how do i handle this?

[collegejunkie]

one of my good friend's dad just died. he is a friend from home and we go to the same school. i offered to drive him home but he was already back by the time i found out about what had happened. i don't know when he'll be back, but when he is, i don't know how to interact with him or talk to him about his loss, because i absolutely hate my dad and would not care if he died. i realize how that sounds, but trust me when i say that my father is the worst human being alive. in any case, my friend's dad was the complete opposite: awesome, supportive, proud, very caring, etc. they're such a great family but i don't know how to handle being there for him. any thoughts? what do i say and do?

 

[npmommie]

one of my good friend's dad just died. he is a friend from home and we go to the same school. i offered to drive him home but he was already back by the time i found out about what had happened. i don't know when he'll be back, but when he is, i don't know how to interact with him or talk to him about his loss, because i absolutely hate my dad and would not care if he died. i realize how that sounds, but trust me when i say that my father is the worst human being alive. in any case, my friend's dad was the complete opposite: awesome, supportive, proud, very caring, etc. they're such a great family but i don't know how to handle being there for him. any thoughts? what do i say and do?

I am sorry for your friend's loss.
I lost my dad when I was in college, and the best thing my friends did for me was be there to talk and listen.
just be supportive and express your condolences, and just be there for him if he needs a shoulder.

 

[hereyago]

You just be there for him.

Going on 7 years now, my DF passed away. It wasn't shocking, but still it was so sad,etc. I had my friends call and come by. I took a week off from work trying to get his thing situated. I went back to work and everyone literally just didn't know what to say or how to act. They hugged me, etc.

But there was 1 person and she and I are crazy alike. she and I would always joke around. she said I am not going to joke around with you due to respect. I told her that actually I would love if someone made me laugh. ANd other people are like, no don't. but it was what I needed.

For your friend, that may not be the case, only you know how he is and you take your ques from him. but just be there for him.

 

[stepmommyof1]

All you have to say is that you're so sorry for what has happened to him, and that his dad was a truly wonderful person, and that you want to be there for your friend during this hard time. Then, you don't have to say anything- you just have to be there. Your friend might want time alone, but he also might want someone to be with him. Just ask what would be the best thing for you to do and then do it. Just be his friend, that's all he needs right now.