How many of you go without your dh?

[mommyaof2]

I feel so guilty! My dh just started a new job this month and he does not get a vacation week for one year. I already have a trip booked for April of next year and I really really really want me and the girls to go. My mom is more than willing to go with us instead of my dh, but I feel so guilty! I feel like I am doing something wrong going without him. He really doesn't seem to care, but oh the guilt! How many of you go without the dh? Should I feel guilty? Or should I just wait to go back until he can go? I just want to take my dd's back so bad and I don't want to wait until 2009! Not to mention it would be so much cheaper if he didn't go because then my mom would pay half the trip! What do you think? Go? Stay home and wait til 2009?

 

[cheerforchelsea]

I always go without my DH!! He decided he was tired of WDW - so now we go without him 2 or 3 times a year. It is a lot more fun without him - besides we need him to stay home and babysit our Yorkies!

 

[antree]

I know how you are feeling. I am going for the 1st time ever without my DH. It will be me and my son 5 and DD 13 and my cousin 15. Well actually we will be there a week then he will come. I wanted to take the kids for Halloween so bad, then the Christmas Party came up and I wanted to stay for that too. The problem was my DH only had 5 vacation days left. I put off booking our vacation for 3 months because I didn't know what to do. He was telling me to go and I felt so guilty I couldn't think about it. My Aunt and Uncle and cousins will be there a few days while I am there so there was even more guilt that we will all be there but him. He won't get there until after they all leave.
I kept saying I don't know, I needed someone to make me decide.
Then one day my brother called and said you better book your tickets they are selling fast. My cosuin will never be able to get a ticket home if I don't book the day he called. So I went online booked the tickets and didn't think about it again. Until I was told you better book a room or you will be sleeping in the lobby. So I booked the room and started making all the plans, the whole time with a knot in my stomach.
But guess what after a few days of planning, I was so excited I couldn't wait to go. I think The kids and I are going to have a blast.
I am going to miss my DH, ALOT. But when I think how excited the kids are and how much fun we are going to have, I know I'll get through it.

So I say go for it, once you start planning and the kids are all excited it will be well worth it. Your DH will be just as excited for you and the kids. I have never seen my DH so excited for us, or is he excited we will be gone a week. Hmmm, I'll have to think about that one.

 

[disneymarie]

I had the oppertunity to go on three trips without husband. He really didn;t care, we get to go together every 5 years that is enough for him. This is our first trip together since 2001. He said he really didn;t care, and he didn't. HE did not worry about my being alone as it was generally an invitation from a group that had openings, and he was happy our daughter could go.

If Mom would like to go that is wonderful for you all.
You will have a good time. I did call my husband every day, a few days twice I missed him, home, and there were storms going on. Sometimes we didn't chat long.

But I do remember he had far to happy a smile having the 6 days without us!
dianne

 

[mommyaof2]

We really do want to go! Thanks for making me feel better about it. It just feels weird planning it all out in front of him. I feel like I am rubbing it in. My girls are so excited to go though. I don't want them to be disappointed. I guess we will just plan on going anyways. I have to start making adrs next week!

 

[GEM]

I've done quite a few trips without DH (and many with him, of course). I've done trips with my mom, my sister, just me and my son, etc. Yes, DH has fun on our Disney trips - but he doesn't care to go as often as we do. And, to be honest, 10 days/nights alone in the house to do whatever he wants is MUCH more of a vacation for him! That, he really loves.

 

[Princess Roo]

Any way he could join you for a 3-day weekend of the trip? I see you're in GA, so if you're driving down, maybe he could drive down with you and fly back early. With this much advance notice, it seems like he could work out some comp time with his boss so that he could take 1 day off (or borrow 1 day from the next year's vacation time). I think it's awful when companies don't give you ANY vacation for a year, but DH and I have each had it happen once, too. Both times our bosses were somewhat flexible so that we could earn a little bit of time.
But if that doesn't work and he TRULY doesn't mind, then I would go ahead and go without him.

 

[javaj]

If he doesn't mind, GO! Have a great time!

 

[Bowen9475]

I did a trip alone last February vacation with the 3 kids - 10, 7 and 4. My husband was getting ready to open a new business and was not able to come. I did feel somewhat guilty but he was great about it - even snuck some bags of personalized M&Ms (Miss You and Have Fun) into our luggage as a treat. We missed him but still had a good time. In fact I'm taking the kids alone again this February for a long weekend trip. Again, he just couldn't be sure he could get away at that time. Go and have a good trip!

