How do you decompress after a bad day?

[lisajl]

I know we all get stressed at some point, but I think I am at my limits.

My DS, 12 has been having issues with bullies at school. DS is going to a psychologist and the school is trying to help. (Trying)...at any rate, my son has a list of people he hates. Not a list of people he wants to kill, or hurt, just people he hates.
They called me in for it. I am trying my best to help my son, but I am about ready to burst.

Then at work, one of my co workers does not do her job! She has called off for 2 weeks, then we had to call and see if she was coming in last Thur. She said she thought she was too sick, and did we really need her?
I said, Yes, because I was tired of filling in for her.
Now, she gets this Thurs off! The doctors are going for continuing education and we only need a few people scattered in the office through the day.
She decides all by herself that she should get that day off. Nevermind that we have all been filling in, carrying her weight!
AHHHH~ I can't take it anymore!!!

Thanks for letting me vent...I feel a bit better.

 

[meandtheguys2]

If the bullies were after me, I'd probably hate them, too. Hope the psychologist is working on them, too!

I'm sorry things are so hairy for you right now. I decompress by calling my husband on his way home from work. That way we talk it all out before he walks in the door, and dinner and the kids are on the forefront. I'd be a mess if I didn't have friends to talk with.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

Venting is always a good way to decompress.

BTW- Your son is allowed to hate the bullies. He is allowed to make a list of people he hates. As far as kids at that age are concerned, "turn the other cheek" is a great way to get the other cheek slapped.

 

[Hercules10]

 

[missypie]

A glass of wine helps...but then I feel guilty...do I NEED this drink?

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I'm sorry you are having a bad day. When I am having a bad day I come here to DIS and then work out at the gym. Also, popcorn helps heal me!!!

 

[doxdogy]

A good cup of coffee with a generous shot of chocolate liquer. Makes the stress just melt away.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I play the piano. Or, I listen to some music that I truly love.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I vent to my DH after a bad/stressful shift at work.

Like last night, I was the only waitress (Monday is the least busy day so we just have one waitress and a hostess comes in at 5:30 to help) and the big room was full except for the three tables I had reserved for the Lion's Club, and I had two 4-tops in the front room as well. In walks a table of 10, 5 adults and 5 little kids. They were impatient from the get go. They didn't understand that I was the only one there. They wanted what they wanted and they wanted it now. They seemed to think they were my only table. I finally just quit going back, because I had other tables who needed my attention too. I ended up getting a $2.50 tip, on a bill that was over $50.

Then I had SEVENTEEN Lion's Club members/visitors. I was about ready to tear my hair out!! Thankfully the hostess helped out a LOT when she got there, but I still vented quite a bit to DH.

Not sure how much longer I'll keep working the Monday nights, she really needs TWO waitresses scheduled, or at least have one of them be on-call.
But she won't.

 

[lisajl]

I vent to my DH after a bad/stressful shift at work.

Like last night, I was the only waitress (Monday is the least busy day so we just have one waitress and a hostess comes in at 5:30 to help) and the big room was full except for the three tables I had reserved for the Lion's Club, and I had two 4-tops in the front room as well. In walks a table of 10, 5 adults and 5 little kids. They were impatient from the get go. They didn't understand that I was the only one there. They wanted what they wanted and they wanted it now. They seemed to think they were my only table. I finally just quit going back, because I had other tables who needed my attention too. I ended up getting a $2.50 tip, on a bill that was over $50.

Then I had SEVENTEEN Lion's Club members/visitors. I was about ready to tear my hair out!! Thankfully the hostess helped out a LOT when she got there, but I still vented quite a bit to DH.

Not sure how much longer I'll keep working the Monday nights, she really needs TWO waitresses scheduled, or at least have one of them be on-call.
But she won't.

$2.50? Do you remember people that tip you like that? When someone is really rude/obnoxious to me at work, I remember them. I only take care of them if I absolutely have to. Luckily, there are other girls who are reliable and at work, we kind of tag team people like that!

For Meandtheguys and Nuttylawprofessor...yeah, I thought my boy was allowed to hate them, too. We have had discussions of what is appropriate, etc. He knows better than to make a list of people he wants to kill. I would like to make a list of the bullies and write to their parents.
Luckily, we have insurance..my sons bill...so far, 3 appts...$750. What are they doing about the bullies, nothing. They have spoken to them but that is it. No major counseling, no nothing!!! AAAAHHHHH!!!!!!

