Humiliated at AKL

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MadHookUp

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Today I was absolutely humiliated at Animal Kingdom Lodge. To start, I suffer from Panic Disorder. It started about 3 years ago, where I can get panic attacks for no reason, or other things can trigger them. Thursday afternoon the kids got off the bus and we drove 18 hours straight to Disney. We did this to gain an extra day at there. Along with my wife and two kids is my mother in law and father. Going into the trip my biggest fear was my father and mother in law to witness one of my panic attacks. Or have one in public.

Completely exhausted we get to the front desk to check in around 10:30am. The clerk at the front desk offered to try and get the room prepared early for us, so we went to the pool to wait. About 5 hours goes by and it's now 3pm and it's still not ready. So we figure we will immediately wait list Boma at 5, eat dinner, then head to Epcot. So my wife leaves to head to the grocery store since we have a 2BR and assumed the room would absolutely be ready by 4. It's a bummer that we didn't get to go to the parks in the morning since we waited at the pool all day, but it is what it is. Can't really get mad about not getting in early.

So we go to the front desk, and they say the room is ready, and just need a manager to sign off on it. Wife arrives with ice cream and other frozen items... No where to put them. But clearly the manager must be rushing to approve our room, so we wait.... 35 minutes. Again we go to the front desk, at this point I am enraged. No managers anywhere to be found. I asked for a single name, they couldn't give me one. It's possible the room was ready at 11am and we were just waiting on the manager all day. We offered to waive the approval and take the room in as is condition. It's now 4:45, children freezing in their bathing suits, a 75 year old father that had been up over 40 hours straight. Boom, massive panic attack. In the middle of the lobby, right in front of my wife, kids, father, and mother in law. And dozens of other people. I collapsed on the ground crying and shaking, then when I felt the possibility of vomit coming I ran outside and continued to have my panic attack on the balcony in front of the elevators. Finally at 5pm the room is ready and after 15 minutes and shaking and crying in front of people, covered in snot, we make our way to our room. And guess what, door wont open. So I continue to cry in the hallway as people walk by for about 5-10 minutes as we wait for them to unlock it.

So it's about 5:20.... We miss our Boma reservation and requeue us. As I write this, it's now 7pm and the wait is estimated at 30 minutes. My entire family is starving since we have withheld eating all because of Boma at 5. My father loves Boma but can't stay awake anymore. It's too late to go to the parks. This entire day is destroyed, hopefully not the trip.

I have never been more humiliated in my life. I don't want to this to sound bad. But as a 42 year old man, the last people on earth you want to see you hysterically crying is your father and the mother of the woman you married. I'm front of my kids is hard as well. But to be laying on the floor shaking and crying in a crowded lobby. To make things worse, Animal Kingdom Lobby is one of my most favorite places in Disney. Especially during Christmas. But for anyone that suffers from panic attacks will know, I am scared that this lobby will now start triggering them.

We have a family that hasn't eaten in 11 hours. I just updated the app and my wait for a Boma table went from 35 to 55 minutes! Good thing we have up.. How different the day would have been if they just allowed us in our room before 5:15... Just wanted to vent for my own mental health. I imagine the cause is likely due to staff shortages. Gotta get that stock price higher!
 
Sorry that happened to you. I hope everyone can get some rest tonight, regroup and start fresh tomorrow. Panic attacks suck. I had them for years but they weren't extreme. I somehow outgrew it, I don't know how it happened. Not a bad idea to seek professional help if you haven't already. Wish I did; maybe they wouldn't have lasted for years.
 

I am sorry this happened to you and hope the rest of your trip goes better. I know you wanted extra time at Disney, but18 hours straight driving and people not sleeping for 40 hours sounds very unsafe to me.

We rotated 3 drivers, only my father couldn't sleep. He was awake 40 hours at the point we finally got in our room and waited to get into Boma.
 
