How would you have handle this...

happygirl

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We were eating lunch at CiCi Pizza, when we were approached by a man, he handed us a pen with a note attached saying, Hi I'm deaf and I sell pens to help make a living any donation you choose to make is greatly appreciated. Thank you and God bless.

We gave him a dollar he smiled and waved and was on to the next table. Would you have gave him any money? The manager waved at him when he came in so I guess he has permission to be there.
 
Well, I wouldn't be eating at Ci Ci Pizza. :lmao: But. I have seen this thing before. I have also seen people hand out notes in English saying they do not speak English. My wife can speak 4 languages so there is a good chance she can speak to them. :thumbsup2 But, I shake my head no. We donate money elsewhere and they can get help there. Anyway, it's in very poor taste that they do this.
 
Nope, I would have a problem with someone interrupting my meal for this. Same policy for anyone who calls the house for a donation. Regardless of the cause, if your fund raising method is telemarketing, no donation from me.
 

I don't think the manager should be allowing this to happen inside the restaurant.

I wouldn't have given him money either. We donate to charities, but not to individuals like that when you don't know if they are telling the truth, or just scamming people. Yeah, it may be only a dollar, but those dollars can add up to a pretty good income for some people that do that.
 
I have had people walk up to me like that in Walmart parking lot with a note saying they were deaf and selling a pen. I gave them a few bucks I had in my wallet and handed them the pen back. I don't need the pen but obviously they need the money. If you are willing to go out in public and beg for money you are obviously in great need.

I know you are going to have some people come along that say all those grifters are actually rich and drive BMW's from fleecing people for money and begging but I don't believe that for a minute.

They may take drugs or be an alcoholic and that is why they need the money but I think anybody that has to beg for a living is in a way worse off position than I am and if I actually have the cash on me I will give them some. But the problem is I am real bad about using my debit card for everything and not having any money on me.

If I were sitting down to eat and someone approached me and I didn't have any cash I would offer them a check for a few dollars. I would not just give them ONE BUCK though unless that is all I had. I would not take the pen from them tough so they could sell it to someone else.

I also give money to homeless people sitting on the corner of the street with a sign begging for food, work and money. IF I HAVE ANY. I feel bad if I see them and don't have any cash. I will usually give them $5. No more though. They can walk across the street to McD's and get a combo meal for $5.

And as for eating or not eating at CiCi's... I had my DH take me there while we were in Orlando last week and I was surprised when it rang up and cost us $20 for 2 of us to eat there. I thought it was suppose to be dirt cheap but it wasn't. The buffet was $7 each and the damn drinks were $2.50 each. I was like :scared1::scared1:

I remember the first time I ever ate at a CiCi's pizza back in my home state of Texas about 25 years ago it only cost $2.99 per person to eat the buffet.
HOWEVER if you have a CiCi's near you, you can get a 15 inch large Pizza to go for $5.99 and the pizza they make you to go is way better than the crap they put on the buffet. The Pizza you get to go has more sauce, more Cheese and more toppings on it. It was actually very good Pizza. I don't eat meat 364 days of the year but when we eat at CiCi's Pizza I will eat their Sausage Pizza. I love it. But otherwise I never eat meat. I don't know why I make an exception there but I do. Anyway this was actually not even about eating at CiCi's. I got a little sidetracked.

YES I WOULD give them money. :goodvibes
 
Nope - there are other ways to donate. I don't trust anyone like that - it's stupid approach.
 
No, I wouldn't give money mainly because I rarely carry cash anymore.

The 'buy a pen to help me' is a scam I've seen often. I give my financial help to verified organizations that can help folks in an effective manner.
 
I know you are going to have some people come along that say all those grifters are actually rich and drive BMW's from fleecing people for money and begging but I don't believe that for a minute.

Why not? I've personally seen it. It's far more helpful to give the money to a charity that's actually helping people.

Plus, my husband always offers to buy people what they are claiming to need (we've heard gas and insulin) and suddenly they aren't interested if it's not the cash.
 
No. Years ago I gave once or twice but since I have not.

I have also had them get VERY angry when I've shook my head no while saying sorry. Ugh, not a good thing.
 
It is such a tough call....

I believe most all people are good by nature and want to help when we can, but it is always an awkward situation when it is forced.
 
This "deaf and selling pens" is as old as the hills. I would not have been happy to have my "dinner" interrupted by anybody soliciting from me. I would have given him his pen back.
 
It is such a tough call....

I believe most all people are good by nature and want to help when we can, but it is always an awkward situation when it is forced.

That how I feel as well, I would hate not to give to someone who might really need it
 
I sometimes fall for what may be scams when people approach me for money but my feeling is that if I give that person money then I'm still trying to put good into the world...if they are scamming me then shame on them but my intentions are still to try and do good and that should count for something!

And 9 times out of 10 I never give money but then there are those times I do because for some reason I'm compelled to hand over a couple of bucks at that moment.

I think you should do what you feel is right at the moment.
 
I would have handed the note and the pen right back to him and shook my head no. I would have also told the manager on the way out that I didn't appreciate the man coming around and interrupting my lunch/dinner by asking me for "donations".

It is one thing for people to stand outside the store//restaurant to ask for donations or to buy something since people can just walk by and ignore it, but I draw the line at people coming up to me while eating or shopping.
 
Yes. I have done this more than once. I also give to other charities, but a dollar here or there isn't going to hurt me. I always think there but for the grace of God.
 
No I.wouldn't have given any money. Where I live there are pros at that so no.
 
I was once told by someone in the ASL community that they find that very offensive and prefer that people don't encourage it by giving, so no.
 


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