I give up!

[jcsbama]

Do you ever have those days that all you want to do is go home and hug your child because they are the only ones that won't make you feel inadequate or criticize everything you say and do? This can only be done when they are young before they fall in line with everyone else.

Having a family just really stinks sometimes.

To mom: Yes, DH & I went to Disney last year. And yes, I'm going to Disney next month for DD's birthday. No, I don't want to go just 3-4 days because we went last year. No, I don't like to take vacation around the summer holidays because everywhere you go is so crowded. I'm not content taking my vacation to go to the river when I can go there anytime.

To DH: no, I don't want to use my last 3 days of vacation to go to your conference that is at the beach just because the transportation and room is paid for. I used the last of my vacation days last year to do that and we were evacuated due to Hurricane Dennis. Not to mention the drive from hell in all the traffic getting back home.

Was I going to use my last 3 days vacation to take my disney fanatic sister to WDW for her birthday to help cheer her up because she's been going through such a bad time lately, yes I was. But did we actually get to go? No. Does that then entitle you to guilt trip me into going to a nice beach resort/conference where I get to do all the work of taking care of DD and trying to carry her and beach toys/supplies to the pool/beach by myself while you sit in an air conditioned classroom during the day. Only then to feel paraded around at the conference dinners at night. You've been at your job 8 years...you have 3 wks vacation, 3 personal administrative days and 7 sick days plus you can always make up time so that you don't even have to touch your vacation. I on the other hand haven't been at my job 2 years, don't have anywhere near the paid time off you have and we don't get to make up our time.



Thanks for listening, I just had to vent. If you didn't make it through to the end, I'm used to people not listening to me.

 

[mickeyboat]

Do you ever have those days that all you want to do is go home and hug your child because they are the only ones that won't make you feel inadequate or criticize everything you say and do? This can only be done when they are young before they fall in line with everyone else.

Having a family just really stinks sometimes.

To mom: Yes, DH & I went to Disney last year. And yes, I'm going to Disney next month for DD's birthday. No, I don't want to go just 3-4 days because we went last year. No, I don't like to take vacation around the summer holidays because everywhere you go is so crowded. I'm not content taking my vacation to go to the river when I can go there anytime.

To DH: no, I don't want to use my last 3 days of vacation to go to your conference that is at the beach just because the transportation and room is paid for. I used the last of my vacation days last year to do that and we were evacuated due to Hurricane Dennis. Not to mention the drive from hell in all the traffic getting back home.

Was I going to use my last 3 days vacation to take my disney fanatic sister to WDW for her birthday to help cheer her up because she's been going through such a bad time lately, yes I was. But did we actually get to go? No. Does that then entitle you to guilt trip me into going to a nice beach resort/conference where I get to do all the work of taking care of DD and trying to carry her and beach toys/supplies to the pool/beach by myself while you sit in an air conditioned classroom during the day. Only then to feel paraded around at the conference dinners at night. You've been at your job 8 years...you have 3 wks vacation, 3 personal administrative days and 7 sick days plus you can always make up time so that you don't even have to touch your vacation. I on the other hand haven't been at my job 2 years, don't have anywhere near the paid time off you have and we don't get to make up our time.



Thanks for listening, I just had to vent. If you didn't make it through to the end, I'm used to people not listening to me.

I listened, and I hear you. Hugs!

Denae

 

[Maleficent13]

I made it to the end, and here's a

 

[tiff211]

That's my listening ear!! Vent away!!

 

[Poohnatic]

I feel for you. Don't you just love family sometimes?

Suzanne

 

[beckmrk04]

Vent all you need to! I know I've done my fair share this week... And I may not be done!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I heard you...all the way to the end. We all have those days.

Enjoy your little one's huggability now, because later you'll be adding to the vent with, "I do everything I can for this blessed child and then they turn around and tell me how lame I am!" No, wait, that's my vent!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Totally hear you. Here's a When I'm feeling this way I appreciate my dog the most.

 

[luvflorida]

I stayed with you till the end!! Vent away!!

 

[redshoes]

I'm sorry. Enjoy your trip, I think it's a wonderful way to celebrate your DD's birthday.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Oh, no, one of those days, huh?

I'm having one of those days, except the one that's making me crazy IS my DD! Really, it's not so funny, but this, too, shall pass. She'll be back at college soon and then I'll miss her. I will miss her, right? Please tell me I'll miss her!

 

[chipper10]

Vent all you need to. It's good to get it out.

 

[dmslush]

I made it to the end. I know how you feel, I'm having a crappy day also!

 

[L107ANGEL]

I made it to the end!! Valid points.

I hope your day gets better and you have a good evening!

 

[roseprincess]

I know somewhat how you feel. My parents feel that I, dh, dd, and ds should never take a vacation! My dmother tells me that we waste money going on a vacation when we should be spending money fixing up our place. Now, the only time dh and I took dd and ds to WDW was for dd's wish trip via Make-A- Wish, so that vacation was paid for by MAW, which we were very blessed.
Also, I don't mean to hijack your thread, but my dh unfortunately gets 2 weeks paid vacation and 3 days paid sick time per yr and that's it! He's been at the co. he works for for 5 and a half yrs. His company he works for cut out the 2 paid personal days for all employees and didn't replace it with anything. Dh will get 3 wks paid vacation when he will be there 10 yrs(4 and a half yrs to go). Dh and I are not happy at all with the work benefits he gets. I'm a SAHM because I have 2 special needs kids. I don't take a day off or vacation by myself, unfortunately. My vacation is when my kids are at school! No kidding! Sorry for my vent, I just had to vent my stuff, too.

jcsbama- I do empathize with you on your family situation.


Rosemarie

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

You poor thing. I have definitely felt your pain.
And btw, yes I just want to pinch your DD's cheeks. She's adorable.