How do you do it?!?!

[Pomlover2586]

Ok I went dress shopping for the first time today! I saw soooo many that I loved but I finally narrowed it down to about 3 [for today anyway]. I took picks of them and am dying to show DF! I told him about the ones I decided no on, and I showed him pics of those, but there is one in particular that I think is "the one" and I really want to show him! I also think the wedding dress should be a secret and a surprise to the groom on the big day. I don't believe the whole "bad luck" thing but I think it should be a surprise. So how do you guys keep such a big secret from your DF's? How do you keep from spilling your guts? I still have about 10 months to go and this is only the first day!

 

[karentan]

i was lucky in that gary didnt want to know about my dress til i walked down the aisle, he wanted the surprise too, i showed him the photos of ones i decided no to, but i kept the proper photos to friends and family only! that way you get to show someone and share the excitement but your DH2B wont see it til the big day!

 

[hmgolden]

I'm with you, keeping the 'secret' from DH was nearly impossible. I tell him everything, it seemed so silly to keep this one thing from him. It helped that he also wanted it to be a surprise, and he has much better will power than I do Even when I was tempted to spill the beans, he kept me quiet.

Good luck!

 

[Janell]

I would keep it a secrete. My DF wants it to be a surprise. So I havn't shown him anything, not the shoes, not whats going to be in my hair, nothing. Hes seen my jewlery, because I have ware it before. He and I both want that one moment where I am all dressed up and he sees me for the first time.

 

[cryssi]

what DH wanted me to wear and what I wanted to wear were 2 different things! I didn't want him to know what I was wearing. All he knew was that it was strapless and a poufy ballgown. LOL He wasn't all that keen on the strapless. He liked asymmetrical gowns. LOL Just my luck to marry someone who obsessed about weddings for a few years! I think in the end, he liked it...I think! LOL But it isn't about what HE wants, because you know, weddings are all about the bride anyway. Wear what you want and feel the most beautiful in. He will think you beautiful no matter what you wear...

 

[IrishLily]

That's so funny, because I went dress shopping this weekend and narrowed it down to 3 as well. There is definitely a #1, but since I am a little over 13 months out I still want to try on other dresses to make sure I don't end up regretting my decision. I had some friends there to help me, but I mentioned that I wished my DF were there because he would be the ultimate judge and is really who I'm trying to "wow". But then the sales lady reminded me that he could end up liking a different one, and then I would really be torn on whether to get something I liked or he liked. That is so true.

I have photos on my computer, and he really wants to see them but I know he won't look because he has the will power and wants it to be a secret. But he does tell me that I can't leave wedding dress catalogues lying around because he gets really antsy to see what I would look like in a wedding dress.

It IS very hard not to talk about the gown, or what the sales ladies say, or other people. But I have to really think about what I'm going to say before I say it, and sometimes I just plain don't finish sentences and he knows why. I did not mention designers, but I did mention colors and neckline. I'm weak...I know.

 

[Moonpie]

My husband came with me to help me pick out the dress. I can't keep a secret like that!

 

[TinkerFairy]

DF came with me to pick out my dress as well.

He'll be seeing me in the morning anyways for our MK shoot, and it was important to me to get his opinion on it.

 

[vfinder1]

What is the rule anyways?? They can't see you IN the dress before the wedding or they can't see the dress at all?? I really want to show him a picture of the dress but think that is against the rules and don't want to have bad luck..

 

[D&R love Disney]

I had no trouble not telling DH about my dress. I think he was glad because the look on his face when Rev. Jack finally let him look at me as I walk up to him was great!

 

[jemmi]

I just ordered my dress a week ago and I'm really having a hard time not showing any pictures to my fiance. I went dress shopping for three months and tried on a bunch of dresses so I was really excited when I found "the one" and it's hard not to show him a picture or tell him what it looks like. He wants to be surprised so if I start talking about it he'll say don't tell me so that helps It will be hard to keep it a surprise but hang in there, the look on his face when he sees you all dressed up will be worth it!

 

[theantibride]

I took fiance shopping with me. He's seen me in the dress, veil, tiara, and everything. Everything has been ordered and my wedding isn't until October 08! I'm just not letting him see me in it the day of the wedding until I walk down the aisle. But I don't believe in the bad luck thing because it doesn't apply today. Historically it was believed bad luck back when parents arranged marriages and the bride & groom didn't see each other until the actual wedding. There was concern if one of them didn't like the looks of the other they would sneak off before the wedding. Back then marriages weren't about love but about property agreements and such. That's why it was bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the ceremony. Today (in most cases) you've dated your fiance or even lived with him so he's seen you. Besides which even if they see you in the dress in the store you're gonna look a whole lot different when your hair is all done and your make-up on and everything. So I say if you want to share go ahead and do so. I don't know anybody whose groom say their dress ebfore the wedding and the marriage failed.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

there is no way i can keep that secret from my fiance. he'd kill me. he doesn't always agree on the crazy outfits that i pick out (i'm in real estate. i have to wear a suit to work every day...i'm allowed to get a little crazy sometimes...)anyway...so i'm picking out a dress on thurs (that is my absolute deadline. i'm gettin down to the wire here, wedding is in jan...), so i showed mark 3 pics of different styles...pick up, regular ball gown and trumpet style. i showed him 3 pics of each, so 9 total pics and he LOVED the pick up gowns. so that's what i'll go with. i don't want him to think, "oh lord, what is she WEARING." when he sees me walking down the aisle...so i decided to do the picture thing.

 

[maraki527]

I actually showed my Dh a whole bunch of dresses including the one i ended up getting and when he saw the picture of the dress he said it was ugly and I felt bad and then my mother told me not to let that bother me and that guys don't pay attention to the dress until they see it on you.

 

[wdwtheplacetobe]

Ok I went dress shopping for the first time today! I saw soooo many that I loved but I finally narrowed it down to about 3 [for today anyway]. I took picks of them and am dying to show DF! I told him about the ones I decided no on, and I showed him pics of those, but there is one in particular that I think is "the one" and I really want to show him! I also think the wedding dress should be a secret and a surprise to the groom on the big day. I don't believe the whole "bad luck" thing but I think it should be a surprise. So how do you guys keep such a big secret from your DF's? How do you keep from spilling your guts? I still have about 10 months to go and this is only the first day!

I want him to see me for the first time in the dress walking towards him. The dress has been flown from Houston to IL already and will go to FL before that day---all in a white garment bag.

I will not see him in his tux before then, either.

Maybe it's a traditional thang?

Since it's getting so close, it's almost real.