I don't want to be rude but....

Merandab4

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Should we book rooms for our guests at the same resort we will be staying at for our honeymoon?
 
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I don't blame you at all! It is your honeymoon and you are entitled to be alone. They are being kind of pushy trying to hang out with you on your honeymoon. But make sure they know that they are welcome to hang out with you before the wedding as much as they want!
 
lol - I can totally relate!!! John's mother (very many horror stories here) told us she was booked at French Quarter (booked this 2 weeks prior to the wedding when she'd known for a year and a half but that's another story;) ). So when we went there to meet her, we found that she was booked at Riverside which was where we were:rolleyes: Fortunately her flight was delayed, so we had enough time to go to Riverside's front desk to leave a message for her. And since it was the night before the wedding I had a bridal moment and started crying. The wonderful CM at the front desk showed us where they were supposed to be (next building to ours), and when they actually checked in they were at the other side of Riverside:D

Before the wedding we had made it clear that our honeymoon started after the wedding was over, we would be there a few days prior to the wedding and would be more than thrilled to visit then. His mother was very understanding about this and didn't attempt to see us after the wedding. We felt a little bad about it, but it was her decision to arrive late the night before the wedding.

It's not selfish at all of you to want your honeymoon to be just that - your honeymoon, not you entertaining everyone. Don't feel bad at all. You have set aside days for family and friends, just let them know that. If they don't take the hint, don't tell them your room # and don't answer the phone;) The CM at the front desk on that night told us how many mothers call to speak to their daughters on their honeymoon, and she has to forward the messages, they can't give out the room or phone #. Besides after all the wedding stress, you two need a chance to be alone and just relax!!!!!!!!!

Good luck:D
 
If it were me, I would DEFINATELY call and see if they could be placed as far away from me as possible. Then, I wouldnt tell them what room I was in.
I think it is VERY rude of them to book at your hotel and expect that you are going to want to spend time with them. Most people in this world understand that a couple does not want to be bothered while they are on their honeymoon.
Don't feel bad, you should feel this way!
 

I'm going to make myself very unpopular with this but..

I can't imagine inviting people to come all way to WDW for my wedding and then expecting them to leave me alone after. To me that would be the same as saying "Thank you for spending lots of money to come here for my wedding, now go away".

I'm doing a destination wedding next year in Las Vegas. 2 days after the wedding we're driving to Anaheim to take in DL and their celebrations for the 5th. The next week is our honeymoon in WDW. I'm making sure everybody knows that the sojourn to DL is open to everyone. I'm going to love spending vacation time with my family and friends, in my capacity of "new bride". Some of them have never been to DL before, and I'm already anticipating their reactions to everything.

I'll be making up an itinerary of where we (the happy couple) will be each day, since we'll likely be doing things other than DL as well. This will be distributed to all the guests in case they'd like to join us. Any time that we'd like for "just us" - like a special dinner - I think I'll mark as "making our own magic" and let them speculate on whatever that means.

I'm just trying to envision being at a WDW wedding, and being informed by the HC that although they'll still be at WDW for their honeymoon that after a specified time/day they no longer wished to associate with anyone who was at the wedding for the duration of their stay. Should I just ignore the HC if I run into them in the parks, for fear of saying hello and ruining their honeymoon experience?

So my not-so-popular opinion is that if you're inviting people to come to your wedding at WDW then you should expect that people are going to want to spend time with you after the wedding. What's the point in having all the people you love around you when you say "I do", and then telling them to get lost right after?
 
I figure that traditionally, you would be leaving on your wedding night for your honeymoon, if you weren't staying on in DW, so you are entitled to your privacy. I will say tho, that some of the best times we had was AFTER out wedding day, with our friends and family.

We got married on Sat and didn't get a chance to do any park time leading up to the wedding day, so when we spent Sunday with most of our wedding party, park-hopping, we had a blast! Also, my uncle took us out to dinner at Shula's on Sunday night and it was an incredible meal with my wonderful family!

I think you have the right to expect some privacy being on your honeymoon and all, but also, I think it would be very generous of you if you would spend a little time with your guests afterward. Perhaps one day of park-hopping and dinner or something. Let them know that you really want to start making your memories and that they are invited for just that one day and the rest of the time they should enjoy thier family vacation.
 
Leo and I booked our wedding knowing that everyone is going to want to hang out with us after the wedding. They are coming a long way to see us get married and we feel we should to make some time for them afterward, especially since we don't see them often. I will love to meet my friends at MGM for Tower of Terror and go with my sister on the Safari at AK (she loves animals). I think it will only make my day! HOWEVER, we would totally lose our minds if we have to be keeping up with everone all the time. Especially his parents, they always want to do EVERYTHING together, but his mother has so many aches and pains - she doesn't move too quickly and always has to take breaks so we'd never get to see anything. I am NOT looking forward to trying to convince them to leave us alone at times. But that is why we are making up an itinerary to let people know where they can meet up with us and also include points where we want to be alone (for ex. - 6pm: L&L romantic dinner at our hotel). We are going to Epcot the day before our wedding, so that can be one park everyone can kind of stick together for, and Magic Kingdom the day after. But for MGM, AK, and the waterparks we are going to make sure there is alone time!
 
We had a similar dilema, but we chose to take our honeymoon on a cruise so we had a week all to ourselves. Perhaps you could consider this...
 