 

[Terry36]

This will be my 2nd trip just me and DD so I say go for it....it is so much fun.

 

[adoptionmomma4]

I have been on several one-week vacations and countless long weekends without DH. We miss him, but the kids and I like to travel and DH has to work. We have always had a great time on our vacations with and without DH. I always feel so guilty that he is sitting home alone. He assures me that he is just fine without us for a while We call him several times a day and give him updates on our trip.

I say if you already have the trip planned... GO. What a magical time it will be for grandma to see her grandchildren at Disney. I think you will all have a wonderful time.

 

[solgent]

We often travel without DH. We just went to WDW for 3 nights without him. He just doesn't enjoy travelling the same way that we do, and it certainly is cheaper for 4 of us because lots of places don't even accommodate 5. He is totally fine with it.

Don't torture yourself with guilt. You don't always go everywhere and do every single together because you have different preferences. You want him to enjoy the things he does that you'd rather skip, and I'm sure he wants you to enjoy this trip without him!

 

[nessz79]

My mom and I are taking my kids for the 2nd time without DH. We only go for short trips of 2-3 days (we live relatively close). We have a great time as we're all close, but I do want DH to start coming with all of us. I love having my mom there and would still bring her even if DH went.

 

[Caitsmama]

I am going next month without DH - i am taking my 6yr old dd and going with my inlaws.. DH can't go b/c he works 2 jobs, and then we are taking a Disney Cruise the following month in Dec., so he can't get both weeks off.. So, we haven't been on a cruise, so obviously he wanted that.. He will rejoin us in WDW in 2008. He is happy with one vacation a year.
We (dd and i) are also going for a "girls trip" with my mom and my sis to California in Feb. for school vacation. DH declined that trip as well.. But, i am not letting it stop me.. even though we will miss him, i love to travel, and i think it's important for dd to see as much as she can too.

Last Feb. we traveled with my mom (just me and dd) to Disney's Hilton Head resort for 9 days.. again, no DH.

Then, in Sept. 2008, i am taking dd and going with my inlaws on another Disney Cruise. (This time, DH wanted to go to WDW, which will be 2 months after) so he chose not to do the cruise..

As long as your DH gives his blessings, then go and enjoy! And bring him back a lil' somethin' somethin'. LOL

 

[mommyaof2]

Thank you all so very much! I feel so much better! I really do want to go! My mom was just here and said that she still wants to go with us, so I guess unless something majorly changes then we will be going without my dh! I just know that we will have a great time anyways. I will just have to have enough fun and eat enough for both of us! Thanks again!

 

[betsywdw]

I just returned from a trip without DH. My MIL and SIL were going and asked me to bring DD down for a few days. Since we are going in 2 weeks, DH did not want to miss work but really wanted us to go. We had a great time but we did miss him, I think he missed us even more but was really happy that we had a good time. I think you should go and take the opportunity to split the cost with your Mom. One thing I did for DH was go to the different locations where you can send a postcard via e-mail and send them to him throughout the trip, he really enjoyed that.

 

[MousekaMaddi]

Im laughing but HE IS serious,,,,,,,,,Its just DD5 and I.......DD5 and I have season passes and last year we went 8 trips,(before kindergarten) DH stayed home and worked and RELAXED

We hop on a plane and DONT LOOK BACK... We always have a blast just the 2 of us,,,,,,,,somedays we meet friends who come in for a few days or my parents fly in to join us,, but I love to be alone with just her and all the MAGIC its priceless!

We leave in 29 days and DH is joining us but hasnt been to WDW since DD5 was not yet 2 !! Looking forward to a great week all together just us 3.

 

[REW91599]

My husband is a school teacher and can only go during school vacations. I have traveled without my DH a number of times, because it cost alot less and he did not mind(actually enjoyed the mini vacation himself). We have planned a trip every couple of years together and always have a summer "Family" trip together. Mind you I don't go it alone, my Mom loves to travel and is always willing to spend a little time with her GS's. We do MISS him while we are away but it is nice to spend times with the boys alone.

 

[Davidsmommy]

I've done quite a few trips without DH (and many with him, of course). I've done trips with my mom, my sister, just me and my son, etc. Yes, DH has fun on our Disney trips - but he doesn't care to go as often as we do. And, to be honest, 10 days/nights alone in the house to do whatever he wants is MUCH more of a vacation for him! That, he really loves.

Exactly!

 

[cccm]

DD and I have been three times together. Each visit is longer than the previous. We enjoy going without DH.