How Would You Have Handled This??

[webmomom]

I went into Millionaire and picked a row.Did not look at the people ahead of me. Went I went to sit down the woman who was next to me was very large as well as the man she was with. Now please don't think I am picking of large people. When I say large I mean tall and weight. When she sat down her right leg came over the next seat and I could not sit in it. I sat in next seat. When they were seating the last people the Cm"s were coming up and down the aisles telling us to fill in each seat. I could not move over as her leg was there and I could sit in the seat. I know she heard them as everyone could hear them. They keep telling me to move. I did not want to embrass her by saying to the cm about her leg, so I just sat there with a look on my face hoping they would see why I was not moving. Of course by this time everyone around us was looking at me for not moving. Now I was embrassed. Finally she caught on and moved her leg as much as she could do, which was not much and I moved. I was basically sitting on her leg. She did nothing the whole time but complain about her legs hurting her and she could not reach the buttons to push as she did not have enough room.

How would you have handled this?

 

[tinawv]

I think I would have kindly asked her if she could move her leg, and explain that I didn't have much choice in the matter since the CM's kept repeating for you to move down. I understand that it was a difficult situation to be in, and easier to say what I would have done than do.

Hope you had a great time.

 

[CarolMN]

I would not have moved. If a CM continued to press me, I would just say that there wasn't enough space to move and leave it at that. I agree that it is easier to say than do.

I wish the CMs would reserve the "fastest finger" spaces (if they are even there anymore) for those who are really too large to be comfortable in those tiny seats!

 

[goofy4tink]

I think I may have tried to make a joke out of it...like maybe saying.."Sheesh, do you think they want us to move in together too?" Very sticky situation. You don't want to hurt someone's feelings or have yourself look like a selfish moron for not moving in. You would have thought the CM could have seen the situation and been a little more compassionate.

 

[Tinkbell]

That really was a sticky situation. I probably would have just left the row. It sounds like tha lady really could not fit into the space provided and I would not want to be sitting on anyone's legs. I don't blame the lady. Those seats really were on the smaller side. CMs should be aware of this too before they shout across aisles. They should have been able to see what the problem was just by glancing down the row.

 

[onlyholly]

Very difficult situation but quite clearly the CM's lack of common sense and compasion.

I certainly wouldn't dream of taking Stepman's advice or is he what we call in the UK forums a troll (someone who gets a kick out of causing a riot on chat/forums) - very sad to have such an attitude but best ignored I guess for being so ignorant (must be boring to be so perfect in every way).

Sorry for the rant but I sure feel better for it.

Holly

 

[onlyholly]

What happened to Stepman's reply - did he have his wrists slapped ?

Seriously I am fairly new to this board, was his post removed because of his 'nasty choice of words' ?

Holly

 

[crazymomof4]

Ha Ha I read the first post by onlyholly and then went on a mad search for Stepman's reply before I read the 2nd post by onlyholly.

Cannot give any insight on where the post went but it must have been pretty bad to have been totally removed and not just have a warning issued.

Anyway, webmomom, I feel your pain! What a spot to be put in! I was thinking as I read your OP that I would have gotten up and walked over to the CM, looked him right in the eye and said something like, "Do you see the seat you want me to move to? Obviously, it is impossible for me to sit there, but I didn't want to make an announcement as to why. I don't appreciate your putting me in this position." That way if it happened again the CM would be a bit more aware (at least you would hope ).

 

[Aubrey]

If for example, the person next to you had been in a cast and could not have possibly bent their leg or arm enough to fit into the space, would it have felt more comfortable to decline to move? I think it would have been fine to shake your head "no" at the CM with a sympathetic smile on your face and if he/she had a continued issue with it, they could have approached to see what the matter was. For all they knew, the seat could have been broken, wet, or otherwise unusable. The problem was with the CM, not with you and I suspect the person next to you knew that. For that matter, the large person is not unaware of their size and as long as you phrase it kindly, I doubt they would take offense at your simply stating that "I can't, there isn't room" or "sorry, we don't fit".

 

[goofyernmost]

I know I would have just stayed put and waited to see if the CM came over. When he/she did I would just say that moving would have made your neighbor uncomfortable and that it wasn't reasonable to do so. End of discussion. If the CM made a bigger deal out of it, then I would have asked to see someone higher up and complained about the lack of common sense, etc. It wouldn't have bothered me to take the blame rather than embarass the lady. I will admit that it is to bad that you were put in such a spot but, as has been stated, it was absolutely the CM's lack of attention that caused the problem, not you.

 

[eeyore0062]

Your best bet would have been to call over the castmember and quietly inform her of your prediciment. I am sure had she been aware, she would not have called as much attention to the matter, therefore making the situation more comfortable for both you and the other guest.

I am sorry that both you and the neighboring guest had to be so uncomfortable! Unfortunately, what is obvious to one person, isn't so to another.

 

[caitycaity]

yikes. dh and i are both overweight and tall, but fortunately we've never had this problem.

i would have politely declined to move until the cm came over. that cm sure doesn't sound very observant.