I am ashamed to admit this...

[IMGONNABE40!]

but I need someone to talk some sense into me.

DH and I have not spoken since Wednesday. That is so not good. The bad part is I am not certain why. I was mad about something and I yelled at him. For me, that would have been the end. But, he in turn got mad, and stopped speaking to me. The next day I didn't realize he wasn't speaking to me, but he made it pretty clear. We have both missed out on a lot these five days. From me not reminding him of a dinner party we were going to on Sat. (he did show up after I gave his work # to one of the other guests who asked for him) to him not telling me that he was taking DS to a festival where our dear friends were being honored as family of the year...

So, maybe I should apologize for yelling at him and see where it goes? I know I had good reason to be mad at him in the first place, and it makes me mad that he would get mad when I did not do anything--except for the yelling--which was probably not the way to handle things...

I think this has helped already! Just typing this out makes me see how ridiculous this all seems. We are really not like this. Wish me luck.

 

[oogieboogie]

Good Luck!

 

[KM2004]

I wish you all the best.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Good luck.You can work things out.We all have our arguments and we all get over it.

I am gonna remeber if DH and I get into another argument to try and work it out quickly and not stay mad at each other.Look what happened to that family on the cruise boards,when that husband left that night for work he expected to see his wife and children when he got home.We just need to remeber life is to short and precious.

Go tell your DH you are sorry and make up.

 

[onecoolmama]

Good Luck to you both

 

[sweet angel]

Good luck. Just ask him, "I forget, why are we mad at each other again? "

 

[Disney Ella]

Once you stop talking, it can be hard to start again, particularly if both people feel they're right. I think apologizing for yelling would be a good first step. Maybe he'll apologize then for whatever he did. Hope it goes well. Not talking to someone you live with feels horrible, but the only way to fix it is to start talking.

 

[Dan Murphy]

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

Thanks, everyone. As soon as he gets home I will try to break the ice.

 

[Serena]

Here's my .02. Whatever caused the argument is still there. But now, it's this not speaking to each other.
That isn't working to settle the argument and it's causing more bad feelings.
Along with trying to find a compromise on the orginal problem, I'd ask to discuss a different way of settling it.

It'll work out.

 

[Kitty 34]

Good luck and {{{{HUGS}}}

 

[bumcat]

No reason to be ashamed. Things happen and get out of hand sometimes. Good luck!

 

[Straycat]

Love deeply like there is no tommorow, you won't regret it. Accept love graciously ...you deserve it

this quote is from a post i saw this morning that made me stop and think.

whatever happened between you two, in the grand scheme of things, its not important.. but you know what is? love, the love you two have....

do what it takes to fix the problem now, whatever it takes, communication is your friend..

if this isnt working for you, throw some what ifs at yourself.. what if some unforseen tragedy happened in your life today, would this fight be important then.. oh hell no
this fight you two had is a waste of your time and your life.. you just lost out on five days of love and for what in return, 5 days of unhappiness. bah to that.

go find him and bring a smile to his face and to both of your hearts once again as it shouild be.. goodluck

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

You guys are so right. Love that love thing, Straycat. Hope DH gets home soon.

 

[KristaTX]

- Sorry to hear that you are having a rough week. I'm sure that it will get better soon, but you may need to be the one who takes the first step.

I've heard about this book for the last 10 years or so, but I've just recently been reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. After the dust from this fight settles, you might consider reading it and see if you can get your DH to read it. I have learned so much about what men and women want/need and how they communicate (or miscommunicate) with each other. It has opened my eyes to so many things, and it might help you to deal with or even prevent such blowouts out in the future.

Krista

 

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by IMGONNABE40!
You guys are so right. Love that love thing, Straycat. Hope DH gets home soon.

 

[slo]

Good luck - marriage can be so complicated sometimes. I hope it all goes well!!!

 

[Trinity721]

It's always harder to take the first step after something like that happens, but sometimes it's something that you have to do. Especially if you know that you were in the wrong and you didn't mean the things you said/did... Nothing to be ashamed of, as someone says earlier... But I know what it's like to be stubborn and hating to admit you are wrong, I am quite familiar with this Once you both get things out on the table, I'm sure the situation can only improve from there. Don't be afraid to be the first to break the silence. Hugs and good luck!

 

[browneyes]

If that happened to me and my SO, I'd be instead of .

Be creative in how you get him to talk to you again. You could go out of the room with a spare phone and call him. You could go outside, knock on the door/ring the doorbell, when he answers the door, introduce yourself as the one that yelled at him the other day and you want to apologize. etc.

Good luck.