How old is too old . . .

[RadioFanatic]

to still be wearing diapers? My niece turned three in January and is still in diapers and nothing will change her mind - new cute dora underwear, treats, nothing. Just curious.

 

[minnie56]

When she's ready, she's ready! Could be this time next week, might be a couple of months...it's no big whoop, I've never seen an adult go off to College wearing diapers!

 

[llij]

ITA with the above poster!

BTW, my nephews were four before they were potty trained. They were determined that they wouldn't do it until they were four and "poof" on their fourth birthday they were immediately trained.

 

[minnie56]

I was thinking after I posted of my DD now 19..and how she had a woolly-clown-toy that went EVERYWHERE with her and us! People used to say "Oh, you should cut it up and make it smaller and smaller till there's nothing left" and I was horrified! I used to say "I couldn't care less if she carries it down the aisle with her instead of a bouquet"!
He eventually became history when SHE had had enough of him!

We should know that from the day they are born, we are on THEIR schedule!

 

[Disneemomee]

My daughter just turned three she wont even put a pull up on she throws a fit, she has p and pooped on the potty but refuses to wear a pull up or underwear, so i am going to wait till the summer and try again, as my pedatrician said" I havent had a patient wear a diaper to the prom yet"

 

[Andrea]

I was thinking after I posted of my DD now 19..and how she had a woolly-clown-toy that went EVERYWHERE with her and us! People used to say "Oh, you should cut it up and make it smaller and smaller till there's nothing left" and I was horrified! I used to say "I couldn't care less if she carries it down the aisle with her instead of a bouquet"!
He eventually became history when SHE had had enough of him!

We should know that from the day they are born, we are on THEIR schedule!

lol i used to have a blankie and a cat i carried everyone where, and now that i am 26 i have them still just packed away in boxes somewhere.

my newphew is 2 and my sister in law is trying to potty train him, but she said he will be 6 before he's out of diapers lol

 

[CEDmom]

Many children use it as a way of having some control. My DD was 3 days shy of her 3rd birthday when she finally gave up diapers for good. We spent many weeks bargaining with her, encouraging her etc. Once we stopped making a big deal of it she mastered things in a day. My advice would be for everyone to back off and let the child do things all in good time. Encouraging is one thing pressure is something entirely different.

 

[skuttle]

My DS will be 3 in July and still has little to no interest in the potty. I've gotten him to sit on it a few times, but he never did anything. I asked if he wanted to wear cool mickey underwear or something similar, so we may buy some and see how that goes. I think he can do it, he's just choosing not to, IMO.

His teacher told me that I could send him in regular underwear with plastic pants over it in order to keep his clothes clean if I wanted to. I'm not sure about that, though. Everything I read and hear says "don't push it." I think I'll wait until DS's 3 year check up to talk to his ped and see what, if anything, she suggests.

 

[luv2nascar]

my dd will be 3 end of June and has no interest yet. She actually usually cries if you make her sit on the potty. I have gotten her to switch to pull ups but she is still going in them. I bought her underwear with princess/dora no luck. Bribing with M & M's her preferred candy - no luck. She's just not ready yet.

 

[JoyG]

My son turned 3 in March and he has no interest in the potty. He yells and screams when you even mention the word. I'm going to try again after school lets out in June to see if I can get him trained. Hopefully by then he will be more receptive. His brothers were trained right around the age of 3 also.

 

[texasthree]

My son was 3 1/2 when he decided he was potty trained. I tried several times nearly crying at the ends of weeks without any progress. Finally at 3 I gave up and just let him be. I started one week by putting some underwear on him during the day and then at bedtime I went to change him into a diaper and he said no I am potty trained..........never an accident since. I would stay away from pull ups personally, they only made things worse for us and many of my friends agree.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I know very very few 2 year olds who are/were potty trained - most are 3 when trained.

They do it on their own time; it's one of the few things they really have control over and they seem to realize it =)

 

[Aidensmom]

I think my son used it as sort of a control thing for a while, he was still in diapers at 3, but when I started him at a preschool where the 3 year old had to be potty trained or stay in the 2 year old class, he "learned" real quick.

He still wears a pull up at night though, and he is 4-1/2.

 

[Beth76]

My son was 3-and-3-months when he decided to be potty trained. I say decided because he knew what to do for several months, but he needed to make the decision on his own to be fully trained. Parents have different ways of dealing with this. Some people want to train, train, train for a few days until the kid gets it. Some people do it over a long period of time. It can be frustrating for a parent and for the child as well. But it will happen eventually.

 

[pixiemomma]

Average ages are 36 months for girls and 39 months for boys. Mine were very easy and fairly early, at 30 months.

 

[DisneyPhD]

<--------------- Read my tag.

Sorry I just couldn't resest. I have a lot of fun with that tag.


I am a firm beliver that children need to be potty trained when they are ready. For my DD she was 3 years and 3 months old or so. There isn't a magic age it happens. Some kids start really early, so later. I have found sometimes kids that start using the potty early, still have issues with it when they are 5 years old. (as my niece does.)

All in good time. Is your issue with your DN using them, or his mother not potty training him? Have you asked her opinon in it? As a mother I learned that potty training actually wasn't about me at all, but about the child. I needed to let go of my trying to control it and leave it up to her. Only then was she able to get it. As a mother I could do "everything right" and if she still isn't ready, that doesn't mater. The right thing to do was give her the "info and encouragment" she needed, and leave the rest to her.

 

[tiggersmom2]

My son was 3-and-3-months when he decided to be potty trained. I say decided because he knew what to do for several months, but he needed to make the decision on his own to be fully trained. Parents have different ways of dealing with this. Some people want to train, train, train for a few days until the kid gets it. Some people do it over a long period of time. It can be frustrating for a parent and for the child as well. But it will happen eventually.

I SO AGREE with this!! My 3 year old just up and decided to be "potty trained" one day. Don't stress it is my advice.

 

[Nancy]

Mine were all trained between 2 and 2 1/2. I was tired of diapers and since they were dry all night it was a breeze. They were going into nursery school at 3 and had to be fully trained to be admitted (no pull-ups) I never used pull ups..they are just gloirifed diapers. Sure I did lots of laundry for a day for a day or 2, but that was so much better than buying diapers all the time. My youngest was actually the oldest one to train, she was 2 1/2 before I started with her.

I should add that I don't think there is a magic age, you do whatever works for you and your child. 2-1/2 was my preference and worked out for us.

 

[va32h]

There's something to be said for starting them when they are just under two - when they still like to do things that please mommy, instead of devoting their lives to thwarting mommy!

But at the end of the day, you can't force a child to pee, in the potty or in his diaper.

My oldest dd was trained by 2 1/2, my son was nearly 4 (!!!).

My youngest dd is 2 years, 5 months and absolutely insistent that she will never use the potty. She will take off her diaper when it is wet, and throw it away, and bring me a clean one and ask me to put it on her - but she refuses to go in the toilet. I really think this is the child that is going to break my spirit.

 

[ticktock]

My mom and all her sisters were trained before they were one! Aparently everyone else was trained before they were two in my family. I got alot of grief for not pushing my son on the potty training issue. He decided to be potty trained on his third birthday. I did think it was wierd that he was old enough to hold conversations, but not pee. He would come to me and say "change me" and I would say " poof your a frog!". He didn' think that was funny, but I thought it was hilarious!