I think you have every right to your privacy and to enjoy your honeymoon, but if I were you I would plan something on Sunday to do w/ your guests. They are coming a long way and if most of them are leaving on Monday it would be nice to share a meal and thank them for coming and say goodbye. Then you will have the rest of your time there to yourselves w/o anyone getting offended.
 
I am also having a huge custom wedding. We are getting married in March, easter weekend!!! We decided not to honeymoon at Disney b/c of that reason. We are getting married Saturday and we are going to leave for our cruise on Sunday afternoon or Monday afternoon! We havent decided yet.

Brian and I talked about it and we decided since everyone is coming in from out-of-state, that we will join them for an easter brunch on Sunday morning. If perhaps we leave on Monday for our honeymoon, we decided we would go to the parks on Sunday with whoever wanted to join us! But, then we would be leaving for our cruise and be ALONE! If I were honeymooing at Disney, I am not sure what I would do!!! I would probaly feel the same way, and want to be alone!!

Good luck with that decision!!!
 
We actually did have a honeymoon away from the destination wedding, but had a couple days after the ceremony where most everyone was still around. We did what another suggested, picked a few things that we decided were "open" for everyone, and then put the word out about those. When we were ready for some quiet time (which after the stress leading up to the wedding was a LOT more intense than I ever expected) we said we were going to take a break for a while and we would see everyone later at the next thing. Keep in mind, I'm sure the front desk will gladly put a "do not disturb" on your phone, so calls go right to voicemail. That way you can gate-keep when you are ready for company or not.
 
I believe they will put all wedding guests as close together as possible (unless you request otherwise) b/c I ended up with my dad and stepmother right next door :rolleyes: I wish I had know this prior to the wedding because they made themselves realllllllly intrusive the whole time and I would have requested that they be far, far away.

I think you should be upfront with your friends and speak to them before you leave for Florida. If they're first timers to WDW, perhaps suggest a good guidebook.
 
I finally got enought nerve to call up my travel agent, who is also a friends of DF, and told her the situation. She said she would put them in the alligator Buyou section which is just as beautifyl as the Magnolia bend, but the chances of us running into them are slim unless we really want to.
I do plan on hanging out with my guest durring this time, but it's just that this couple does tend to be a bit instrusive, and I really got worried after the comment she made ..."Thats ok, we went on our honeymoon with another couple" I just didnt want her to think this was a "couples vacation".
 
AKA ALONE TIME WITH YOUR NOW HUSBAND! ANY FRIEND WHO WOULD INTRUDE I THINK IS THE RUDE ONE, ITS ONE THING TO WANT TO STAY AT A RESORT YOU FIND FUN OR THEMED TO YOUR LIKING, BUT EXPECTING TO HOARD IN ON YOUR HONEYMOON, I WOULD BE HONEST & TO THE POINT WITH THESE "FRIENDS" LETTING THEM KNOW HOW APPRECIATIVE YOU ARE THAT THEY ARE JOINING IN YOUR WEDDING CELEBRATION, BUT DRAW THE LINE, LET THEM KNOW THIS IS YOUR HONEYMOON, AND IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU TWO! IF YOU'RE REALLY WORRIED THAT EVEN THE MOST DIRECT OPPOSITION WOULDN'T HELP TALK TO YOUR EM ABOUT SWITCHING THEM TO THE FRENCH QUARTER ACROSS THE RIVER PERHAPS. ME & MY H2B ARE PAYING FOR OUR GUEST ACCOMODATIONS SO THAT ISN'T A PROBLEM FOR US ALL OUR FAMILY IS AT AN ANIMAL KINGDOM RESORT, WHILE WE'LL BE AT THE YACHT CLUB. BEST OF LUCK WITH YOUR OVERLY FRIENDLY FRIENDS. :)
 
It is NOT rude. It is your honeymoon. MY future INLAWS booked the same resort as us! I am NOT a happy woman @ this point. I just don't understand why family and friends can't see why they should stay @ ANOTHER resort. I mean there are so many to choose from! Don't feel bad about setting special days...we did!
 
Hey Meranda - nope it's not rude and I'm glad that your TA is handling this for you. To be honest I think it's rude of your friends to even think of staying where you are!!

Alot of our guests were DVC members and staying at the Beach Club Villas would have been easier for them but a lot of them chose to stay at The Boardwalk because they didn't want to intrude on us whilst we were staying at the Yacht Club - to be honest this was before our wedding and we didn't really care - but I thought it sweet that they were thinking of us.

We spent the day after our wedding with our family and friends and had a blast I was a little sad to be leaving the next morning for our cruise and then by the time we got back to WDW nearly all our guests had left so we were free to honeymoon alone.
 
I don't think you are being rude. It was their choice to accept your invitation to go to WDW for your wedding but you didn't invite them on your honeymoon! I would be honest and explain to them that you guy don't get that much time together alone and this is your honeymoon and you would rather be alone. You will spend time with them before the wedding but after the wedding it's just you and him. Not to say that if you decide you would like to have dinner or meet up for lunch that you can't do so, you may even surprise yourself that you may want to, but that you definitely are not on a couples vacation with them. It wouldn't be polite of you to ask them to go home and shorten what may be their vacation too. If it is a close friend they should be more than okay with your requests. We are actually going to WDW with my fiance's brother and sister the week following our wedding but our taking our honeymoon alone on the Magic. We think the park will be more fun with them, we have done the parks alone twice, but our honeymoon cruise we don't want nor should we share with anyone.

Have fun and enjoy your trip, don't let the chance of running into your friends ruin your trip.

Colormouse:earsgirl: :earsboy:
 












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