How far do you let your almost 18-year old drive by themselves?

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Oh my...just not ready to let me baby fly the coop to "go distances" in the car.

(Probably has something to do with a nasty accident in my neck of the woods that killed 3 other teens. last weekend Although - this accident was very local.)

I'll update tomorrow with the specific circumstance on why I am asking.

Thanks!
 
depends on thier driving abilities and judgement. Our DS is more of a natural driver and he was driving 4-5 hour trips (with a friend along, not alone) just before he turned 17. He has driven 3 hour each way for snowboarding day trips, into Chicago for whatever, downstate IL to meet up with family friends. Our DD however, who is 21...has about a 2 hour limit, lol...but to be fair she does not have a car at college so she is at the mercy of being a passenger. Neither of them have had an accident or ticket, so it does help that they have proven themselves so far.
 
DS 17 just drove 140 miles roundtrip yesterday by himself. It was hard for me to let him go--lots of prayer on my part. But he did it and we all lived to tell the tale.


He has driven our family home from vacation 8 hours before with DH and I, but this was his furthest drive by himself.

He'll be 18 in June.
 
I was about 6 months past 18 and my grandma let me and a boyfriend drive to disney from northern virginia.
 
My DD18 started college this past year. We did let you take her car back with her after Christmas (she was driving with a friend). It is just over 5 hours driving. We made sure she did this during daylight hours since they were unfamiliar roads. I was worried, but know she is a safe driver.

I saw the news about the accident you are referring to on Facebook. One of my high school friends (grew up in NE WI) had a memorial picture for the girls. My heart goes out to their families. Such a tragedy! It would definitely make me think twice about allowing my DD to drive.
 
By 18, I had been driving a few hours away from VA to Maryland.

But I was kind of brought up really free range and learned to be independant at a early age.
 
Well I am 20, not 18, but my strict father is still very against me going too far. This has to do with an accident I was in at 18. A friend and I drove 6 hours to the beach (she drove, I didn't.) On the way back, we had a blowout, the car rolled over and was totaled and we were carted away to the emergency room.

It was just a freak accident, police agreed it had nothing to do with the driver, but it has made him paranoid. He worries, and I think he still blames it on the fact that we were young. I haven't been back to the beach with friends since.

Although I am driving nearly two out of town this weekend and he is fine with it.
 
Oh my...just not ready to let me baby fly the coop to "go distances" in the car.

(Probably has something to do with a nasty accident in my neck of the woods that killed 3 other teens. last weekend Although - this accident was very local.)

I'll update tomorrow with the specific circumstance on why I am asking.

Thanks!

My oldest is 20. She got her permit at 15 and license at 16. She drove herself to school the next day. We were at a school in TX that allowed kids with a drivers license to drive to school no matter the grade level.

Our rule was drive to school, friends, local for the first 6 months. After that she branched out farther. At 17 she learned how to do the highways (in DFW where driving can be scary to begin with compared to here).

By 18 she was driving herself all over the place including road trips back and forth to college which was about 3.5hrs. We live far out from people and driving is a part of getting around here. You have no choice.
 
My 21 year old just drove to Philadelphia this weekend, from Maryland. About 3 hour trip. I was a wreck the whole time but he managed to get there and back o.k.

Before 18 there were no long distance trips, they usually just drove around town and when they were seniors to school and back. The big one for us was the D.C. beltway, if you can drive on it, you can drive just about anywhere. Once they mastered that I was comfortable with them driving anywhere but so far the farthest any of them have been is this recent trip to Philadelphia.
 
I'd base that decision upon a couple things:

How long has the almost 18-year old been driving?
Has he shown responsible behavior behind the wheel?

Is he familiar with the road? For example, I'd say yes to driving to grandma's house, a place he's been 1000 times before, more quickly than I'd allow him to visit a friend on a college campus he's never before visited.

What kind of roads are involved? If interstates, does he have some experience navigating them?

Is the weather good? If it's icy/snowy, I might suggest postponing the trip.
Will any of the driving need to occur at night?

Who else is going? I'd say that one friend would be helpful -- a car full could become a party and could distract from his driving.

If you do allow him to make the trip, point out some things that you wouldn't have to say to an experienced adult: Make sure the car's in good condition, tires in good repair, etc. Make sure he has gas and gas money. Make sure he has good directions. And his phone is fully charged. These things, which are so automatic to you and me, aren't always second nature to a teenaged driver.


I have an almost 18-year old myself. A year ago, when she'd had her license less than a year, we said no to her driving across the state line to visit a friend in college. Now that she's had her license longer and has proven herself very responsible, I just said yes to her driving herself a similar distance for her own college orientation/registration in a few months. This'll be her fourth time visiting the campus, so she knows something about the town /where to park. I did, however, tell her that she'll have to trade cars with me for that trip. Hers likes to drink too much gas, and it isn't dependable enough to go past our city limits. I told her I'd be happy if someone else from her high school would ride with her, but if no one else is attending the same session, she's okay on her own.
 
