How to win around your DF...?!

[topsy]

Hi everyone!

Has anyone ever had to convince their DF that a Disney Wedding is THE ONLY way to go?!

I have been a Disney nut my whole life and have been telling my parents since I was a child that I WILL be getting married at WDW, and that I would fall in love with a like-minded Disney lover. Alas, the opposite has happened! My boyrfriend (we are not yet "officially" engaged but are having serious discussions about it) is not a fan of Disney at all and just doesn't get the whole thing. He thinks it's too commercial. However I am hoping this will change when he actualyl visits me working in WDW next year (that's right he has never been so as far as I'm concerned has not right of an opinion!!!! )

Anyway, my worry is that I am still madly in love with the idea of getting married at WDW, especially seeing as I will be working there and it is a huge part of my life. But I am also madly in love with my boyfriend and so if he really isn't up for it I would obviously much rather have him than a fight over a Disney wedding!

Any advice??!! Does fluttering your eyelashes work?!

 

[sandysplayhouse]

Hi everyone!

Has anyone ever had to convince their DF that a Disney Wedding is THE ONLY way to go?!

I have been a Disney nut my whole life and have been telling my parents since I was a child that I WILL be getting married at WDW, and that I would fall in love with a like-minded Disney lover. Alas, the opposite has happened! My boyrfriend (we are not yet "officially" engaged but are having serious discussions about it) is not a fan of Disney at all and just doesn't get the whole thing. He thinks it's too commercial. However I am hoping this will change when he actualyl visits me working in WDW next year (that's right he has never been so as far as I'm concerned has not right of an opinion!!!! )

Anyway, my worry is that I am still madly in love with the idea of getting married at WDW, especially seeing as I will be working there and it is a huge part of my life. But I am also madly in love with my boyfriend and so if he really isn't up for it I would obviously much rather have him than a fight over a Disney wedding!

Any advice??!! Does fluttering your eyelashes work?!

If the eyelashes don't work, appeal to his financial side by presenting the "discount" you get by being a CM.

 

[camara381]

My DF wasn't too convinced either at first. Mind you he has only been once. I scheduled a site visit with DFTW, during the session all his questions were answered all the doubts went away. After that he was convinced. I think the biggest thing for me was showing him how unchild like it would be.

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

you want my HONEST STORY..I can't believe I am going to say this on the Dis..and I may get banned but it is the GOD'S HONEST TRUTH!

DH and I have been together for 11 years..have a DD but he had a bad first marriage and was not interested in getting married again...until I got a Brazilian wax!

I swear to you..within a month of doing it, as god as my witness, he:
1. asked me to marry him
2. Married me
2. agreed to go on a Disney Cruise ( he is not a disney person )
3. agreed to a DFTW Vow Renewal on cruise

My esthetician loves this story and tells her clients that her brazilian job is so good, it caused a man to propose!

 

[Lynn5700]

HAHA Betsy lol!!!! You are too funny.

Talk to your BF about it...after he visits if he still is not into it then I wouldn't try to make him get married somewhere he does not want to. You guys are going to have to come to some type of compromise on where you both want to get married..I don't think it would be wise to make and try to convince him to get married there if he really will not want to. I would try once and thats it.

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

i know..too much information!!

but it is true and i swear by it until my dying day!

 

[camara381]

you want my HONEST STORY..I can't believe I am going to say this on the Dis..and I may get banned but it is the GOD'S HONEST TRUTH!

DH and I have been together for 11 years..have a DD but he had a bad first marriage and was not interested in getting married again...until I got a Brazilian wax!

I swear to you..within a month of doing it, as god as my witness, he:
1. asked me to marry him
2. Married me
2. agreed to go on a Disney Cruise ( he is not a disney person )
3. agreed to a DFTW Vow Renewal on cruise

My esthetician loves this story and tells her clients that her brazilian job is so good, it caused a man to propose!

That is the most hilarious story I ahve heard!!!! I can see why you swear by it!!!!!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

if you only knew how much of an introvert he is..and his first wedding was a MONSTER affair with 15 attendants..huge production..he hated ever minute of it so he has always said he never wanted that again

So not only did he marry me in August 2007, he gave me a perfect wedding with all my friends one year later. He told me last Monday night that he thought I did a good job with keeping it simple and elegant...he even cried during his vows!

 

[sandysplayhouse]

I love it!

 

[29apr00]

you want my HONEST STORY..I can't believe I am going to say this on the Dis..and I may get banned but it is the GOD'S HONEST TRUTH!

DH and I have been together for 11 years..have a DD but he had a bad first marriage and was not interested in getting married again...until I got a Brazilian wax!

I swear to you..within a month of doing it, as god as my witness, he:
1. asked me to marry him
2. Married me
2. agreed to go on a Disney Cruise ( he is not a disney person )
3. agreed to a DFTW Vow Renewal on cruise

My esthetician loves this story and tells her clients that her brazilian job is so good, it caused a man to propose!

Go Betsy!!

