anricat
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I think what the other reply was saying was that either way, the kid will have to deal with it when the parents are gone. Knowing ahead of time what they do or don't want doesn't really solve anything unless there's some other random heir floating around they could be gifted to. And in fact, such conversations, honestly, could lead to sadness, strife and disappointment all around.Sorry. I wasn't very clear, was I?
The woman's parents had told her they wanted her to have their points when they were gone. She didn't know how to tell them she'd rather they didn't leave them to her.
In the event you'd both die unexpectedly, having to deal with dividing or selling the contracts could feel more like a burden than a legacy.
I meant to discuss with them now if they want any of the points at all.
For example, my mother in law has a bunch of jewelry she has told me will be mine when she's gone. Big diamond things I have ZERO interest in. But they are super important to her and giving me this gift when she's gone is a really important gesture to her. I'm not going to pee all over her gift by saying, "you know, diamonds aren't my thing and I don't want any of these ugly gaudy things when you're gone." Instead, I told her that I really appreciated her thinking of me and that I knew they were precious to her and it meant a lot to me that she wants me to have them. I'll sort out what to do with them when that day comes.