skiwee1 said:
To each his own. We love our stuff and our travel too. I can't imagine doing it for "appearances". We have it and do it because we love it. If we have to keep up with some of our friends we'd have to go out and buy private jets! No thanks! We will have a car payment but it is nothing for us to worry about. We have the money and we pay them. Actually when we do have payments we just put in our account and Quicken pays it each month. We don't even have to worry about sending it out! LOL! DH is a saver too so he does sock away quite bit but we also know we can't take it with us and thoroughly enjoy the here and now.
I guess people don't go into to it thinking that they're doing it for "appearances", but that's what it becomes. The Total Keep Up with the Joneses gig. I've read your posts in the past as well skiwee1, and my DH does the same thing that your DH does...executive level in the software industry. So, we've traveled in the same circles at times...if you know what I mean

. And so we both know the kind of incomes we're talking about here. And yet you said that you didn't know anyone who paid cash for cars. Isn't the ludicrous when you think of it? We're talking about people who are making really, really hefty salaries here....and yet they either have car payments or are leasing. Leasing I get to a certain degree. Especially if you are at a very high level and use the car for business purposes. Other than that, how someone making 200K on up can't pay cash for a car...well, it speaks to that lifestyle I was alluding to. Again, I'm talking about people we know and have known...not you.
We were out in California in the late 90s and we saw fortunes squandered...I mean enough to blow you away. And we were in our mid to late 20s at the time and it really stuck with us. We saw people who were millionaires go bankrupt, and it wasn't pretty. That's when we made the decision to not travel down that road because of "stuff". Even so, we did buy a big house (built it actually) in an expensive neighborhood in NJ....and it was even worse there. I know for a fact that there were people in there who have ever bell and whistle in their home...I mean top of the line applicances, electronics, cars....and very, very little put away for retirement. We went to birthday parties for children that would rival most wedding receptions. And yet, some of those people had very little put away for the future. After four years of living there we felt like most of these people were mostly just about things and not so much about people. It was all about who got this car or that car, who had the best landscape designer, who threw the most lavish parties....and it just really wasn't for us.
We have learned that really big income earners always thing that they will just continue to earn more and more.....and so they don't really need to worry about saving as much as Joe Blue Collar. And yet, we all know, that's not the case. I agree, you can't take it all with you. I guess it's about finding the balance. We're quite satisfied with the life we have and yet we still live well beneath our means. For us, early retirement is really important. We'll sacrifice some of those luxury items we could technically have today (if we so desired), for lots of extra time off down the road that will be funded by a huge nest egg.
We're always amazed at how much we can do with less money just by taking the time to look for bargains. So many of our friends would never look for bargains, especially when it came to travel. Or they wouldn't stay at a certain hotel because it didn't have a world class spa...that kind of thing. They would just book it...whatever the cost. We're doing two weeks in Europe this December for what our friends would spend in a week at Disney (because it had to be high season, conceirge....all of that).
So, we're all about no payments to anyone...ever. And we love the freedom that comes with that lifestyle. It's easy to say, "well, you can't take it all with you" when you have a rock solid saving and investment plan (which is seems that you have in place), but other than that I think that it is just an excuse not to save. It would be totally awesome to spend every cent we made...I mean...really awesome...lol! But then retirement in our 50s (and conceiveably earlier) would not be possible. And so it's a choice we have made...no car payments and never-ever a car lease.