" for a minute. Honestly, if your family truly doesn't like a guy, most of the time there's a good reason!)

 

[pamlet]

Venting is fine!

I'm just really glad that you're bright enough to be angry at being mistreated instead of coming on and asking if you should "try to make it work". It's really sad what some girls are willing to put up with just for the sake of a guy.

Good for you!

(P.S. Can I go into "mother mode" for a minute. Honestly, if your family truly doesn't like a guy, most of the time there's a good reason!)

Well said sbclifton !!

HomeSweetDisney

Yep that dating thing is a pain in the neck isn't it? Not much else to say... sbclifton made the best point of all... Our families CAN be a great indicator when it comes to "life partners"...

 

[smilingmouse]

Vent away if needed--it helps! Best of luck. I'm sure you'll meet your Prince Charming soon

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Venting is fine!

I'm just really glad that you're bright enough to be angry at being mistreated instead of coming on and asking if you should "try to make it work". It's really sad what some girls are willing to put up with just for the sake of a guy.

Good for you!

(P.S. Can I go into "mother mode" for a minute. Honestly, if your family truly doesn't like a guy, most of the time there's a good reason!)

Thank you so much My best friend always tells me I have really good intuition and I'm glad I followed it this time. Honestly, there were signs from the beginning that should have shown me this wasn't the right guy. But like most girls my age looking for love, I ignored it. But at least now I know better and that my intuition is usually right.

And you're right about the family thing. They are usually right about that kind of stuff.

 

[RadioNate]

Although - didn't someone on the boards meet her husband on the CP?

I did BUT we didn't really date on the CP. We just met there (my 1st, his 2nd) I actually dated his roomate (or 2 ).

We kept in touch on and off as we finished school (and grad school for me). A little over 3 years later I moved to his city for a great job and we reconnected.

Now the guy I did date on my 2nd CP and 'tried to make it work' with, HE was a jerk!

Hang in there HSD. I too am glad that you know you've been wronged and are venting about it rather than thinking it is ok.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Thanks RN I appreciate the kind words!

 

[chell]

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

So he's called me like 6 times in the past couple hours. And I have not answered. Does he not get the point?

 

[KarenAylwood]

So he's called me like 6 times in the past couple hours. And I have not answered. Does he not get the point?

Good for you!!

This kind of thing can suck... I went through a lot of it in college w/ my boyfriend from high school- what a JERK he was!

Just keep searching for the good ones... they're out there- I promise!

(but evidently they don't tend to do the college program )

 

[Disney Doll]

Dating, the good and the bad, is how you learn what you want in a partner.

This has been a good learning tool for what you don't want.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

(but evidently they don't tend to do the college program )

Well, there were some really nice ones but they all had girlfriends back home. Go figure.

Dating, the good and the bad, is how you learn what you want in a partner.

This has been a good learning tool for what you don't want.

Very, very true!

 

[TDC Nala]

I hate it too, that's why I quit.

I'm actually not suggesting that anyone else should quit, but I'd had quite enough.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Yeah, dating is for the birds. I'm sorry about that jerk you were dating.