How to get Dh to let you go?

[wenpop]

We have been to Disney twice, 2000, 2002 so I want to go this year too. We won a trip to go to Universal and while we are there I wanted to do 5 days at disney. BUt how can I convince dear husband that it would be a good idea. Plus we are short on money since we just got back from the grand canyon this summer.. We live in ga and are going to drive. I already have ressies for ALl star Movies that I made last year for Nov, and that's when I want to go on our Universal trip..
How can I get the money to convince him to go, other than ebay.. My digital camera is broke right now, how good are the sells without a picture? any help would be great,
or should we just skip disney and a have a blast at Universal/
thanks wendy

 

[gigi1313]

i drop hints, drop hints, drop hints, and then let him think it was his idea... it's worked four times now

 

[mjbaby]

Every partnership is different, so I will only tell you what we do - I'm not casting any judgments about how *you* should do things, okay? Alright then:

I would just find a way and go. If I really, really, want to do something and my husband doesn't think it's necessary or desirable we do it separately and don't begrudge each other. He like air shows and will travel to them, I think they're a snore-a-rama and stay home. I like Disney, he wants to wait to go until the kids are a little older. For my last three trips he didn't go and the one coming up he's staying home.

So...if it's important to you, make it happen. There's lots of good ideas for making extra money around these boards, if you need inspiration - read all the back threads and see what you can see. Babysit, petsit, ebay (maybe borrow a camera from a friend?), yard sale your stuff, take $5 a week out of the grocery money (I used to use coupons to try and get the most of our $50 a week budget and then pocketed the difference...if my coupons saved me $7 then I put $7 into the "vacation jar") and so on.

If, after all your planning your husband still doesn't want to go, well, kiss him goodbye and wish him a safe trip home and tell him you'll see him in a couple days. You'll miss him, sure, but you'll also have a great time and won't always wonder if you should have gone.

 

[Leota]

We do the same as mjbaby. WDW just isn't as much of a priority to DH as it is to me. So I save my own money to go when I want to but he doesn't.
He goes on big fishing trips without me, so it all evens out...

 

[disneymom2one]

My husband and I have an equal partnership so there's no "let" for either one of us. We also make all big decisions together. If the trip was important to me, I would push but otherwise I'd probably just enjoy Universal this time.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

I'm blessed that I don't have to get my DH to "let" me do anything. He can do without Disney, but because I love it so much, he will go for me. So because of that, I do things on our trip that I know he will really like. CAN'T WAIT FOR MAY 2006!!!!

 

[zippehsmom]

wenpop I understand how you feel. With DH & I it is not a matter of him "letting" me go, but rather do you feel like bargaining for it. DH loves cars and any accessories that go with. So when he complains about Disney costs, I remind him how much we pay for his cars and rims and tinted windows,etc...

With us it is give and take. DH could really not go to Disney at all. He only goes because of me. He looked at me today and said you could really go every year, and of course I said that was the goal. He knows that it is important to me and has already said that I could go every year, but he might not want to go. So he's agreed to go with me until the kids are a little older.

I think if you let him know how important it is to you, you should not have a problem.

Good Luck

zippehsmom

 

[pjlla]

Wish I could help. I am currently running a "campaign" to convince DH that we "need" to go to WDW this coming January 2005. Barring that I would agree to November 2005 (but it seems so far away!). If you come up with any great ideas, let me know!!..............P

 

[crisi]

let? What is this word "let?"

Seriously, we have a partnership, and I'm both the frugal one and the one responsible for the money. If I say we can afford to go, we probably can. And I make that decision based on what our total financial picture and goals look like

 

[pjlla]

Originally posted by crisi
let? What is this word "let?"

Seriously, we have a partnership, and I'm both the frugal one and the one responsible for the money. If I say we can afford to go, we probably can. And I make that decision based on what our total financial picture and goals look like

Normally I would agree with this statement ("let") 100%, as I am a very independent woman, but when it comes to WDW it is the DH that has to take the vacation time from work, so I do have to work around him and go when he "lets" us go. If he takes one of his four vacation weeks in January, then it doesn't leave many for the good weather. Plus he takes a vacation in August every year with my family, so I can't really complain too much!! And at this point I wouldn't do WDW without him.... we (kids and I) would all miss him too much and it wouldn't seem fair. Just counting the months until 2006 though, when he gets his 5th vacation week !! (J/K.... we try not to wish our lives away!)...........P

 

[skiwee1]

Do you want to go without him? My DH knows my love for WDW but doesn't share it or even understand it. We go our separate ways on some vacations and go as a couple and family on others. I guess my DH is very understanding as I can rack up the money I spend on 30 days a year onsite and he doesn't blink! I would just tell him that you really want to go and that you are going. That is, if money isn't an issue. If money is a problem then I wouldn't push him to let you go.