 

[Skylarr29]

My DF was the same way. He thought Disney was too corporate and he didn't get the 'magic' of it. He had only been maybe once or twice as a child and I am sure it was not a well planned trip. What I did was I planned a trip for us to enjoy together. I planned it with the specific intent of convincing him to have a Disney wedding (He is catholic too, so this was not easy lol). We ate at restaurants I knew he would like, Artist Point is now his favorite restaurant ever, he is an engineer so we did the dine with an imagineer at the Brown Derby, we took a segway tour, we took the Grand One out for Wishes, we had a couples massage... basically lots of romantic things that he never even knew you could do at Disney. Disney suddenly became a place for adults too and not just children. We ate dinner at O'hana and then walked on the Poly beach to the Wedding Pavilion, once he saw how beautiful it was, he got it. At first he thought a Disney wedding would be childish but once he saw that it could be elegant he was on board. GL, I have known I was having a Disney wedding since I was a teenager!

 

[dawrobin]

Skylarr- which DF are you refeerring too? There have been sooo many...

 

[Skylarr29]

Skylarr- which DF are you refeerring too? There have been sooo many...

Nope, there has only been two, one was a long time ago. I am referring to Robert. But thank you for your concern.

 

[PrincessPirate28]

I tried every thing you could think of but my DF wouldn't give in b/c his DGM won't get on a plane. All I really care about is the two of us not anyone else being there. I know that sounds very cruel but hey at this point waiting so long for the engagement and planning a wedding that is not my dream wedding (he even nixed any disney type of theme and he's a disney fan ) it's how I feel. So now we planning our wedding at home and doing a mini disneymoon, but I intend on getting there for a vow renewal.

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

Usually a guy will let the girl do what she wants and just say. Tell me where to show up.. I think you can do it!

 

[kingLouiethe1]

My suggestion is to make the argument that this is something you really want and would make you happy. Unless he has a dream wedding set up in his mind, then he really should at the very least seriously consider your wishes.

That's how I figure this relationship thing works. For my wedding I wanted to be cheaper, but having a band really meant a lot to him since he doesn't like dj music. I figured this wasn't really worth fighting for since I wasn't in love with a dj anyway.

 

[Racey]

Betsy - your story cracked me up!

My now fiance was dead set we WERE NOT having a disney wedding when the time came - but we are now.

I used to sit there next to him on the computer and read all the TR's and "Ohh" and "ahh" plus the occasional tear (and make sure he saw it). Eventually he would glance over at what I was looking at

I think he realised how much it would mean to me to have teh wedding of my dreams, and during the proposal (when I stopped screaming under my breath), he said I could have the disney wedding. He regrets it now tho because I dont stop going on about it .... and ours is in december 2012 - so i've got to learn to shut up and keep all wedding stuff to myself until we can actually start planning for real!

So my advice is ... show him bits from other peoples wedding TR's and that might help. Also, watch a few of the sneek peeks on STVS website when he's near

 

[topsy]

Usually a guy will let the girl do what she wants and just say. Tell me where to show up.. I think you can do it!

Yeah that is pretty true! Thank goodness for having these little fingers to wrap them around! Ok ok now I sound mean. I love him really!

Thanks for all your advice ladies. I think it is a case of having to compromise. If I can't have my dream Disney Wedding I will at least be getting my dream man, and hopefully a Disneymoon instead!

P.S. Betsy, I LOVE your story! Coincidentally I have an appointment at the spa next week, so we'll see what happens after that!

 

[Tink_Kel]

I say just hold on until he has the opportunity to visit himself and see how "adult like" and romantic it can be. Let it be his idea! Summer before last, I went to WDW with a good friend, just for a "girls weekend". This is the first year I was dating DF. When I got back, his friends kept on making the comments..."I'd never go, it's too commercial", "I'd never go, it's too expensive", "I'd never go, it's too crowded". Drove me bonkers, because THEY NEVER GONE BEFORE!!. Anyway, with a tainted mind, I asked my DF to go on vacation with me to WDW. He kept on saying afterwards, it wasn't anything like he expected. Duh! When you have people speaking negatively about it all the time!

I'd suggest to invite him for a visit, once you are a CM, and let him see first hand...do as the other poster said, and book romantic dates around his visit. I bet you before the end of the visit, HE will be the one suggesting a DFTW. If he's still against it then, I'd suggest a compromise and get married where you can both be happy, and then have a Disneymoon!

 

[mermaidbride1108]

Ok so I'm going to ask everyone to forget about the magic and the 'Disney side' of it

I know it's hard ladies

But how about the convenience?? I think that is what sold DF. We spent 2.5 days doing wedding stuff on our vacation a couple weeks ago and then we do the majority of it during the planning session, there's no visiting multiple vendors, going out multiple nights to do this and that. DF saw his friends having to do all of this stuff with their fiance's and he was dreading it! They couldn't hang out because they had to visit this florist, they had to check out another caterering hall, another Photographer.

I have to say I'm 11 months out from my wedding and I have all the big ticket items in place - the dress, Photographer, videographer, Officiant, the locations (along with the caterer, bakery, florist, and entertainment because we went with Disney!) Now he's excited about it because we have a wedding planner to help us. Have you thought about this angle?



Trying to pull out all the advice here