DS16 (almost 17) has pretty much stuck to a 5-mile radius simply due to circumstance - no need to venture further. He did drive DD to practice one day that is 7 miles and includes curvy back roads. He asked about taking a friend to visit his grandparents this summer who live 8 hours away. We fly more than drive and he'd need to go past DC on I95 so we're not comfortable with that. Too many highways and crazy drivers on unfamiliar roads. The next time we drive there we'll have him drive part of the way to get used to it. He's driven on highways around here with one if us but that is different.

This summer when we head to the beach (4hrs) if we decide to bring 2 cars we're contemplating having him drive one and follow us so he can get some unfamiliar highway & local road driving in (he's been there a number of times but never drove)

I think if he had a reason to drive a couple hours on the highway in state we would let him. He's a good driver, just needs opportunities to practice before he's out on his own and we don't know where he is.
 
After being licensed at 16 I was pretty much allowed to drive anywhere within the state. Though I did end up in West Virginia once on accident :rotfl: Though my friend who was 18 was supposed to be driving my car since it was illegal for me to be driving after midnight. However, I had 8 more months driving experience and she was scaring the crap out of me and another friend so I took the calculated risk.

Right after graduation 8 friends and I loaded up a few cars and drove to Ohio to go to cedar point. So there were 17 and 18 yr olds, driving across state lines and getting a hotel while we were there.
 
DD17 drives pretty much anywhere she wants/needs to go. The farthest she's driven by herself is to my parents about 45 miles away. She was driving on in the interstate the first day of drivers ed. We live within a mile of the interstate so she has to use to it get around. In a couple of months she'll be going to college over 200 miles away. The campus is outside the city and they allow cars for freshmen so she'll be taking hers. I can't say I'm not concerned.....
 
Not there with dd, but her brothers pretty much went where ever they wanted to at that age.

They were both able to get their licenses at 15--at that time you could get a "hardship" license at 15 if you had a job, it was legal up to 10 pm at night. So they had a couple years of driving experience.

Truthfully, they had both had an accident at 16 but both accidents were within 5 minutes of our house, so going further didn't worry me more than being close by!
 
My goal with both of my daughters was to have them driving anywhere and everywhere as soon as safely possible. This meant LOTS of practice - they were both behind the wheel as often as possible as soon as they had their permits at age 15. That meant they drove anywhere I needed to go - to the grocery store, to school, after school for errands, etc.

Once they had enough experience for me to feel comfortable, they graduated to interstate driving. First on Sunday mornings to a neighboring town about an hour away with a good mall, then several trips to the same mall on the weekends to practice interstate drivng, etc. I also let them each drive on the highway with me several times back and forth to the same area or on trips to Florida or other vacation driving. Again, practice, practice, practice was my goal.

DD23 went to college about 3 hours away and her first long distance drive was to her college during her senior year of high school. Once she had successfully navigated that, she did the drive a couple more times before she started her freshman year. By that point, I felt comfortable with her driving long distances and she was able to drive back and forth to school, the beach, the mountains, etc. She and some friends drove to Washington, DC and to Orlando and Miami during the course of her college years. Now she goes wherever she needs to, often driving 6 - 8 hours at a stretch for work-related travel.

My younger daughter benefited from my experience with her older sister and we got her out on the road as soon as possible. Mostly because she was my "baby" and I was sure she would never be able to drive on the highway like her older sister - I knew I had to get over my fear for her sake. So out we went, and she drove back and forth to her friends' houses in a town about an hour away, to the same mall her sister had visited, etc. I just made myself give her as much highway driving experience as possible. Her first long haul was to visit her sister in college - she had driven it before with me in the car but it was a nerve-wracking day when she did it for the first time by herself!! Now she has done it several times and I think she can drive anywhere, anytime - but I do think if she needed to drive more than 4 - 5 hours I would ask her to split it up into two days. She gets tired and bored at that point. She will be going to college about 12 hours away so when she drives her car home it will be a two day event.

Good luck, OP!! It is nerve wracking for sure but once I got to a certain point I realized they were good and careful drivers and I was able to let them drive on their own with only the normal worry anyone has about loved ones on the highway.
 
Oh my...just not ready to let me baby fly the coop to "go distances" in the car.

(Probably has something to do with a nasty accident in my neck of the woods that killed 3 other teens. last weekend Although - this accident was very local.)

I'll update tomorrow with the specific circumstance on why I am asking.

Thanks!


Ok I live in your area...well a bit north but know the accident well....and they weren't far from home where they?

now my daughter is 16, and just driving no license yet but I hope I can trust her to drive further by that age...
 
I think 3 hours was the longest I drove to a destination at 17, but I did drive into NYC on a pretty regular basis (with my fake ID, to go clubbing :cool1:).
 
Oh my...just not ready to let me baby fly the coop to "go distances" in the car.

(Probably has something to do with a nasty accident in my neck of the woods that killed 3 other teens. last weekend Although - this accident was very local.)

I'll update tomorrow with the specific circumstance on why I am asking.

Thanks!

I know how you feel. :hug:

That accident was a terrible terrible tragedy. Three girls lost and six girls that will never be the same again (as well as all the families). :sad1:

I know exactly where it happened. BIL used to live about a mile from the accident site, but now lives in the nearby town.

Giving my DS15 the freedom to drive scares me, but we plan on lots and lots of practice so both of us are comfortable. :)
 



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