Our DDIL is a very sweet quite person--we love her dearly--
There have been family issues--the parents and her younger brother have drinking and drug problems--the dad cant hold on to a job--his last job was with the public school system which he got lot go of for drinking.
Last summer they lost their house and moved into an apartment which in oct they got kicked out of for not paying the rent. They hinted around to live with DS and DDIL but with my son being a police officer he couldnt have the dealings going on in his house with the drinking and drugs --so her dad had a daughter with someone before he met DDIL mom that lives in Kansas so she has 2 houses she was going to sell one but instead had them come to live there--well she charged them very little rent but they havent paid her anything so she told them she was going to sell the house--which sold just a few weeks ago--so
Last nite we had everyone over for pizza and the guys went to pick it up so DDIL and me were chatting and I cant remeber what led up to this but she says I dont know where my parents are now!! and then she told me the whole story of the house in Kansas--she said I dont know if their living in their car, in jail or dead!!!!!
She said she hasnt talked to her parents in along time--they always call on her cell phone and leave messages but she has DS listen to them as she doesnt want to hear what they have to say. The last time she talked to them she told them she was going to have a baby--instead of being happy her dad says I dont think you'll be a good mother--I told her shes going to be a great mother and Im the mother in law!!!!! and she is going to be a great mother--we are just so excited to be grandparents!!!!!
she really must have needed to talk since she usually doenst bring up her parents.
Her and DS have helped them out at first but when they dont seem to help themselves(like getting let go from his job) and expect more you just cant do it any more.
One thing that me sort of irrated was last July 4th they had both of us over for a BBQ--her dad is saying how he cnat live without his cable and then he brings out a big bag of fireworks!!!!! Im sorry but I dont have much sympethy for someone that free loads off their own kids and yet makes comments about cable and has all these expensive fireworks
sorry for venting so long its just that I feel so bad for DDIL and I want to try to help her but I dont know what to do
thanks for listening
There have been family issues--the parents and her younger brother have drinking and drug problems--the dad cant hold on to a job--his last job was with the public school system which he got lot go of for drinking.
Last summer they lost their house and moved into an apartment which in oct they got kicked out of for not paying the rent. They hinted around to live with DS and DDIL but with my son being a police officer he couldnt have the dealings going on in his house with the drinking and drugs --so her dad had a daughter with someone before he met DDIL mom that lives in Kansas so she has 2 houses she was going to sell one but instead had them come to live there--well she charged them very little rent but they havent paid her anything so she told them she was going to sell the house--which sold just a few weeks ago--so
Last nite we had everyone over for pizza and the guys went to pick it up so DDIL and me were chatting and I cant remeber what led up to this but she says I dont know where my parents are now!! and then she told me the whole story of the house in Kansas--she said I dont know if their living in their car, in jail or dead!!!!!
She said she hasnt talked to her parents in along time--they always call on her cell phone and leave messages but she has DS listen to them as she doesnt want to hear what they have to say. The last time she talked to them she told them she was going to have a baby--instead of being happy her dad says I dont think you'll be a good mother--I told her shes going to be a great mother and Im the mother in law!!!!! and she is going to be a great mother--we are just so excited to be grandparents!!!!!
she really must have needed to talk since she usually doenst bring up her parents.
Her and DS have helped them out at first but when they dont seem to help themselves(like getting let go from his job) and expect more you just cant do it any more.
One thing that me sort of irrated was last July 4th they had both of us over for a BBQ--her dad is saying how he cnat live without his cable and then he brings out a big bag of fireworks!!!!! Im sorry but I dont have much sympethy for someone that free loads off their own kids and yet makes comments about cable and has all these expensive fireworks
sorry for venting so long its just that I feel so bad for DDIL and I want to try to help her but I dont know what to do
thanks for listening
to your DDIL, you and your family as you help her through this difficult time.
