How do you handle MIL

[skater]

If I only bought stuff for people who used what I bought, nobody would get anything . After years of putting lots of heart and thought into gift purchases, I've realized that most Americans have everything they need, so now we give gift cards supplemented by some fun little gifts. Usually these are things that will be used up - candles, lotion, bubble bath, food items, etc.

Unless I know for sure about a specific item somebody wants, gift cards seem to be the way to go! (At least for people outside of my immediate family).

 

[Angelhalo]

A very small plot of land.

 

[MushyMushy]

You are so bad!

 

[Katieinwonderland]

What was the gift?

My MIL never likes the gifts we get her! DH tries SO hard to pick out great gifts and it really hurts his feelings when she doesn't use them, tells us she won't use them or (my personal favorite) just hands them right back! I've given up trying to get things she likes, but we get her something anyway because we would never hear the end of it if we didn't and I want to keep the peace!

 

[hereyago]

OK, is it a burial plot that you bought her? or a small plot of land where you were hoping she would move far far away from you?

 

[Jennasis]

ba-dum-ching!

You got me.



On a serious note, MIL has never EVER used any of the gifts DH has bought for his mom. These are things she always asks for. We still buy her gifts and then just laugh as they collect dust.

 

[manning]

OK, is it a burial plot that you bought her? or a small plot of land where you were hoping she would move far far away from you?

What do you think??

 

[hereyago]

What do you think??

I just spit my milk out on that one.

 

[cm8]

OK, is it a burial plot that you bought her? or a small plot of land where you were hoping she would move far far away from you?

My $$ is on the far, far, far away part. Please say it wasn't a burial plot... It could very well be the one you will be buried in. PEACE PLEASE!

 

[hereyago]

So OP, which is it? 6 feet under and to the extreme far away or some place not in the same town state or country but is able to travel by airplane?

 

[crashbb]

My MIL favored her two sons over my wife. She didn't like me because I am part german, which I understood. She was born and raised in poland and when WW2 broke out was brought to germany to a work camp against her will.

My wife was the one who looked after her after her husband died. Sons where off doing their things. The last person to hold her hand the night she died....me.

I have to agree with my wife when she said she had no regrets, she did the right thing.

In-laws can be a challenge.

From 2008.

http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=28928359&postcount=8

 

[hereyago]

From 2008.

http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=28928359&postcount=8

OP- I apologize, I didn't realize you were a man- so please disregard the why doesn't your DH get the gift, but then again I am cool with that as well.

Good joke though, had me going and spitting milk all over the place.

 

[Heidict]

Now I'm really confused. The post from 2008 implies that she is dead. So, why would she be mad if you didn't buy her a gift this year? She won't be around to open one even if you wanted to buy her one.

 

[EeyoreEma]

I've learned a lesson about in-laws. They may seem distant or like they don't care for you, but I truly think they're just waiting for a way "in" with you. My MIL and I used to be at odds with each other, but I've really come to love her. She's a wonderful woman. She's no different than she used to be, I've just come to accept her and love her for who she is. I don't claim to know what kind of relationship you have with her, but I hope that you can eventually move to a place where you are both comfortable with each other. Even a small token gift would be nicer than just not giving her anything because she doesn't like what you pick out.

 

[manning]

Now I'm really confused. The post from 2008 implies that she is dead. So, why would she be mad if you didn't buy her a gift this year? She won't be around to open one even if you wanted to buy her one.

Yes, my MIL is dead and has been for several years.
Yes it is a joke.

It is one I reworked to draw you in.

This is how it originally goes. It's one of those "that's how the fight started"


One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift. The next year, I didn't buy her a gift.

When she asked me why, I replied, "Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!"

And that's how the fight started.....

 

[Heidict]

Yes, my MIL is dead and has been for several years.
Yes it is a joke.

It is one I reworked to draw you in.

This is how it originally goes. It's one of those "that's how the fight started"


One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift. The next year, I didn't buy her a gift.

When she asked me why, I replied, "Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!"

And that's how the fight started.....

I guess I'm just one of those people who doesn't think that jokes about dead loved ones are funny. Especially this time of year.

 

[LuvLDM]

I guess I'm just one of those people who doesn't think that jokes about dead loved ones are funny. Especially this time of year.

Yeah, lame joke.

 

[Jennasis]

I thought it was very funny. Then again, I think Jeff Dunham is a maroon and can't fathom folks who find him funny.

Different strokes.

 

[manning]

Oh well, can't make everyone happy.

Will this start a fight?

 

[cm8]

Oh well, can't make everyone happy.

Will this start a fight?

Of course