How do you get your DH's to go back to Disney every year?

[livie1205]

my dh loves wdw as much as I do...he LOVES taking the kids! He is also a resort snob and will ONLY stay at wdw resorts... oh it gets better we stayed at AKL CL 2 yrs ago and now he only wants to stay club level.WE just booked our christmas 2010 AKL CL trip (we do christmas there every other year) and he said we would have to do a long weekend trip in the middle of the year or it will kill us planning a trip for a year!

 

[Colleen27]

I don't take DH on all our trips. He enjoys Disney but isn't nuts for it like me & my girls, so sometimes we go without him. That way he gets a break and we plan our big family trip for somewhere else, and the kids & I get our Disney fix on our mini-trips. I think if our time wasn't as limited as it is, he'd gladly go every year. But there are other places he wants to take the kids and his time off of work is limited and often unpredictable, and he doesn't want to spend every bit of time he has for traveling going to the same place no matter how much fun that place is. We're actually planning on buying DVC, but for him the resorts at Hilton Head, Vero, Disneyland and Hawaii were the tipping point - he wasn't sold on buying points if we could only use them for WDW, but the availability of those other places along with the banking/borrowing system convinced him.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

I'm going to take a slightly different tack here...

I wouldn't try to talk him into going again. I feel that doing so would be disrespectful to his viewpoint. He voiced an opinion, it's a valid one (even if many here disagree with it), and he has a right to it.

Does that mean I would resign myself to not going for another 6 years or so? Heck, no! But, I would shut up about it for now. You just went last month. Give him time to miss it! Long about December of this year, I would start waxing nostalgic about the fun times we had there last year...wouldn't it be nice to go again? And maybe he could agree with a trip in 2011.

I know it's heresy on these boards, but some people do get "enough" Disney, and if he's one of those people, you're only going to get him mad by pushing it. It's like chocolate--sometimes, you have to step away from it. Then, if you get the go-ahead to plan a trip down the road, you can think about what you can do differently this time, just to make it not seem like same-old, same-old. The kids will be older--maybe a few more thrill rides. Maybe stay in a different hotel, as someone else mentioned. We enjoyed staying off-site fo ra week and enjoying Orlando, then moving into DVC for a week. But, we only go every other year--we find that we enjoy it more when we have a chance to miss it, see what changed, etc.

 

[livie1205]

I'm going to take a slightly different tack here...

I wouldn't try to talk him into going again. I feel that doing so would be disrespectful to his viewpoint. He voiced an opinion, it's a valid one (even if many here disagree with it), and he has a right to it.

Does that mean I would resign myself to not going for another 6 years or so? Heck, no! But, I would shut up about it for now. You just went last month. Give him time to miss it! Long about December of this year, I would start waxing nostalgic about the fun times we had there last year...wouldn't it be nice to go again? And maybe he could agree with a trip in 2011.

I know it's heresy on these boards, but some people do get "enough" Disney, and if he's one of those people, you're only going to get him mad by pushing it. It's like chocolate--sometimes, you have to step away from it. Then, if you get the go-ahead to plan a trip down the road, you can think about what you can do differently this time, just to make it not seem like same-old, same-old. The kids will be older--maybe a few more thrill rides. Maybe stay in a different hotel, as someone else mentioned. We enjoyed staying off-site fo ra week and enjoying Orlando, then moving into DVC for a week. But, we only go every other year--we find that we enjoy it more when we have a chance to miss it, see what changed, etc.

I agree with this...maybe some husbands do not want to go because you are already planning another trip right when you get home? Give it a break for a while and maybe he will come around.good luck

 

[SpoiledDisFam]

My DH is anti-disney (horrible isn't it?). He went the first time because it was part of a larger trip along the entire east coast. He frequently stays back in the hotel and won't go to the parks, it drives me nuts because I have spent the money on the park tix already. He will go to DL more because it is closer but he stayed home last june for WDW and is planning on staying home when the kids and I go over Xmas this year.

As for cost, well...My Mom has DVC so I don't pay for the room. Between that and not taking an extra adult it helps alot.

Good luck to those who need to convince.

 

[mdsouth]

I'm going to take a slightly different tack here...

I wouldn't try to talk him into going again. I feel that doing so would be disrespectful to his viewpoint. He voiced an opinion, it's a valid one (even if many here disagree with it), and he has a right to it.

Does that mean I would resign myself to not going for another 6 years or so? Heck, no! But, I would shut up about it for now. You just went last month. Give him time to miss it! Long about December of this year, I would start waxing nostalgic about the fun times we had there last year...wouldn't it be nice to go again? And maybe he could agree with a trip in 2011.

I know it's heresy on these boards, but some people do get "enough" Disney, and if he's one of those people, you're only going to get him mad by pushing it. It's like chocolate--sometimes, you have to step away from it. Then, if you get the go-ahead to plan a trip down the road, you can think about what you can do differently this time, just to make it not seem like same-old, same-old. The kids will be older--maybe a few more thrill rides. Maybe stay in a different hotel, as someone else mentioned. We enjoyed staying off-site fo ra week and enjoying Orlando, then moving into DVC for a week. But, we only go every other year--we find that we enjoy it more when we have a chance to miss it, see what changed, etc.

