How should I handle this?

[sajetto]

As you all know NONE of my DFs family is coming to the wedding so that means he's not having a best man. However, my sister was invited to be my matron of honor all the way back in January and already bought the dress. Is it going to look bizarre to only have one person standing up there with us? Is there another way of doing this besides getting another best man since my DF Refuses to have another.

I would feel really strange asking my sister to remain seated except for taking my bouquet and straightening my train when she's already been asked to stand with me. How would you go about this ladies?

 

[Cinderella Fan]

I don't think it will look strange at all. In fact, I am in a similar situation. My MOH is unable to make it to the wedding, as she is having to move to Colorado for school during that time....

BG's BM is one of best and dearest friends, so I have asked him to walk with me down the aisle, and stand with both of us at the altar.

I think you should do what you feel comfortable with, as this is your day. If you want your sister to stand with you, then by all means.... I think just having someone support you that much means more than anything.

 

[BrideToBe82]

This is YOUR wedding and you can do whatever you want. I don't think it would be strange to ask your MOH to sit during the wedding-just explain to her your reason. If you want to have her standing with you-don't worry about what other people will think (it won't look strange) because this is the day where you can do whatever you want

 

[sajetto]

Thanks Angela. That's good news I'm really close with my sister and she knows the whole situation so she probably wouldn't get really upset if I asked her to sit most of the time, but I want her to stand. I think she deserves it after all she's done for me. I guess if anyone sees our wedding pics and video and asks about it I'll just tell them that we have one person because my DF's family STINKS!

 

[VistaLeigh'smommy]

I think you should do what you want to do because in 20 years from now you, your family, and your children will be the only ones who see the pictures! What ever you decide, your pictures will be beautiful!!

 

[sajetto]

Thanks ladies! It always helpful to get another's perspective

 

[JandJ]

As you all know NONE of my DFs family is coming to the wedding so that means he's not having a best man. However, my sister was invited to be my matron of honor all the way back in January and already bought the dress. Is it going to look bizarre to only have one person standing up there with us? Is there another way of doing this besides getting another best man since my DF Refuses to have another.

I would feel really strange asking my sister to remain seated except for taking my bouquet and straightening my train when she's already been asked to stand with me. How would you go about this ladies?

We had the exact same thing! The only folks from DH's side were to be his parents and his best friend, who would be his best man, but he fell ill about a week before and could not come to the wedding. We briefly thought of asking my brother to be best man, but he and DH while friendly with each other, they are not close so we decided that we didn't need a best man at all. So, my niece, who was my MOH, was our only attendant. She loved it, let me tell you! Since it was too late to cancel the best man bout she wore it the next day to our brunch and at MK

She stood next to me the entire ceremony, which is just what I wanted. She fixed my train, held my bouquet, and she also was in charge of both of our rings (no best man to give DH my ring!). I don't think it looked weird at all. In fact, in most of the pictures, the photographer focussed just on DH and me, so you don't see anyone (else except Rev. Jack). Here's a couple pictures from the Disney lo-res CD to give you an idea of how we looked with just a MOH

 

[Skylarr29]

I don't think it will look strange at all! Everything will be just fine! Now a days there aren't really any 'right' or 'wrong' ways to have a bridal party!

 

[Cinderella Fan]

You are absolutely welcome! That's the way to think about it. Your opinion is what really counts.

Thanks Angela. That's good news I'm really close with my sister and she knows the whole situation so she probably wouldn't get really upset if I asked her to sit most of the time, but I want her to stand. I think she deserves it after all she's done for me. I guess if anyone sees our wedding pics and video and asks about it I'll just tell them that we have one person because my DF's family STINKS!

 

[janine]

My Bridesmaids stood with us under the gazebo right through the ceremony.
It will be ok for her to stand close to you both, she doesn't have to sit down.
Just let your officiant/EM know beforehand. Your EM will go through a few things with you before the start of the ceremony.

 

[sajetto]

JandJ that doesn't look weird at all! I was worried about nothing, but that's pretty typical of me. Thanks so much for posting a pic

 

[Laurafoster]

I dont think it will look weird at all! Its obviously important to you to have her standing there so i would just go with it!

 

[JandJ]

JandJ that doesn't look weird at all! I was worried about nothing, but that's pretty typical of me. Thanks so much for posting a pic

You're welcome! I know, I worry about things all the time that don't need worrying about. Yup, it looks fine, it really doesn't look like someone is "missing" or anything like that.

Wow, only 3 months to go!! How exciting

 

[ItGirl753]

I think it's fine to have just one. She is obviously supporting both of you in this marriage, so I think it's appropriate. That's just my take on it.

 

[Steph11787]

There really isn't a right or wrong anymore. My brothers are standing with me.

 

[sajetto]

You all are the best! I can hardly believe its only 3 months away!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I say to do whatever feels comfortable to you.. I dont think that having one member of the wedidng party would look bad.. It would seem so intimate and personable...