I am not ready for this........

[McKelly]

My DD6 received a telephone call last night from a BOY in her class. They talked on the phone for 1/2 hour about nothing, something, whatever, the point is, I was so flabbergasted I didn't know what to do, finally, I told her it was time to hang up!! Am I crazy?!?! And then when she hung-up, she informed me that this boy wants her to come over on Saturday for a play date. Seems weird to me. We do play dates with other girls, but have not done any with boys, but she has gone to boy's birthday parties. Is this normal? Please give some advice. She is my oldest and I am not prepared for this yet!! Ugh!

 

[WeirdEyes]

Get used to it. They start younger and younger these days. They could be "just friends" though. Have you questioned your DD about it? Good luck!!

 

[disykat]

At six, it's just a play date, not a date. I wouldn't worry. Now my 10 year old son... that's another story.

 

[Maleficent13]

I had a "boyfriend" in 1st grade. I was quite the manslayer.

Don't worry...all it involved was being chased on the playground and occasionally threatening to kick him if he didn't stop trying to look up my skirt.

Hmmmm...now that I think about it, not so different from dating after all...

 

[4cruisin]

JMHO, I personally would have a problem with my 6 y.o talking on the phone to any friend for a half-hour. I think kids are starting the "dating game" a little too early and I would not be allowing it.

 

[charabby]

If she's allowed to talk to other little girls on the phone for 30 min., I don't see a problem. They are 6 and are not 'dating' and may not even be entertaining any remote 'dating' notions. If they have fun together, I would let them play and not think twice about it as long as they were not talking about being boyfriend/girlfriend and kissing, etc. I would try to avoid looking at the situation with adult expectations.

 

[MsLeFever]

I had a "boyfriend" in 1st grade. I was quite the manslayer.

Don't worry...all it involved was being chased on the playground and occasionally threatening to kick him if he didn't stop trying to look up my skirt.

Hmmmm...now that I think about it, not so different from dating after all...

 

[McKelly]

Thanks for the replies. I forgot to mention that she never has talked to even her girlfriends on the phone, I do not allow it. This boy called six times(we were not home, but have caller ID), and finally I picked up the phone and let her talk to him, INITIALLY not thinking anything of it. But after a few minutes the mind started working over time and I started talking to DH about it, but......, well, if anybody has a DH like mine, well that was useless. He couldn't make a decision to save his own life!! Anyway, she just started a new school and I want her to have friends, but I don't know ANY of these parents yet and I feel REALLY uncomfortable letting her go to somebody's house that I don't know, much less a boy! Am I being too paranoid? Do you let your children go to friend's houses without knowing the parents?

 

[drgnfly30]

My oldest DS now 15 had a girl from preschool calling him at 5yrs old.. it was no biggy! DS10 is currently talking to a girl in his class on the phone - it's innocent enough, they talk about video games & homework. He went over to her house last Saturday, after DH talked to the parents & then checked out the house before leaving him there.... I know kids start younger & younger but I feel like I'm raising them right, I trust them & given the appropriate setting (parents there, time limits etc) I see no harm.

 

[2BigKIdz]

Most of my friends were boys, especially in pre-school and elementary school. In fact, I don't remember any girl friends from pre-school at all. Most of the kids in my neighborhood were boys. I played at their house, they came to mine, we talked on the phone. There was never anything inappropriate and I've never thought it was unusual that I played with boys until now

 

[Kimberly]

Wow. Although I technically had a b/f in pre-school who I caught the chicken pox from...

Actually dating though... I didn't start at least talking until I was 15 years old. I would be concerned too, but it's probably just harmless chatter.

 

[crazee4mickey]

My DD 7 has boys who phone her and come over to play--she gets along so well with them having grown up with 3 brothers!
One little boy (with the biggest brown eyes and cutest lisp) phones constantly to play--sometimes when he phones at 7:30 am on a Saturday morning its not so cute!
Kids are kids if you treat them as such, if you start making a big deal out of something they may realize earlier than you want why mom is worried about boys

 

[chadfromdallas]

Is this a joke? You are worried over two 6 year olds talking on the phone for 30 minutes?

Am I being too paranoid?

Very. Meet the parents and let them be friends, yesh...

 

[laurie31]

My 6 year old calls boys...a lot...and they call her too DD9 never did that, nor did she get calls. But little one is quite the social butterfly.

She has memorized her "boyfriend's" phone number. I did ask his mom if she minded dd calling and she said no and thought it was cute. I have no clue what they talk about. Usually he gets bored with her and hangs up They were in kindergarten together and she called him ALL the time last year...

This year, she has a "boyfriend" at church and two at school. I also had a "boyfriend" when I was in 1st grade. It truly is innocent at that age. I never played with this boy, much less called him or anything else. I'm sure he had no clue he was my "boyfriend." I didn't date (for real) until I was 18!

She isn't allowed to use the phone without asking, so I prevent any calling during early or late hours and at dinnertime.

I don't blame the OP for being hesitant to let her child play at the home of someone she doesn't know. Offer to meet the parent and child at a park, McDonald's, anyplace where the kids can play, and you can talk to the parent. Then you can decide about them playing together at his house.

Laurie