I don't get it.

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Unless physical abuse is part of the equation I would just stay out of it. The more you talk to her about it, the more she will think you are just interfering and you will be pushing her toward him even more.

 

[MickeySP]

Good idea it is a horrible idea. All you can do is be a friend when the whole thing falls apart.

Sooner or later she will get hit in the face with a truth she just won't see now. Most likely the 1st time she runs into him with a date, or hopefully when she meets a good guy.

So for now I would listen, nod & smile and get the broom & dustpan ready to pick up the pieces.

 

[cm8]

He wants her to be a friend with benefits. He will continue to "see" her as long as she keeps providing the "benefits. But it is her life.

Exactly, close your home to her staying their. Be her friend, but not fall back guy. One day she will see past him

 

[shortbun]

You are right, she is headed for more heartache. Some folks just have to be standing knee deep in poop before they can smell it.

 

[SC Minnie]

Some people (men and women) are so insecure they would rather be with someone that treats them poorly than be alone.

I have a friend that took her multiple time cheating husband back several times. The only reason they are getting a divorce now is because he left and hasn't asked to come back. I told her if she ever takes him back again our friendshop is over (many of her other friends have told her the same thing).

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

While I hate seeing my friends treated badly (my best friend is currently in a weird online/phone relationship with a person who lives halfway across the country, and they've never actually met and this person routinely says things to my friend that are pretty horrible to the point that my friend gets visibly and verbally upset over it), I would speak my mind to them, but I would not dump them as a friend if I cared about them.

In my case, I told my friend straight out that this is weird and clearly causes a lot more upset than it's worth and is also damaging the chances of finding a real relationship with someone local. My friend was mad at me for saying so but eventually came around. We don't talk much about it now but we are still friends.

I couldn't imagine dumping a friend who was in an abusive relationship.

 

[Sanchez]

It's amazing to me that young women so often choose losers. Why is that. Wild animals only mate with the toughest and strongest male that they can find, so many young women choose a bum, it's crazy.

Why is it always the man who is the loser? IF he is a loser (and we don't know that) then she is right there with him.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

He wants her to be a friend with benefits. He will continue to "see" her as long as she keeps providing the "benefits. But it is her life.

Give her a box of condoms for Christmas so that she doesn't get any extra presents from her "friend".