I agree with this message. My DH is like yours. We have gone once without kids, and twice now with our kids. Our trips with the kids were four years apart with our last one June 2009. He had a good time while there but was a bit of a wet blanket at times. So, I think we will stick with our plan to take family trips to different locations.

I think it is a good idea for your family to visit other places together too. We have had a couple of week long beach vacations and a trip to California. I still hope we can go back to WDW every few years and take a family trip to a different place the off years. Even I like to see and experience new things.


I, already have a neighbor who said she would take a trip with the kids and me since her husband does not want to go to WDW either. So, for now I am planning a trip with her in 2011.

By backing off the subject, you will be showing your DH that you respect his views. You may not agree with them but you respect them. Then about six months or more from now, you can mention seeing a current Disney deal, possibly in conjunction with price of a vacation in a different location.


Good Luck in your endeavor to change your husband's frame of mind.

 

[katied]

For me, it's simple. DH does not go on every trip. Since we had DS, I've been 6 times and DH has been twice (about every other year for him). After this last trip (in Dec) he did agree to go again in Jan 2011 - so almost 1 yr later - but I don't think over time I'll get him down there every year (he just knows it would hard for me to be on my own with an almost 4 yr old and a 6 mo old). We own DVC, and I generally invite extended family or friends to take trips with DS and I if DH isn't interested. I normally plan the solo trips for when DH is planning his hunting or fishing guy trips, so we're all happy in the end.

What will be sad for me is when DS gets older and wants to go on the hunting or fishing trips with DH and doesn't want to go to Disney any more.

DH also is very clear about wanting to go to Greece every year to visit his family there, and I agree. I can't expect what I want every year without listening to what matters to him too.

 

[ruadisneyfan2]

I do feel your pain bdiddy, but the problem is I AM THE DH!!! My DW and 2 DD's think their dad has lost it. I LOVE Disney! I have already booked our 2010 trip, our 2011 trip, and can't wait to see if we pull off the new Disney Hawaii location for DD15's graduation trip in 2013.

So let me ask, what other things does your hubby enjoy? Maybe the best approach is to make your WDW trip more multi-faceted. Instead of just the parks, how about a day or 2 at the beach, Sea World, Bush Gardens. Orlando area has much more to offer. Does he like to golf? Why don't you look into getting golf package at the Disney courses? If he is a golfer, he will love these world-renowned course. They also have some reasonable packages that include a lesson as I remember. He plays golf and you and the kids hit the parks!

The advice someone else gave was good, best thing to do is just let him know your desire to make it a yearly ( or maybe he'll settle for every other year) event. My DW sat down and talked about how fast our kids are growing up and decided we wanted to figure out a way to make Disney our BIG thing every year.

You know in your heart the best thing to do is figure out a way to sit down and work on a compromise that satisfies his desires and yours as well. Good Luck!! May ther be many "Magic Disney" experiences in your future!

I Forgot... Another great option is a Disney Cruise! I didn't think I would like cruising but we went for our 20th anniversary and fell in love with it. You get the Disney experience onboard, as well as seeing a new beautiful part of the world every morning. And let him know, the boat is NOT just about kids, there are some fantastic things just for you & him to enjoy.

I totally agree! DCL is awesome! Dh is a bit Disney'd out (parks) but it took 15 visits to get to that, sometimes 3x per year. He says it's more work than work.
DCL offers a taste of Disney magic without the hassles of the parks. The service is over the top and imho blows away a WDW vacation. Sheesh, the dining room servers cut my son's meat and pour the ketchup for him in the shape of a Mickey head!
We get plenty of time to relax, the shows are phenomenal, and there are plenty of activities for the kids, so the adults get some alone time.

It's also ideal for multi-generational trips. While my parents & inlaws in their late 60s/early 70's aren't so keen on trekking all over WDW, they do love to cruise so my kids can enjoy their grandparents on a trip but it's not so much 'togetherness' like a WDW trip would be. On a ship, it's easy to separate for a few hours, even do different excursions, and later meet up at dinner/shows. This way, everyone gets to do their own thing. You can be as busy as you want, or just relax and veg.

Send for the video and check it out!

As of yet, we are not DCL'd out.

 

[luna99]

to the OP, I hear you! My hubby is the same way.. he has fun and likes disney when we are there but he's not so gung ho about it as I am.. and honestly, I also do want to travel other places as well.. I just wish we could do disney once a year AND another destination on top of it!

I have finally gotten my DH to say we could do disney every other year which is a great achievement I think.... I would suggest going at times where there are things going on that your DH likes... my DH loves food and trying new things to eat so I am REALLY trying to get him down to disneyworld in October for food and wine... that or maybe the ESPN weekend (which is around his birthday!).... maybe let your hubby have a day just to himself to do something he likes... does he golf? does he like the outdoors? maybe go when there is a certain sporting event happening like a baseball game or something...

