How do I tell my DH I'm planning a VR?

poohlover

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I have thought about this & I really want to have VR in disney for our 25th wedding anniv. 12/06...I had hesitated as we were married 2 days after Christmas...not a time I would normally want to be away from home.

Anyway I figured I would "tell" my dh & the 6 kids in a "gift" for Christmas...the kids do get a trip out of the deal so it is a gift!

Anyone have a creative way??? I ordered the personalized tees from disney, but I am afraid they will not be in time for Christmas. Anyone that ordered them, how long did they take??

thanks for any ideas!
 
You could buy a scrapbook, and decorate the first page with the trip dates and VR info. Include a little personal note to your hubby about how much you want this and how important it is for your kids to be there as well.
 
Isn't that something you are planning with your family? Personally, I would hesitate to start making firm and set plans before your family and spouse agree to the event, time, location, travel, and expense. Awfully big decision involving everyone to make by yourself.

A Christmas card addressed to the family? A Mickey/Minnie wedding snowglobe? One of the double 5 x 7 frames... one side with your first time wedding photo and a blank side for the VR (or a photo of the castle).

Might this not be a better issue to discuss outside of the Christmas holiday? It's almost like you're, "giving," a gift to your family for something you really want... I don't know if we have all the information here from this post, but it just sounds... like trouble to me... especially on Christmas morning....

xoxo
 

UnderTheMistletoe said:
Isn't that something you are planning with your family? Personally, I would hesitate to start making firm and set plans before your family and spouse agree to the event, time, location, travel, and expense. Awfully big decision involving everyone to make by yourself.

A Christmas card addressed to the family? A Mickey/Minnie wedding snowglobe? One of the double 5 x 7 frames... one side with your first time wedding photo and a blank side for the VR (or a photo of the castle).

Might this not be a better issue to discuss outside of the Christmas holiday? It's almost like you're, "giving," a gift to your family for something you really want... I don't know if we have all the information here from this post, but it just sounds... like trouble to me... especially on Christmas morning....

xoxo

I too would have to agree with UnderTheMistletoe, Why not talk to your husband about it after all the Christmas hustle has started to settle down. Don't make any definite plans until you talk to your husband and let him know that a nice VR is what you would like to have. Maybe show him some pictures of other couples Vow Renewals and go to the Disney Fairy Tale Wedding Site, so he can see what all is included.
 
sorry guys...perhaps I didn't explain totally I was only looking for idea in a way to tell them.

we have talked about this off & on for over a year. My DH is in complete agreement of doing this...it was ME that hesitated due to being away at the holidays.

My Dad has been very ill since June...perhaps he will be here next Christmas perhaps he won't. There is a LOT more going on than just MY wanting a VR there. My family has been pushing me to decide & it's been a very tough decision.

I wasn't looking for a debate. Just Ideas. Seems ALL the boards are NOT like they were years ago.
 
Well, here is one idea...Place a picture frame in a huge wrapped box with lots of stuffing (such as paper). In the frame, place a photo of the castle with some cute wording like "When I wished upon a star, I found love."

I will try to think of other ideas....I have a pretty bad cold that seems to have killed my imagination temporarily =)
 
WDWbride2007 said:
Well, here is one idea...Place a picture frame in a huge wrapped box with lots of stuffing (such as paper). In the frame, place a photo of the castle with some cute wording like "When I wished upon a star, I found love."

I will try to think of other ideas....I have a pretty bad cold that seems to have killed my imagination temporarily =)

Cute idea. How about doing a Bride and Groom Mickey and Minnie and then when he opens it let him know that you would like to have your VR in Disney World. Sorry- I'm not very creative.
 
How about wrapping up some Disney ornaments? There are lots of them available out in the stores now or you could order them online with 1day shipping. Also saw an amazing Disney Snow Village at Sam's Club the other day. It was only $44 and had Cindy's Castle and other notable Disney buildings - would be very cute for kids and DH to find it set up under the tree Christmas morning.
 
poohlover said:
I wasn't looking for a debate. Just Ideas. Seems ALL the boards are NOT like they were years ago.

Gosh, Poohlover. I am so sorry that your thread started out that way. This is a happy time for you -- you are going to begin planning your vow renewal. And from someone who was in your shoes last year, I know how much fun that time can be!

