How do I get someone to stop harrassing me.

[Little Miss Liberty]

I broke up with a guy almost 2 years ago. Since then he has called my cell phone repeatedly caller ID blocked and hangs up and never leaves a message. He even calls my house and hangs up on my parents. I never pick up the caller ID blocked on my cell. And now hes e-mailed me asking me to contact him. I just want him to leave me alone! He did some nasty stuff like tape our conversations and taking pictures and video without me knowing. So far I've ignored him and he dosen't get the message. Anyone have any suggestions?

 

[highland3]

It's not quite criminal harassment... but it's getting there. Contact you local police and outline everything that has gone on. Seek their support in getting a restraining order. They may just pay him a visit to chat.

 

[cabmom]

Call your local police dept, non-emerg line and ask what they think you should do.

Marilynn

 

[Chester's Mum]

I would contact the police, tell them about the pictures and video, I can understand why you are worried about this. If you were my daughter, I'd be losing sleep over it. Good luck. I hope you can resolve this so you can move on.

 

[madonna31]

Three words; Call the Police.

It's what they are there for. Good luck and please keep us posted!

 

[runner26.2]

If this has been going on for two years you need to go to the Police. he obviously hasn't gotten the message and isn't taking NO for an answer. You need to do this sooner rather than later.

 

[Little Miss Liberty]

I want to call the cops but I'm affraid he'll do something with those photos if I do. But maybe I'll call the police and see if they have any advice. Can you call the cops just for advice?

 

[Cass]

Document everything, every call, hang up, contact.. keep a journal of it all. See a lawyer - file a restraining order.

 

[cdnmickeylover]

Yes you can call the cops for advice. Most likely they will go talk to him and even if at that point he denies that it's him hopefully that will be enough to scare him into leaving you alone.

A similar thing happened to my DS - he was being harassed by a girlfriend's ex and the cops paid him a visit. He denied the harassing but the harassing did stop.

Document the calls because if you have to sue him at some point you'll have to prove that it was him.

 

[mouseketeer_mom]

You're thread caught my eye. If you lived in the States I would have excellent information and referrals for you, unfortunately I know zilch about Canadian law

I will say this though; please contact the police. Be very honest and specific with them. Tell them about the pictures and the circumstances surrounding them. Call them immediately. There may be specific things they will want you to document that will then allow you a certain recourse.

The laws may be very different but the nature of harrassment and those who engage in that behavior are universal. Although his contacts with you are not threatening overtly, the length of his course of conduct may be great cause for concern.

 

[SaraMc]

My brother is a cop and so was my dad ( retired now) My brother who just happens to be here visiting my son said that you should call your local unit and talk to them. They most likely will go and visit your ex and talk to him and that should scare him enough. Dont hesitate, they will help you.

 

[Mortlives]

One thing you should not do is respond to the email. If you have a Mac, you have the option of having the email bounce, so it will look like the server bounced it because the address is wrong. There might be a way to do this if you don't have a Mac, hopefully someone else can help you with that. If not, contact your service provider and ask if they can bounce his emails. Best wishes on getting rid of him, this sort of thing isn't fun.

 

[Boncho]

Do not wait any longer - go to the police!!!!!

 

[Little Miss Liberty]

I know that I should call the police I'm just affraid that it will make him mad and he'll do something with those pictures. And can the police do something even though I know its him but I don't have any proof? This is so frustrating I feel like he's doing all this annonimously and he can get away with it. I'm not replying to his e-mail. Anyways thanks for listening and letting me vent. I needed to get this off my chest its a real big source of stress.

 

[runner26.2]

Go to the police tell them about the existence of pictures. The police can take that up with the fellow harassing you. Should all of a sudden those pictures begin appearing it will be extremely obvious where they came from.

 

[baby_becky716]

I agree with everyone else, Call the Police! If it has been this long I don't think he will just give up...Better to be safe than to be sorry! Trust Me! Call The Police.

 

[Mortlives]

Please contact the police. They are experts in dealing with morons who "might get mad". Having him do something with (publish?) those pictures can't possibly be as bad as living in fear. And please, if you ever feel you're in danger, go to a shelter. They will help you.

Please keep us informed. We want to know you're safe and happy.

 

[pkitty]

I have been married to a cop for 15 years and we talk about situations like yours (due to the nature of our careers)...alot. There are many people out there in your very same situation. With the laws on domestic violence being what they are, they take situations such as your very seriously (zero tolerance stance with the OPP the mandate is that this is a number one priority). A conversation will be had and more importantly, a recorded incident report filed to establish the nature of your complaint and to start the documentation process flowing. There are many laws in place prohibiting the unauthorized reproduction of video tape and photos...not sure about the criminal applications. Best advice here is to report it to the police. Without telling them this will continue. You said you are afraid of the ramifications if he were to find out....are you afraid of him and more importantly, has he ever threatened you? This is you best option to stop this behaviour before it escalates. Reclaim your life and take control of this situation with their assistance. I really encourage you to seek police assistance....go into the office to do this. An officer at the desk will take your report right away and offer you some guidance. You are your own best advocate.Take care.

 

[canron]

get someone to visit him in the parking lot it works great.

 

[cdndislvr]

I know that I should call the police I'm just affraid that it will make him mad and he'll do something with those pictures. And can the police do something even though I know its him but I don't have any proof? This is so frustrating I feel like he's doing all this annonimously and he can get away with it. I'm not replying to his e-mail. Anyways thanks for listening and letting me vent. I needed to get this off my chest its a real big source of stress.

You need to go the police......and yesterday would have been better than today! Even tho you broke up with this guy he is still holding you hostage with his emotional abuse. It's time to take back control of your life!