How would you rate your marriage?

[imsorry]

9.9 - if he would just realize that I am always right, it would be a 10!

 

[Sandcass]

I really want to say How happy Iam to see so many good marriages. Honestly, I posted this to see that there are good marriages out there.My marriage isnt so hot(Im the original poster).I suppose 12 yrs ago, before kids it was. Ive changed, hes changed.We dont have the same common goals for the future. Common goals for daily life, yes those are the same. Some things I wont comprimise on. We are just 2 totally different people , with 2 totally different outlooks and goals for the future. Hes a good person, Im just stubborn and moody alot LOL..We do bicker alot, not really fight so to speak. Unfortunately I put my kids needs first and formost, and not enough attention to my marriage. We rarely spend any time alone apart from sleeping at night. Its as if we share our kids together and thats it.
So It truely makes me happy that you sound like you all have wonderful marriages. Keep it up!

This is pretty much like my marriage, except 1/2 the time I sleep on the couch. I'd rate mine maybe a 2 and that's only because we are both of us very good parents. At least we've done something right. We've been married 13 years and I seriously doubt we'll see 14.

 

[JESW]

I am very envious of those of you who posted how good your marriage is and how you married your best friend. I had always thought I would do that but after 18 years of marriage most days I feel like I am living with a stranger. My DH is not a talker and I am so I find our relationship very lonely. He does not share his thoughts, dreams, desires, anything with me. I have talked with him, yelled at him, cried to him, etc. about all of it but nothing seems to work. DH is bi-polar and that seems to be his "reason" for everything, at least by his account. It gets real tiring after a while. I honestly can't believe it has lasted this long but I think it has just become habit. I don't even know what number to put on it....

Not meaning to start a pity party, but I am just very sensitive when it comes to issues of marriage. I just expected a lot more out of it. I get tired of being the only one trying so some days I just don't.

Time to eat some chocolate...

Jill

 

[JennyMominRI]

8.5.. I can't imagine a life without him in it

 

[mommaU4]

1/2 the time I sleep on the couch. We've been married 13 years and I seriously doubt we'll see 14.

I'm so sorry to hear that. It is sad when a marraige doesn't work out. Especially after so many years of being together. But ultimately you have to decide what's best for you. Life's too short to go through it unhappy.

I would rate my own marriage at about an 8.5.

We've known each other since we were 13, so we have literally grown up together. We always talk about how we want to grow old together, but it takes work and appreciation to make that happen. So we are always doing little things to surprise each other and keep each other on our toes, as we like to say.

We are opposite in alot of ways so there's always alot of discussions (not fights) and I have a real hot temper, but in the end we always find a way to compromise or work it out. And I think that's the best example we can set for our kids, to let them know that it's normal to not see eye to eye on everything as long as your able to talk it out and agree in the end.

 

[hugsquared]

I'd have to give mine a 8-9 (so I guess thats a 8.5). Neither of us are perfect in any way. He's messy and I'm not good with money. But there is such a high degree of love and respect. We rarely, rarely fight. Thats been a great thing from the beginning. When one of us feels like something needs to be dealt with, we sit down and talk it out. Not to say we haven't had our moments over the past 7 years but they are very few and far in between. I think the biggest thing is that we are best friends. He's someone that, if I weren't married to him, I would want to be friends with him.
So between being the love of my life AND my best friend, I have the best of both worlds.