I am kinda miffed at my family and people "in the know"

[preshi]

Last Saturday was the day "my daughter" was born. The one I gave up for adoption. Not one person, my mom, best friend, babys dad, husband, no one said one word to me! Not a how are you today... are you ok? nothing. Ok I forgive my best friend because I know she cares and she had to work overtime that day and had a migrane... no one else had any excuse. I must have talked to my Mom three times that day. Lily turned 5. Every year on her birthday I take the day off... I am just so upset that no one thought enough to maybe think I was in pain... in mourning a little. Grrrr....

 

[tc]

I am so sorry that her birthday passed without support. I know, with a tough anniversary coming up for me, I would not be able to get through without the support of those who love me.

{{{{HUGS}}}} from a friend who can, kind of, feel your pain.

(Did you know we're Dis con II buddies of a sort? Emma is representing both of us! How fun!)

 

[preshi]

Thanks tc Yeah we are DisCon buddies We have a great representer Whaooooo

 

[JerseyJanice]

Maybe they felt bad about reminding you.

{{{hugs}}}

 

[tiggerlover]

{{{HUGS}}}

I am sorry no one ackowledged your DD's birthdate. Some people just aren't sesitive to things like this, I don't think they do it to hurt people, they just don't think. Some people may not want to mention something to someone because they think it may be too painful for that person and they just don't realize the person just wants an acknowledgement or validation. I felt this way after I had a miscarriage and all I wanted was someone to validate my feelings.

{{{MORE HUGS}}}

 

[Piglet]

Hugs to you Preshi. I am sure it is really tough to go through. Some people don't realize how much some things really hurt.


Melinda

 

[Serena]

Meagan, I'm sorry.

My family would be the same way. They want support, but find it hard to give it. They just don't know what to say or do, or how to be sensitive enough to remember.

You might want to try and mention it to them. Tell them you what you want. And make sure they remember it next year.

 

[danacara]

Maybe they thought that mentioning it would make it more painful for you than it already is. Just a thought.

 

[A kid at heart]

Maybe you need some counseling since it seems to still bother you a lot.

 

[snoopy]

I'm so sorry, Preshi. This must have been a difficult day for you, I'm sorry your friends and family were not more supportive.

 

[Leota]

Aww Megs - I'm sorry - It must be very tough on you - I can't imagine because I haven't walked in your shoes... I'm sure I would be having a rough time with it too.
I agree that maybe folks are worried about bringing it up for fear of re-opening the wounds - Maybe they don't realize how open they still are & that you would like them to talk with you about it.
Maybe you could let them know you need them...

 

[debster812]

I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine either what you are feeling, having never experienced it, but I am so sorry that you did not get the support and care that you deserve and need.

 

[honeywolf7]

I'm sorry, Preshi.

 

[UncleKyle]

So sorry preshi

 

[Baboo]

{{{HUGS}}} Preshi. I'm sorry.

 

[pollyanna]

They may have forgotten......I have to check my calender just to remember all my relatives birthdays.

 

[helenabear]

I am so sorry to hear that Meg. I just hope that as others have suggested that they were afraid to bring it up in fear that they would cause you more pain. {{hugs}}

 

[Disneycrazymom]

Preshi,
I hope you are feeling better today. I am an adoptive mom, and I always think of our wonderful birth mom on our DD's birthday. Words can not express how much I love and respect her. Let me assure you that even if your family didn't remember your courage and the love that you have for your baby girl, her adoptive mom was thinking of you all day. I always say extra prayers for her asking that she is at peace and is blessed as much as we have been. You gave a wonderful gift to a very lucky family.

 

[preshi]

Originally posted by A kid at heart
Maybe you need some counseling since it seems to still bother you a lot.

i've had plenty of counseling thank you very much. I think it's quite normal when you lose someone to think about them and be sad...

 

[A kid at heart]

Which means you probably still need counseling or at the very least a support group.