How often do you talk about the wedding to you DF?

[luna99]

I was reading in a bridal magazine where this woman wrote in a question about how to go about talking about the wedding to her fiance. The answer they gave was pick one day a week where you don't talk about the wedding at all and that should make your DF happy.

I'd be happy to get to talk about the wedding for one day a week!

My fiance is pretty much leaving the planning to me and when I try to bring stuff up to him, he'll listen but for maybe a few minutes then he gets tired of the details.

I just really want to talk with someone about all the small details.. (that's why I have this board! thank you guys!).

so my question is, how often did you talk to your DF about the wedding before he got sick of it?

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

I still talk to him about it & its been 10yrs

Anyway....I would bring it up to DH when you need him to help with decisions, especially if it means $$$ or something he has to do.

Its not that hes not interested, its just guys arent into details, especially if its more girly...they get uncomfortable, or some guys dont want to make the wrong decision & have the wedding look bad...so they leave it up to us & our naturally built in planning skills.

You dont really see to many groomsman magazines...do you...but theres like a 100 bridal mags.....its just an interest women have more than men.

If DH asks about it....then jump right into that conversation....or if you want to....try this....leave out some of your planning notes/pictures, etc & see if he checks them out or sneaks some peeks ....his curiosity might just get him talking!!

Good luck & happy planning

 

[catmorgan4]

I am lucky because my FI loves Disney! At first he left the dicision making up to me, but now that it is down to the wire he has no choice but to talk about it. With just three months to go we probably talk about it almost everyday.

My girlfriends however are probably done with hearing about the wedding. Thats why this site is a great place to talk about it because everyone wants to hear about other girls experiences at Disney. I think we have a unique connection to each other and it is very addictive. Im hooked!

 

[ChocolateMouse]

What if you ease him into it by assigning tasks to him with soft deadlines? There are hundreds of moving parts to a wedding a reception that you don't see on your big day. I probably throw out 80% of my ideas and planning because they don't work (like when I call five hairstylists before finding one).

You can request him to do all kinds of broad tasks without jeopardizing your wedding too much. Ask him to research reception locations, look at menu options, flight schedules, hotel recommendations, honeymoon options, alcohol and beverage options and so forth. If he comes back with some general information, then you guys can take the next step and process it further.

 

[Moonpie]

I think it just depends on the DF. Some men don't have any attention span for things they deem "girlie" such as weddings, and details of planning weddings. I'm sure there is something that he would like to be part of planning. Maybe your DF is good with computers, and can help establish a wedding website, or maybe he might be able to help make phone calls or appointments. And I also think that sometimes if you really tell your DF that you are relying on his help in order to keep your sanity, and that you would be able to spend a lot more time with him if he pitched in... Maybe that would appeal to his sense of chivalry.

 

[JJClemson]

DF and I don't really talk about the wedding much. We talked about it a lot when we first got engaged, and when we first decided on Disney. We talk about it every once in awhile, I guess. Not about the whole wedding though, just little details, like did you get Sean's (groomsmen's) measurements yet, do you know if your family made reservations yet, aren't you excited about our wedding cake Seriously, the cake is always what I bring up! I actually do not like talking about the wedding that much, b/c I get nervous. I do not like attention on myself, so when I really start thinking about it, I get freaked out and anxious I know, I'm weird! I work wedding issues into normal conversations, and it never seems to freak him out or anything. In fact, he might bring it up more than I do!

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

I talk to him way to much. He gets annoyed.

 

[yearbook50]

I mentioned stuff at least one day.

 

[purplegirl247]

I don't mention specifics too often; just when major decisions are made (by me exclusively; hee hee) or need to be made. I told him when I booked the vendors, for example, but didn't expect him to listen to me pine over who to decide beforehand. Mostly we just make references like "after we're married" or "once we're married." We talk about the marriage and what will change (like my name, our insurance, calling each other "husband" and "wife" officially. stuff like that).

 

[princessdisneybelle]

We talk about it almost everyday. We have alot of changes that will happen. Plus he is the odd DF that loves to hear all the details

 

[Tiggerific04]

aren't you excited about our wedding cake Seriously, the cake is always what I bring up! I actually do not like talking about the wedding that much, b/c I get nervous. I do not like attention on myself, so when I really start thinking about it, I get freaked out and anxious I know, I'm weird!

