Originally posted by MELSMICE
So, I feel that if they enjoy the activity, whether it costs a lot, or is a free clinic that they go to - what's the difference. Don't worry yourself about having equal costs for each child. Like I said, this is something that probably bothers parents more than anything else.
I agree. I read something in a parenting book about being "equal" vs. being "fair." The example was if one child needs new shoes, you buy them the shoes. You don't have to buy the sibling something just to make things "equal." You let the kids know you will buy them what they need when they need it. That's fair
My kids also don't know (or care) what their activities cost, just that they want to do them.

They do know that horseback riding is expensive and that we are budgeting to allow them to do it.
I think music is very important, so each girl plays the instrument of her choice. The sports are their choice, but I limit to one, as free playtime is also very important.

DD2 would take ballet, gymnastics *and* horseback riding this year if we would let her (and if we were made of money

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Our activities:
DD1
Piano - $50/month for 30 min lesson each week. Extra for music
Horseback riding - $100/month for 30 min lesson each week extra for helmet, riding boots, pants, etc. Will be big bucks for competitions when (if) she gets to that level.
DD2
Violin $32/month for 15 min lesson each week + $18/month to rent violin + music
Horseback riding - same as DD1
Last year they did gymnastics - 1 hour/week each was $80/month (for both) and the year before they did ballet which was also $80/month, but also $150/season for costumes + ballet and tap shoes, leotards, etc. Gymnastics seemed cheaper as they went barefoot

they also had all the leotards left from ballet...
In the summer they do swimming lessons - $50 per child for two weeks (45 min lessons)
Horseback riding day camp (5 days for 7 hours/day) $225 each
String day camp (5 days for 4 hours/day) $110 (dd2 only)
I'm another one whose DH has no clue what the girls really cost

(of course, they are priceless

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Laurie
