How to write a thank you for...

[allisonswonderland]

Ok I would appreciate some honest help here and if you have something crummy to say , please just do not respond to this post as I have really felt like this board had become sort of unfriendly lately, not everyone, just by not responding to anything that I post or the things that are said in the responses - I try to be helpful when I can but I am not feeling it-

My sis in law to be who has created many problems came to my shower on Saturday - showed up in the same outfit she wore the day before and looked like she had not taken a shower, but that is completely beside the point. So some of you know the mean things that she has done and honestly I have not mentioned most of the things that she has done to me. At the shower she her gift is a Bible that has our name engraved on it that she bought at an outlet store - now I am not trying to be snotty about that, I buy outlet stuff all of the time, but....anyway - this person who is mean to me - but she thinks that she is Miss Christian of the world goes to church and is buddies with the preacher and all of this. We honestly do nt really go to church as often as we should but I am really kind of offended by this gift from her - if it had been from his cousin who is a minister and is performing the ceremony I would have not had a problem, but a person giving me a bible who does not practice what she preaches but gives this to me just upsets me. My fiance feels like bible selection is something personal and we both have our own.

So my question is what do I say in a thank you not- just thank you for the gift because I can not gush about this- I can be simple and thank her but that is pushing it.

 

[Deesknee]

How about Thank you I'll remember you in my prayers.(you can leave out the part about praying she'll be nicer).

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Oh Allison, I'm so sorry you are having to endure this woman.

What I think is interesting about her attempts to drive you away, is that they seem to bring you and your DF closer together.

Sweetie, I don't know what to tell you about the Thank you card, but just know that you are in my thoughts as you travel this tough road. Look to your heart to find the answers.

 

[JJClemson]

I am sorry you have to deal with this woman

If it were me, I would not give her the satisfaction of knowing the gift bothered me b/c it sounds like that was her goal. Just write a very short and simple thank you note. Something like, "Thank you for the bible."

Good luck

 

[hmgolden]

I would take the high road. I would thank her for taking the time to come to your shower, and thank her for the bible. I like deesknee's suggestion of telling her you'll keep in your prayers The thank you note doesn't have to be elaborate (or even that true), but I would do your best to show her that she's not getting to you (even if she is). Good luck! Your FSIL sounds like a real charmer!

 

[KT27]

Definately don't let hr know it bothered you. Like everybody said...be the better person thank her for coming to the shower, for the bible, and tell her you will keep her in your prayers (goodness knows she needs all the help she can get!). Don't let her rain on your parade!

~Katie

 

[wendy46001]

I like the idea of taking the high road...honestly something I’d have to work hard at...
Thank you’s don’t have to be long as people said…just a sentence or two…..I’d probably just say think you for the gift it has a special place in our home and leave it at that….(even if that place is a draw)

 

[hiwaygal]

I would take the high road. I would thank her for taking the time to come to your shower, and thank her for the bible. I like deesknee's suggestion of telling her you'll keep in your prayers The thank you note doesn't have to be elaborate (or even that true), but I would do your best to show her that she's not getting to you (even if she is). Good luck! Your FSIL sounds like a real charmer!

 

[BrideToBe82]

I'm sorry that your sil is acting like this. I agree with everyone else-take the high road and just write a simple thank you...you don't even have to thank her for the bible specifically just say "thank you for coming to my bridal shower".

 

[ead79]

I like the suggestions of taking the high road. Plus, if she's trying to irritate you, the best thing you can do is not let on that her gift bothered you. I would just write a polite thank you note thanking her for coming to the shower and for the Bible. If you don't mention the gift or making the note overly short, you'll tip her off that she got under your skin. I say just take the high road and don't let her know you're bothered by it.

 

[Laurafoster]

I completely agree with the other posters. I know how mean this woman has been and it just seems like her every move is to try and stress you out before your big day - like the saga with the missing invites!

I would just write a short and sweet thank you card, thanking her for coming to the shower and thank you for the gift nothing to over the top.

 

[juligrl]

I would take the high road. I would thank her for taking the time to come to your shower, and thank her for the bible. I like deesknee's suggestion of telling her you'll keep in your prayers The thank you note doesn't have to be elaborate (or even that true), but I would do your best to show her that she's not getting to you (even if she is). Good luck! Your FSIL sounds like a real charmer!

ITA!

 

[ItGirl753]

Allison,
I just want to say I'm sorry that you haven't felt very good here lately. I really hope I didn't say anything to offend you (don't respond to that), just saying I would never mean to! I know what you mean about not always getting good responses. I feel invisible a lot!

Good luck with your situation. I hope it all works out for you. I don't have any advice.