I told my DH I need to get away!

Lisa

 

[PrincessJasmine08]

Listening to my favorite music always helps me.

 

[I Love Pluto]

Music is one of the best anti-stress and anti-anger "medications" in the world.

Your son is 12. If he learned an instrument and joined the band, he wouldn't have time to be in the same spaces as the bullies. He'd have a new set of friends who usually don't bully. It worked for my 2 kids, and it has worked for hundreds of kids that I teach music to every day.

Good luck to you. Above all, make sure your son realizes that he's a great kid.

 

[lisajl]

Music is one of the best anti-stress and anti-anger "medications" in the world.

Your son is 12. If he learned an instrument and joined the band, he wouldn't have time to be in the same spaces as the bullies. He'd have a new set of friends who usually don't bully. It worked for my 2 kids, and it has worked for hundreds of kids that I teach music to every day.

Good luck to you. Above all, make sure your son realizes that he's a great kid.

aww..thank you for that. My DS does is not interested in music, though.
He is very involved in Scouts, though. I wish there were something else to get him in to. He has said something about cross country running.
He is 5'9" already. The vice principal asked him about it, too.
Now, we just have to get his grades up. He has been failing two classes that he was in with 4 of these boys. The counselor said my son was trying to just get through the day and not to worry about the failing grades, he would bring them up.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I vent to my DH after a bad/stressful shift at work.

Like last night, I was the only waitress (Monday is the least busy day so we just have one waitress and a hostess comes in at 5:30 to help) and the big room was full except for the three tables I had reserved for the Lion's Club, and I had two 4-tops in the front room as well. In walks a table of 10, 5 adults and 5 little kids. They were impatient from the get go. They didn't understand that I was the only one there. They wanted what they wanted and they wanted it now. They seemed to think they were my only table. I finally just quit going back, because I had other tables who needed my attention too. I ended up getting a $2.50 tip, on a bill that was over $50.

Then I had SEVENTEEN Lion's Club members/visitors. I was about ready to tear my hair out!! Thankfully the hostess helped out a LOT when she got there, but I still vented quite a bit to DH.

Not sure how much longer I'll keep working the Monday nights, she really needs TWO waitresses scheduled, or at least have one of them be on-call.
But she won't.

I am so sorry this happened to you!! If I note that my server is doing a good job and is being worked to death, I make sure they get an above-and-beyond tip.

$2.50 on a $50 meal? That's awful!

 

[Pixie Tales]

aww Best Wishes to your DS

as for you.. when I need to relax.. Hot bath, candles, insense, music then a nice hot cup of Herbal tea or, depending on the wheather, I take a Long walk

and Dis to vent off some steam

 

[MushyMushy]

A glass of wine helps...but then I feel guilty...do I NEED this drink?

No guilt here!

I recently discovered how soothing wine is after a bad day. My problem is to stick with just one glass.

 

[1Prince2Princesses]

Add my name to the list of drinkers. When I have a particularly bad day, I do like to have a drink when all the kids get in bed. A little special quality "adult" time with my DH doesn't hurt, either.

 

[MeMom]

After spending the whole day with third-graders, I get in my car and crank up Spectro or Wishes or Disney on Ice or any other Disney music, and I take myself out of this world into another World as I drive home. In the mornings, on the way to school, I listen to gospel music to get myself in a good frame of mind and attitude. On the way home, I escape to WDW through a variety of CD's. It helps me stay motivated to remember that I work to provide good things and good times for my family.

 

[Sherri]

Running always clears my head. Even if I ran what I usually run for the day eariler, I go for another run at night. Doesn't make it all go away but it helps me because I have time to think about things and make a plan.

 

[Chattyaholic]

$2.50? Do you remember people that tip you like that? When someone is really rude/obnoxious to me at work, I remember them. I only take care of them if I absolutely have to. Luckily, there are other girls who are reliable and at work, we kind of tag team people like that!


Lisa

I don't always remember them from the first time, but after the second or third time I sure do and I don't waste my time with people like that. I will smile when I greet them, take their order, bring their drinks and food, and I check on them once. If they need refills I will get them once. But then I put the bill on the table, smile and say "have a nice night" and that's it. I won't take time away from my other tables to keep going back to them. On normal nights if they're not willing to tip for good service, I'm not willing to give it for free.

Most of us at work have a few "regular" customers we don't want to wait on, and sometimes we trade off. That's always nice.