I'm hoping since I'm pregnant with our first child that once we start doing disney with our kids, my DH will see how much they love it and we can start going more frequently.

good luck!

 

[wdwmom0f3]

My DH is an every other year guy but this year is different. We just went in Sept and I have to say that in the car on the way home I said that I was done with Disney for a while. Then all of the shows started coming on about Disney at Christmas and it got my head spinning, so I told him that I wanted to go to Disney for Christmas next year. He watched a few shows with me & was hooked. It was really easier than I thought. I kind of like a challange, but I'll take it.

 

[kristenrice]

Do they love it as much as you do or are they just sort of indifferent and just go along with it?

My DH was very hesitant about our 1st trip and didn't think he would like it but thought it was one of those things you just have to try once. We all had a great time and he was pleasantly surprised and really liked it but did say he couldn't see going every year and we could go back but not for like 5 yrs or so. He likes to travel and just says there are too many other places to go to give up your 1 vacation to Disney every year.

Well....fast forward a year and we have free flight credit (long story) and free dining is extended so I said to DH "let's go back" and he actually said yes and was excited about it! So, our 2nd trip was only 15 months after our first (we went in Dec). Once again, we had a great time but I think he is all Disney'd out. Just the other day he actually said all the continous Disney talk is started to drive him crazy. And now he says we are definitely not going back until the kids are 8 and 10 or so (they are 3 and 5 now).....and he'd like to wait until after the changes at MK are done.

So....what I'm wondering how do I get him to go back sooner? I would go every year if I could but my DH isn't the type to sit back and not care or not have an opinion and like I said he likes to travel around to other places too. My best friend goes every year and her husband pretty much defers to her but my DH isn't like that - he definitely has an opinion about everything!

Do I just stop talking about it and then every once in awhile casually mention a deal they have going on? Hope that as time goes by he realizes that he wants to go back too?

Just wondering if anyone was in a similar situation??

I am starting to wonder if my DH is leading a double life. This is EXACTLY what he has said in the past.

Me, being the crafty woman that I am, I knew how to handle it. First, I begged and pleaded for a small (100 pt) DVC contract. When we inherited a large amount of money from his parents estate AND won over $13,000 at the casino, I knew I was close. He insisted that he needed to take some of the inheritance (about $10K to be exact) to take a once-in-a-lifetime elk hunt with his brother. I knew that I needed about $10K to get my DVC, but I knew he would balk at it. So, I used some of the casino winnings and bought him the Rolex that he'd been ogling for years. Within the week, I got permission to make an offer on a contract.

He often says that it is not that he doesn't like WDW, it's that he doesn't like hearing about it EVERY SINGLE DAY....I guess I am a little obsessed. So, what I do now is I let him take his trips and I take mine. His love is hunting, mine is Disney. When he asked me to take three days off of work last August so he could go hunting in South Carolina, I happily agreed. Then, I told him that HE needed to take two days off in October so that I could go to WDW with my BFF for my birthday. Our girls aren't quite old enough to hunt yet so for now, he takes his hunting trips solo. I am allowed to plan trips with the kids in the summer (so they don't miss school) and I can go to WDW without him. Since we are a family of 4, I can book a studio and he can come along too if he wants to. When the kids are older, they will go hunting with him and to Disney with me. As much as I think that a family vacation should include the entire family, it would not have the same effect if one family member is completely bored and crabby during the entire vacation. I have no desire to accompany DH into the woods in 20-degree darkness to shoot dinner, just as he has no desire to go to Florida in June and melt. We've agreed to disagree and now we are both happy. He is in for a real treat in April since I am "dragging" him, along with my parents, to WDW....arriving ON Easter. I'm pretty sure he'll never want to leave the resort the entire time.

 

[Samar]

Honestly? Have a relative move down there and say you're going to visit family! The only reason why I'm seeing Disney so often in my married life is because my mom, bro, sis, niece and a set of grandparents live in and around the Orlando area. And I told him it just makes sense (DUH!) to hit up Disney while we're in the neighborhood

 

[bebelle]

We trade off each year. One year I pick where we will go on vacation (always WDW) and the next year he picks (usually a beach somewhere). This seems to work out. If we can afford to add an extra vacation in the same year we always take an adults only trip to WDW.

 

[hsmamato2]

well,it certainly makes me feel better to know that mine isn't the only dh who grouches about a fantastic Disney vacation every year! I just told him that while the kids were young enough to care and still loved it,this is where I wanted to go. In a few years, our oldest will be out of the house and our 'kid years' will be past..... till then, I want to embrace all the joy and fun of kids and disney..... he agreed,and I make sure that he has his rental car for taking off when he's disney'd out...... and we plan a few things that are non disney too to keep him happy,most notably he likes to eat at various Orlando restaurants that aren't Disney priced....
we also squeeze in family camping and visits to famiily throughout the year too...