Get yourself down to Kinko's and order up a HUGE banner that breaks the news to your family. When you pick up the finished banner, hide it in the trunk of your car. On the night before you spring the news on your family, sneak out to your car and retrieve the banner. Then quietly hang it up in your living room, or down the wall of your staircase, or in front of your kids' bedroom doors... I think you get the idea... Hang it up somewhere prominent where your family will ~gasp~ out loud when they see it. (Yeah, I love goin' for the ~shock~ effect!)

Or how 'bout taking one of your favorite wedding photos and having it blown up into poster size? You could either get it professionally framed or frame it yourself (purchase an inexpensive poster frame from a craft store). You could then wrap it up in either holiday or wedding wrapping paper and top it off with a big, red bow. Also, create a fun gift tag for it that says something like, "Do not open until Christmas!" Leave the package lying conspicuously underneath (or besides) your Christmas tree. It will drive your family crazy trying to guess what is inside the package.

No matter how you break the official news to your family, I know they will be thilled to receive it. And when you get around to planning your vow renewal, I hope you have as much fun planning it as I had planning my own.

Congratulations!
 
poohlover said:
sorry guys...perhaps I didn't explain totally I was only looking for idea in a way to tell them.

we have talked about this off & on for over a year. My DH is in complete agreement of doing this...it was ME that hesitated due to being away at the holidays.

My Dad has been very ill since June...perhaps he will be here next Christmas perhaps he won't. There is a LOT more going on than just MY wanting a VR there. My family has been pushing me to decide & it's been a very tough decision.

I wasn't looking for a debate. Just Ideas. Seems ALL the boards are NOT like they were years ago.

Ok... this makes a lot more sense!

From the first few reads of your post (and, yes, I did read it three or four times to see if I was missing something), it sounded like you were looking for a way to tell your family that you wanted a vow renewal and their support.

I'm sorry if you were upset or offended... the information we did have from the initial thread was choppy and didn't include some of the pertinent, "history."

I truly hope that your father is there to see you walk down the aisle, or walk you down that aisle, again. I can understand, now, how this decision has been heavy and taxing on your emotionally and mentally.

I think Janet's idea of the poster-size wedding picture is wonderful. I saw poster sized frames at Bed, Bath, and Beyond just recently. Professional poster framing is costly... we looked into having it done on 3 MK posters. It was going to run about $500/poster with mats, etc. For 3 of them, we just didn't think it was wise.

We did, however, get them dry mounted and placed under glass with clips... they look fantastic and there's no big heavy, bulky frames to worry about! If you wanted to look into an option like that, it's simple but doesn't detract from anything... might want to get moving on it though as Christmas is drawing near and you'll need lead time if you're going to a professional.

Good luck and happy planning... I'm glad you followed up and clarified what was going on.
xoxo
 
I'm sorry poohlover, I wasn't trying to make it a debate, or hurt your feelings. I just didn't have enough info from the first post. I was confused :confused3 and thought that you didn't talk to your husband about it. I now understand.

I do hope that whatever you do decide on that you'll enjoy your day. And I hope that your father will be there to walk you down the aisle again.

Let us know how telling the family about the VR went, we are all here for you. Hope everything is ok.
 
Poohlover, I thought of another idea that won't require any outside intervention (since Christmas is quickly approaching and you can't count on outside vendors to help you pull something off at this late date)...

How 'bout pulling out (or borrowing) a camcorder and recording (in secret) a fun message to your family? This message would break the happy news to your family regarding your 25th wedding anniversary plans (a.k.a., your Fairy Tale Weddings vow renewal).

If you have any of the old WDW vacation planning videos (or a Fairy Tale Weddings planning video or even your own wedding's video), you can play the video on your TV in the background while you "talk" in the foreground to your camcorder. Or, if you're a techie geek like I am, you can transfer a bit of the WDW/FTW planning footage to your computer, along with the footage of your surprise message, and then create an official-looking DVD that you can give to your family on Christmas Day (of course, you would also create an appropriate label for the DVD holder). If you're not a techie geek, a VHS tape will definitely give the same effect (and you would decorate the VHS box with a fun & creative label).

Just something to think about that doesn't require a lot of effort on your part and yet will be very personal. Plus, it will be a great keepsake to hand down through the generations.