 

[samsid99]

Very good to hear I am not the Disney Mom, going on a trip alone with kids.....I have been catching so much flack, about going alone! My DH just doesn't enjoy WDW, he hates crowds, heat and rides! But knows that the DD's and I love so we embark the 3 of us on a girls vacation! But lately, like I said I have been getting lots of judgement. So it was refreshing to hear in the above posts I am not alone!

6 days left !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[skiwee1]

Originally posted by samsid99
Very good to hear I am not the Disney Mom, going on a trip alone with kids.....I have been catching so much flack, about going alone! My DH just doesn't enjoy WDW, he hates crowds, heat and rides! But knows that the DD's and I love so we embark the 3 of us on a girls vacation! But lately, like I said I have been getting lots of judgement. So it was refreshing to hear in the above posts I am not alone!

6 days left !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We girls have a much better time without the guys on our Disney trips. I have taken my now 5 y/o DD and my 66 y/o mom for the last 3 years. We do not have to listen to any whining about going into another souvenier shop, or stopping at yet another rest stop on the way down. Not having a man around for 10-15 days is truly relaxing! We have been leaving the guys home for up to 30 days a year and spending it at WDW. I don't care what people think of that. DH has his interests like golf where he flies down to Fla. with buddies for a week here and there and plays. He goes deep sea fishing for a few days here and there with buddies. He also goes golfing every Friday. He loves fast boats and he and DS spend quite a bit time on our boat during the summer weekends. So if he can have his fun then so can I! Don't get me wrong. We still spend more vacationd together then apart but they are both equally wonderful!

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Our trip is a funny store. We went last August and thought we weren't going to be able to go until July, 2005. I told DH I found a good deal (through the Universal site) for US/IOA. Tickets for all five of us were only $400 for 5 days, and we booked HRH Deluxe room Stay 5 nights/pay for 4. So this whole thing only came to around $1600. We were going to drive and make this a cheap trip. I started saying to DH that I couldn't believe we would be this close to Disney and not going. I reminded him of all the special memories we had from last year's trip. TO make a very long story short, we're now doing 5 nights at HRH and 6 nights at POR and we're flying. Just make sure you talk it up at opportune times. I also played the Disney planning video over and over! Good luck! PS he thinks it was his idea! LOL

 

[Jana49]

I think what Wendy meant was ... how can she get enough money to justify it??

It's all a matter of when there's a will, there's a way! Look all around the boards for good tips. I save change, use extra income, buy park hopper tickets 1 at a time at the Disney Store, etc. Lots of people use tax refund money to go...

Someone suggested you borrow a digital camera from a friend which I think is a good idea. I have never bought anything from eBay that didn't have a photo.

For the record, I have gone without my DH, too and as much as I love the man, the kids and I had a blast anyway!

Anyway, Wendy, good luck!

 

[nrsldy]

I LOVE GOING TO DISNEY!!!!!. MY HUSBAND THOUGHTS ARE BEEN THERE DONE THAT! HE GOES BECAUSE I ENJOY IT. WE DID NOT TAKE MANY VACATIONS WHEN OUR CHILDREN WERE YOUNG( NO FUNDS). NOW THAT WE ARE RAISING OUR GRANDSON IT IS IMPORTANT TO US WE ALL ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE. MY HUSBAND HAS TRAVELED ALOT OVER THE YEARS WITH THE AIR FORCE AND WE HAVE NOT. IF WE STAY AT SHADES OF GREEN I HAVE NEEDED HIM TO GO BECAUSE OF HIS ID. NOW IF I WANT TO GO I STAY SOMEWERE ELSE AND GET MY FIX. WE DO NOT HAVE LITTLE CHILDREN SO BOTH OF US ARE NOT NEEDED,BUT TWO IS GOOD.
HE LIKE FISHING ,I LIKE WDW. HE WANTS TO GO TO ALASKA , I WANT FLORIDA. THEN EVERY SO OFTEN WE AGREE. I HAVE FOUND THE ONCE YOU START TALKING THE PLANNING BEGINS, AND THE MAGIC OF DISNEY TAKES OVER.
GOOD LUCK!!
TRACY

 

[mad4themouse]

I can understand where you're coming from. My DH likes WDW. But the kids and I LOVE it while DH feels that we've "done Disney to death" over the past 5 years and it's time to move on to something else. In a way, I agree but it doesn't make it any easier to give up my Disney fix.

As I see it, your DH's objection are not to Disney itself but to the money it costs to get there. If you can find a way to pay for the room and passes, then you will make your case for a WDW visit even stronger.

Sit down and make out your budget, taking into consideration the various costs of room, passes and additional meals eaten out. Think of creative ways that you can trim the budget at home to meet those expenses. If you can show him that you can do it without going into debt over it, you may be able to convince him that WDW id doable. Good Luck!