I always talk about the cake to my DF too! I think that's the part he's most excited about And you're not weird: one of the reasons we decided on immediate family only is because I can't stand being the center of attention. I get anxious just thinking about being up in front of those 10 other people. And they're my family!

To answer the original question, DF and I talk about the wedding almost everyday. Usually just little things... the cake, the dinner afterwards, music, etc.

 

[jasnal]

My DF and I talk about it all the time. He seems to just as bad about it as I am....lol. My DF loves Disney alot and he says that the way my face lights up when I talk about Disney or the wedding makes it worth talking about all the time!! In turn I listen to him gripe about vet school all day long.

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

Well I talk to him everyday about it, whether he wants to hear about it or not He is a good sounding board, if nothing else!
Alot of times I really just like to say my ideas out loud to work around all the planning that is going on in my head, speaking about them seems to work for me.
Although I know my DF is interested, he is only interested to a point. I have planned pretty much everything without him, but to be honest, I don't think I would like it any other way I am quite obsessive when I sink my teeth into something and planning out our Wedding/Disneymoon has me obsessed. I research everything and I mean everything. When first booking our accommodation, I spent weeks looking at pics, reviews, location, pros and cons for each hotel, before actually booking them. This is my world.....
I totally understand that my DF isn't into it like I am, he thinks without all this research we would still have a great Wedding/Disneymoon but I say it wouldn't be as great. All the effort I put in will show when we get there. I can relax now as I know I have done the best I can, the internet is a wonderful thing
I normally set aside a time at the weekend to discuss any major decisions (music, videography options etc) and he is happy to do this as long as he knows there is a time set for it (this is his escape clause )
I do talk about it too much, which is probably why I am on here every day, I need my fix!

 

[luna99]

Well I talk to him everyday about it, whether he wants to hear about it or not He is a good sounding board, if nothing else!
Alot of times I really just like to say my ideas out loud to work around all the planning that is going on in my head, speaking about them seems to work for me.
Although I know my DF is interested, he is only interested to a point. I have planned pretty much everything without him, but to be honest, I don't think I would like it any other way I am quite obsessive when I sink my teeth into something and planning out our Wedding/Disneymoon has me obsessed. I research everything and I mean everything. When first booking our accommodation, I spent weeks looking at pics, reviews, location, pros and cons for each hotel, before actually booking them. This is my world.....
I totally understand that my DF isn't into it like I am, he thinks without all this research we would still have a great Wedding/Disneymoon but I say it wouldn't be as great. All the effort I put in will show when we get there. I can relax now as I know I have done the best I can, the internet is a wonderful thing
I normally set aside a time at the weekend to discuss any major decisions (music, videography options etc) and he is happy to do this as long as he knows there is a time set for it (this is his escape clause )
I do talk about it too much, which is probably why I am on here every day, I need my fix!

you sound like me. my DF said "I thought the point of doing a disney wedding was to take all the hassel of planning out of it!" and that WAS a reason why we chose disney....

and to be honest.. planning a normal wedding probably wouldn't be as much fun for me..but since I know disney so well and have been going there all my life, it's fun to decide on restaurants and special things that I've never been able to do there before (like the fireworks boat cruises, etc...etc).

thanks for all your replies everyone! you help me so much!

 

[TinkBride]

pretty much daily......i am sure against his will. Half the time he probably doesn't listen, but just goes along with it, because he knows I need to talk about it......sometimes obsessively.

But here lately, he has been asking a lot of questions and talking about it to, because we are gettting so close to it! 3 weeks! YAY!!!

Last night I was literally doing that dance, because I am getting so excited!

 

[luna99]

But here lately, he has been asking a lot of questions and talking about it to, because we are gettting so close to it! 3 weeks! YAY!!!

woah! I"m so excited for you!!!! I can't imagine being only three weeks until my wedding.. it seems SO far away!! yay I'll do the dance with you!

 

[PrincessBride07]

The DF wants me to make all the decisions. He says he wants to avoid the evil look of "of course YOU would want something like THAT!". Also, I have a problem with him that he forgets what I have told him. Weeks later he tells me, I didn't know this because you haven't told me. We have just agreed for him to tell me who he wants there, get a suit, and just show up , which is what he prefers anyways.

 

[j_lehr]

I talk to him about it everytime something pops in my head. A lot of times, it will be random, out of the blue, but he is used to me being weird. Mostly he doesn't seem to mind...sometimes I can tell he would rather me stop talking but he would never say that. LOL

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