By the way, to show how geeky I am, I received a video iPod last week. I have already transferred my Fairy Tale Weddings vow renewal's photos and video footage to it, along with a few other funny home movies. (I am definitely a geek, aren’t I?) Since I will be in the Midwest for the holidays, I plan on embarrassing my niece, nephew, sister, parents, and anyone else who appears in my photos and movies. A video iPod is a small device that is quite easy to whip out when the time is right. (Oh, yeah, it’s dangerous being related to me.) But it just goes to show you how many creative ways there are to share happy events with your loved ones (even if one of those events was of your niece putting her tongue into her nostril at the Grand Floridian's Narcoossee's Restaurant during a family vacation a few years ago -- that's one of my all-time favorite home movies). ;)
 
I love the idea of a "surprise" Vow Renewal. I hope I am lucky enough to be married 25 magical years. Congratulations on your landmark anniversary.

My idea is a little more simple, for I'm kind of a simple girl. I would order one of the groom mickey top hats and have his name embroidered on it. Not too creative, but probably enough to get him excited! As for the kids I really liked the idea of the ornaments, and then having them personalized with your vow renewal date.
 
Here is one final suggestion. I didn’t want to bring it up earlier because I didn’t think you could get it done in time for Christmas, but I just received an e-mail from Shutterfly stating that it's not too late.

My parents are celebrating 50 years of marriage over the holidays. As I always do, I created a personal card for them on www.shutterfly.com. For their anniversary card’s cover, I used a photo that I had taken a few years ago of my parents’ original wedding portrait: click here. Even though I had used a photo of a photo, my Mom told me that the card turned out beautifully. I was pleased to hear that.

A few days later, I was talking on the telephone with my sister. I asked her about the anniversary card and she said it looked wonderful. The two of us then began brainstorming for a unique anniversary present for our parents. I told her that if I had access to more wedding photos, I would love to create a book on Shutterfly for them. My sister, who lives near my parents, told me that she would do some snooping around to see what she could find.

A few days later, my sister had located several of our parents’ old wedding photos. She Fed Ex’ed them to me so that I could scan them in and get them prepared for the photo book. I asked my son to electronically repair two of the photos since they had aged a bit (two of the photos had scratches on them that were easily fixed in Adobe’s Photoshop). Once the electronic versions of the photos looked good enough for me, I uploaded them to Shutterfly and began creating the photo book.

I chose the black, leather-bound book since the photos that I was using were in black & white. There was a white, leather-bound option, but I decided against it since I wanted the book to be shared during the upcoming anniversary dinner party (black leather would hold up better with dirty fingers, spilled drinks, and everything else that goes along with a dinner party).

I decided to put one photograph on each page of the book. There are multiple options for multiple photo layouts, but I didn’t want to go that route – I felt that one photo per page would be more dramatic (especially with black & white photos).

I decided not to use captions for the photographs since I couldn’t identify every person in the photographs. I also felt that letting the photos speak for themselves would be more dramatic.

As to an opening and closing page for the book, I did create them. For the opening page, I created a simple paragraph about my parents and their wedding. For the closing page, I created a paragraph that spoke of their anniversary.

It was a few hours before I had the book in a format that I felt was ready for printing. It took me so long because I am a perfectionist; I found myself cropping photos until the very moment that I clicked on the “order” button.

When I clicked on the “order” button, I decided that I would create another version of the book after I had returned home from the holidays. This book would contain captions for the photographs. This book would also be the one that would be handed down to the grandchildren. I further decided that in this book I would describe the story behind the crown that my Mom wore and any other wedding day stories that I could gather together. I know it will be an easy book for me to create since all the hard work is already done – the photographs are still sitting in my Shutterfly account.

My Mom called yesterday to tell me that she had received the book. She said it was beautiful. My sister called me this morning to tell me that she wants copies of the book for all the siblings in our family. I told her about my wanting to create a version of the book with captions in it. She said, “Perfect! That is what we should hand down to our children. We need to order a book for each of them.” Ah-ha! Great minds think alike. ;)

So, take your wedding photos and scan them in. Take your vacation photos and scan them in. Take your children’s school photos and scan them in. Create a photo book that tells the story of your marriage and your family. And have the last page simply be one that mentions the vow renewal that you will be planning for your 25th wedding anniversary. There are a few days left in which you can pull this off. If you can do it, your photo book should arrive in time for Christmas. Have fun.
 












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