How to request 'no SOs please'

[florida-again]

My BF and I are at different colleges a long long distance apart.
It is my 21st birthday on November 14th which is a Monday.

So my BF will come and visit for the weekend but will have to be back at college on the day of my birthday, which obviously sucks.

On my birthday I would like to have dinner with my closest girl friends, but a couple of them have BFs here at college, who I would also consider my friends (but not close friends).

How do I politely request that my friends don't bring their SOs for dinner?

Not because I wouldn't enjoy their company, but because it would be a bit of a yucky reminder that my own BF was not there with me on my birthday.

Is that unreasonable of me?

 

[wvjules]

I thought he dumped you?

 

[Christine]

No, not unreasonable. Just say "hey, how about a girls night out?" That should do it.

 

[pattyT]

tell them

 

[christinadei]

I agree, just make it a girls night out. Enough said, they'll then get the idea. If you flat out ask them not to bring their boyfriends, some will get hurt feelings or be offended.

 

[florida-again]

I thought he dumped you?

Thankfully NOT! He's just being a big fat moody head...

 

[mickeyboat]

I agree, tell them you would enjoy a girls night out.

Denae

 

[RickinNYC]

You can ask your girlfriends anything you like, it's your birthday. No big deal.

What I have trouble understanding is why you'd be depressed or upset if their boyfriends would participate and yours couldn't????

 

[MsDisney23]

I thought he dumped you?

Ditto! To much drama here for me! But great entertainment!

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

"big fat moody head" Even my almost 9 year old doesn't talk like that.

 

[florida-again]

"big fat moody head" Even my almost 9 year old doesn't talk like that.

I was being purposely immature! I'm not just 'a big fat idiot head' or anything!

 

[helenabear]

I agree with those who said that you should just tell them. Wanting a girls night out is not bad at all!

Will admit I am shocked with a couple replies here though...

 

[Tigger_Magic]

Ditto! To much drama here for me! But great entertainment!

All I can think of now is "Save the drama for your mama!"

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Ditto! To much drama here for me! But great entertainment!

yeah, sorry I think I must have missed an update thread somewhere because last I heard you were giving him space.


I agree with the others - just tell your friends you want a girl's night out party.

 

[disneymom3]

I agree with the girls night out philosophy. I love getting together with "just us girls" and I am married. Don't quite get why their boyfriends being there would bum you out but whatever. Also don't get why you would give a rip if he is there or not if BF is a "big fat moody head."

Might have to steal that title for DD as it is pretty darn descriptive!!

 

[Stitchfans]

It is always fun having "just the girls" night out. No harm in saying what you would prefer. As someone else posted. Don't understand some of the reponses. Getting pretty nasty, and mean here, aren't we?

 

[MsLeFever]

but the real question about "big fat moody head" is what exactly is big and fat - his moods or his head? possibly both? Big Moods and fat head?

JK