I totally understand where you are coming from. I have had bad panic and anxiety attacks since I was 18 years old. I'm now 47 almost 48 and they have almost gone away, but have recently come back with a medical situation I am having and my mother's diagnosis of Congestive Heart Failure and Afib for the last year. I know what it's like to not want to go somewhere because you think it will trigger a panic attack. I was 44 when I was able to get well enough to travel for myself for the first time. That made me panicky but I got over it. Don't worry about the strangers seeing you they probably didn't even remember it 10 minutes after they saw you. As for your family seeing you I understand you not wanting your family to see you in such a vulnerable state. They have to learn that this will happen from time to time and they can be you strength when yours has waned at that moment. My mother has been there for me when having panic attacks. She's seen everything. Maybe you could talk to your dad about what happened and tell him how you feel at the time during a panic attack. He may need to hear how you feel and maybe he can understand and help you get past it. Your kids need to be told what happened and told that everything is okay and that you will always be there for them despite the panic attacks. Kids are adaptable. I have 6 nephews and 2 nieces who have seen me have a meltdown and I talked to them afterwards and they now accept everything that come with my medical challenges. Don't let this ruin your time at WDW. Just let it go and make new memories with your family and forget the one bad panic attack that happened. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your trip. Happy Holidays!!! 🎅
 
Wow, sounds like a pretty rough entry there. I cant speak on the panic attacks, but I sure can about the humiliation part. I don't know you, but I'll assume the following is true: You do not abuse your wife and kids behind closed doors, you dont cheat or steal or lie. You obviously love your family and your in laws (heck, you spent all those hours driving in a car with them...lol). You provide well for them all as you can afford to take them on a Disney vacation and stay at the Animal Kingdom. In my book, that sure trumps any condition you may have, especially one out of your control. In this day and age, negativity and judgement seem to be such an easy path for folks to take, but for those individuals who take the other path of understanding and caring about the well being of their fellow man, these are the ones to notice around you when times are tough. I'd bet my bottom dollar that most of those who were around you today have nothing more than sympathy for your situation, no matter how little of it they may have understood. We all have our shortcomings, some are just more visible than others is all. Those who dont acknowledge this truth aren't worth your time or concern, and those who do are worth calling your neighbor. Hold your head high my friend! The good you have to offer far outweighs any temporary pothole in your road, that's for sure. Today was only day one of a wonderful time with your family. Let it go, as Elsa sings, and go make some wonderful memories with your family. When you get on in years, it's only the good times you'll remember, and the bad will have faded far away. Have a great time!!
 
Nothing you can do about today. Chould'v, should've, would've done things differently.
Get a GOOD night sleep. Start your vacation tomorrow.
I think it is a good thing that your inlaws know you condition , once you get home, get some help for you and your family .
Nothing to be embarrassed about. You now know what your breaking point is. You will get there again and will be better prepared next time.
 
Everyone has had a meltdown or a reaction that they aren't especially proud of (even the judgemental bunch of posters on this thread). And a lot of times they happen when we are tired (check), hungry (double-check), stressed (the ice cream is melting!), and absolutely NOTHING is going right (check-check-check). For you, today was just the perfect storm. Please remember that all of your family loves you (even your in-law) and that you were probably more upset about it than they are. Go and get a good night's sleep and have a GREAT vacation.

And for some unsolicited advice from a complete stranger, please consider seeing a professional when you get home. They can teach you some very helpful coping techniques and and hints for when you start spinning out of control. You can do it!
 
ANYBODY would have had a rough go of it after the day you had! Seriously. I probably would have lost it and started crying in the lobby, too, and I don’t have panic disorder. Tomorrow is a new day. You’re going to be ok. Wishing you smooth sailing for the rest of your trip. None of this was your fault. Forgive yourself.
 
I wouldn't classify it as severe. And i've been to Disney multiple times with with this.
I have a diagnosis of GAD as well as a background in psychology. What you’re describing is at best a Type-3 panic disorder and it’s something you should be seeking professional help for if you’re not already. Good luck and stay safe.
 
I'm sorry you had a panic attack. You need to see someone who can help you learn how to cope with your situation. Your family should be understanding, and help you through your panic attacks.

No one should expect a room ready before the stated check-in time, and even that time is an estimation. I don't really find fault in the hotel, unless they didn't fully explain to you that rooms are not guaranteed to be ready until later in the day, or if they kept telling you 'just another 30 minutes' or something like that.

However, I am going to say that some of these things that ramped your anxiety were choices you made. You could have eaten any time in that 11 hours. You could have gone to the parks. You could have changed in the restrooms in the hotel lobby. You could have had bell services hold the frozen/refrigerated food.

