How would you rate your marriage?

[Disney Doll]

I'd say we avergae about an 8 because no one is perfect. We may occasionally drop into the 6 range if one of us is being cranky or obstinate, but for the most part we get along very well, have the same values, laugh at the same things, support each other etc.

 

[rnd4life]

I would say an average of 8-9. We've been married almost 11 years and he is truly my best friend. He's always been a great help with the kids, changes diapers, helps with dinner, etc. On top of being a great husband, he's also one heck of a terrific father to our 2 boys.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Our marriage rates an average of 8. Sometimes we have -1 days and sometimes 10+ so on the average I give us an 8.

 

[SC Minnie]

I would say an 8. We have a good marriage and rarely ever fight.

 

[Jennifer S]

I say 8 too. We get along really well, rarely fight. He's a great dad and helps a lot around the house. Honestly we mainly fight when I have PMS. It's true my hormones are awful a few days before and I admit I'm a crank then.

 

[cats7494]

I would say ours is a 9. We help each other out and listen to each other. One key is "good will" towards each other! We are always thinking about how to be kind to each other and show our love.
It is small things too....like this morning - I went out to leave for work and he had scraped the ice off of my car windows. It was a small gesture - but one that shows he cares for me and I really appreciated it!

 

[Jackie0824]

I really want to say How happy Iam to see so many good marriages. Honestly, I posted this to see that there are good marriages out there.My marriage isnt so hot(Im the original poster).I suppose 12 yrs ago, before kids it was. Ive changed, hes changed.We dont have the same common goals for the future. Common goals for daily life, yes those are the same. Some things I wont comprimise on. We are just 2 totally different people , with 2 totally different outlooks and goals for the future. Hes a good person, Im just stubborn and moody alot LOL..We do bicker alot, not really fight so to speak. Unfortunately I put my kids needs first and formost, and not enough attention to my marriage. We rarely spend any time alone apart from sleeping at night. Its as if we share our kids together and thats it.
So It truely makes me happy that you sound like you all have wonderful marriages. Keep it up!

 

[mickeyfan2]

It is small things too....like this morning - I went out to leave for work and he had scraped the ice off of my car windows. It was a small gesture - but one that shows he cares for me and I really appreciated it!

That was so sweet of you DH. Before a garage, DH would always do this too. Yes the small things really do show you how much the other person cares.

 

[pearlieq]

I'd give us a 7 or an 8. Some days are better, some are worse. He's a kind man, a good provider, and very devoted. I wish he was more thoughtful and took more initiative around the house. He probably wishes I were a little less critical and more interested in going out and doing things.

We care very much for each other and we make a good team. We bicker, but we rarely have serious fights and we've never had a fight we couldn't resolve pretty quickly.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

At this point in our lives I would give us a 9! However we met when I was 14 and have been married forever so there were a lot of times when I would have said 3. We've survived seven children, cancer, parent's serious illnesses etc. These things have only brought us closer. Right now has been a good time for us - last child in kindergarten and two graduating from college this year. We've stuck through it for the long haul and have weathered a lot but he is still my best friend.

 

[Mom Of 2 Girls]

I'd say a 9. We will celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary on Jan 11th. I am blessed to be married to an intelligent, loving, generous, kind and funny man!
We never run out of things to discuss. We completely enjoy each others presence.

We are passionate people so we do have heated disagreements! But these disagreements most often concern social/technical issues. Whether it be engineering, literature or wine selections -- we've had some sort of emotional discussion.

We are in complete agreement on issues of religion, raising our kids and money.

I thank God for blessing me with Lawson.

 

[Jynohn]

There were times early on when I would have rated us a 4 or a 5, but I have to say that deployment has really strengthened our marriage. We learned how to communicate better when we had to rely on short phone calls, letters and emails and have definitely learned to appreciate what's important and not sweat the small stuff.

There's nothing like not knowing if/when you'll ever see your husband again to understand just how important he is to you. I now realize that I spent way too much time arguing about his socks on the floor and the fact that he left his dishes in the sink, and too little time appreciating the fact that he's the kindest, most thoughtful and devoted man I know.

I'd put us solidly at a 9 right now. Hopefully it will stay that way after the post-deployment glow wears off!

 

[tiff211]

It ebbs and flows, has gone down to a 1 and goes up to an 8. Right now, it's
about a 7.

 

[hydster]

I'd have to say about an 8 almost all the time because like others have said no one is perfect so I can't give a 10. He is my best friend, treats me like a queen, is a great dad to our 3 kids, provides so that I can stay home with my children while they are young, loves me despite my pain in the butt family, pms or depression issues, we have the same goals, sense of humor, taste, and love for each other. If we fight it's usually once a year if that and it is never anything really serious just the normal "you're living 24/7 with someone else" type fights. We've been together for 17 years and just celebrated our 14th anniversary. High school sweethearts and all the other "gaggy" things that our kids point out about us.

He's leaving for a business trip sometime soon (if he can find anyone decent to hire in Jacksonville) and I'm stressing out. I hate it when he's gone and thankfully he doesn't go often but I just miss him.

 

[Bob Slydell]

12

 

[hydster]

12

SUCK UP!

Just kidding!!!!

 

[jamzots]

I really want to say How happy Iam to see so many good marriages. Honestly, I posted this to see that there are good marriages out there.My marriage isnt so hot(Im the original poster).I suppose 12 yrs ago, before kids it was. Ive changed, hes changed.We dont have the same common goals for the future. Common goals for daily life, yes those are the same. Some things I wont comprimise on. We are just 2 totally different people , with 2 totally different outlooks and goals for the future. Hes a good person, Im just stubborn and moody alot LOL..We do bicker alot, not really fight so to speak. Unfortunately I put my kids needs first and formost, and not enough attention to my marriage. We rarely spend any time alone apart from sleeping at night. Its as if we share our kids together and thats it.
So It truely makes me happy that you sound like you all have wonderful marriages. Keep it up!

Ditto, Ditto, Ditto, this is my marriage exactly and we have been married almost 14 years!! One of my biggest gripes is that he just doesn't get why I want to go to Disney for vacations, I mean we go other places as well and I told him he can plan a vacation for us if he wants, but he has no motivation to do so. Like you said, 2 different people, 2 different outlooks, and it's about everything, not just vacations. Our relationship is just not that meaningful anymore and if we didn't have kids, I probably wouldn't still be here. I give our marriage a 5. We should do a poll for this!!

 

[Rajah]

I'd give mine a 6 right now, but a few months ago I would have said a 4 so we're climbing. It would be higher, but right now we have different goals for the short-term (pre-retirement) future. I have to admit that for some reason, DH has *really* changed his attitude and actions in the past few months (I've been trying but had pretty much given up), which has vastly improved our relationship. Now, we're both trying to make things better again, so things are looking up.

 

[nativetxn]

I'm not really sure how to assign a number to our marriage. Have there been times when I wanted to knock his block off? You betcha.

Have there been times when he melted my heart by bringing me flowers for no reason at all? YEP

My mother told me once that there was no such thing as "happily ever after". She said that if I was lucky I could have happier ever after.

She was right. You have to fight a little and love a lot to have a successful marriage.

Katholyn

 

[jimmiej]

9.75 Since no one's perfect

Seriously, we've been together since jr. high school (25 years of marriage next July). We don't agree on everything, but we do on the big things. Hey, we both love WDW; that's worth 5 points right there!