How would you react if this was your ds? oops

[The Edgington's]

My son was invited to a boy/girl bday party this past weekend. It was at a local pool. I decided to stay since it didn't look like there was adequate supervision for all of the kids (he's 6). After swimming I changed him in the women's locker room as I do not let him go into restrooms or locker rooms alone. He was playing with other boys in the hall waiting for cake time. One of the boys said to him "go into the girls locker room" he did and a mother of a 3 year old girl drug him out by the arm and yelled "tell your mom what you did" all the other parents and kids were there. He was humiliated while he told me and wanted to go home. I wanted to let her have it with both barrels but restrained because of the kids. After the fact it makes me sick to my stomach that I didn't at least pull her aside and let her know that was unacceptable. I talked to my bil who is a local sheriff and he said it would be considered assault especially if it had left a mark on his arm. He is easily talked into things and I know he shouldn't have done it but he's 6 and the girls were 6 and under. Plus he was just in there to change and there are no doors blocking the entrance. I've thought about calling the mother who's child had the party to try and find out who she is so I can ask her how she would feel if a stranger did that to her child. Am I over reacting?

Sorry this is so long, but it really upset me and is still bugging me days later. I feel I failed my son but not standing up for him and that to me is unacceptable.

 

[disneygirl1977k]

Hi,
I have a 2 yo DS and I cannot imagine how I would feel if I saw ANYONE touch my child at all like that.....For one thing I think the fact that you held back at all took extreme maturity.....I think I would have forgotten that there were kids there and completely gone off on her. Good for you for remembering there were kids, however, I definately think I would have to contact this lady and talk to her and let her know how you felt about that, for one thing, to at least feel better that you did something about it. There are so many times that I look back and think of something I saw at his daycare he used to go to and didn't say something. I had problems with his first babysitter as well and I feel like I could have, should have done something more and it does make you feel like you have let down your children, I know exactly how you feel.....For your peace of mind, definately call and talk to this woman.
Kristy