So you made some choices, and they led you to getting more and more frustrated and anxious, which caused you to make some more choices, and you got more anxious, and repeat until you just went down. You need to learn to remove yourself from that loop as soon as you recognizing it happening; that's where therapy will help.
 
the Past IS the Past OP. A better day ahead. Sometimes it’s one Minute Ahead..
PLEASE seek help upon ur return. Your life will Forever Turn for the Good, You and Ur family deserve the Best You there is.
you ll be taught mechanisms to help you end Feel So empowered YOU GOT THIS.
For now… stay hydrated, enjoy the Family time, make those memories and upon ur return I Seriously Hope you Realuze You Need Guidance they this Nothing to be ashamed about, heck… u Posted here lol
ENJOY the vacation. Pixie dust ur way!!!
 
ANYBODY would have had a rough go of it after the day you had! Seriously. I probably would have lost it and started crying in the lobby, too, and I don’t have panic disorder. Tomorrow is a new day. You’re going to be ok. Wishing you smooth sailing for the rest of your trip. None of this was your fault. Forgive yourself.
I know ur heart is in the Right place, but I disagree. Not “Anybody” would have had the same reaction. how many times have you seen it happen, heard it from a friend or family member. It’s a Disorder that can potentially get worse, Why go there when there’s Help.
I really believe that the First step is Acknowledging that an Issue Exists then Seeking Professional Help to Live an Easier life, free of the Panic, Trauma, humiliation, guilt and myriad other factors involved here. It Affects More than the person who experiences it.
Coping mechanisms, Trigger alerts .. a Good professional can aid Tremendously.
I truly hope OP seeks the help because it has and Will impact the Entire Family Unit. He obviously loves his family and taking care of Himself/mental health is the Best Gift to them and to him!
this IS fixable! Blessings his way!
 
Thanks for all the replies. I have been trying different medication for over 2 years. I finally landed on one that seems to help, but I need to increase the dosage I. Had an appointment with my doctor to go over it a week ago, but got suck and he doesn't see such patients. New health plan at work is going to have me start seeing a therapist after new years.
 
I'm sorry you had a panic attack. You need to see someone who can help you learn how to cope with your situation. Your family should be understanding, and help you through your panic attacks.

No one should expect a room ready before the stated check-in time, and even that time is an estimation. I don't really find fault in the hotel, unless they didn't fully explain to you that rooms are not guaranteed to be ready until later in the day, or if they kept telling you 'just another 30 minutes' or something like that.

However, I am going to say that some of these things that ramped your anxiety were choices you made. You could have eaten any time in that 11 hours. You could have gone to the parks. You could have changed in the restrooms in the hotel lobby. You could have had bell services hold the frozen/refrigerated food.

So you made some choices, and they led you to getting more and more frustrated and anxious, which caused you to make some more choices, and you got more anxious, and repeat until you just went down. You need to learn to remove yourself from that loop as soon as you recognizing it happening; that's where therapy will help.

Don't get me wrong, it's not lost on me that it isn't Disney's fault that I get panic attacks. I even stated in the original post that I wasnt even mad we didn't get into the room before 4, that is expected. But the person at the front desk said they would try to get it ready early and to hang out at the pool. Where Disney messed up hard was allowing me to have a public panic attack for 30 minutes. Ignoring everything that lead up to this point it's insane that it takes a manager an hour+ to "approve" my room. You would think that in my state the priority would have been moved up, but guess not. As far as Boma goes, is it normal for your family to eat right before a buffet? We usually try to go as hungry as possible. We would had no problem making the meal had we got in our room before 5pm. But I should have foreseen that and had the whole family eat at 3 prior to Boma.

Yes my decisions led to things that got me upset, but every decision was based off horrible decisions or information provided by Disney. Could I have ignored the front desk person and went straight to the parks? Yup, but I trusted him. At 4pm when I was told a manager was going to approve it, we could have put the groceries in the freezer, but we didn't realize we were lied to. When our room was finally open at 5, I should have realized there was a chance that the door wouldn't open and cause us to miss our meal time. My fault for not eating at 3pm in preparation of our buffet and believing I would be in my room before 5:15. I think I need a life coach to help with decisions because clearly I am incompetent.
 
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