How do I convinvce DH to go?

[casjen72]

I love Disney! My FIL is taking the entire family on a huge trip in Feb. But, you know how those go. Everyone arguing, kids being dragged around etc. I know we wont get to do any adult rides.

I found an inexpensive way (well, inexpensive for Disney!) to go in December before Christmas. I can arrange child care. He is being a scrooge!

How do I convince him the $$ is well worth it for alone time in the most magical place on earth!

 

[mattsdragon]

Wife: "I think we should go to Star Wars Weekend"

Me: "Ok, which resort should I book?"

 

[Tjaleks]

Wife: "I think we should go to Star Wars Weekend"

Me: "Ok, which resort should I book?"

That is EXACTLY how I got my husband to go. We are going next year.

 

[outlander]

well...that wasn't how i was thinking of going about it...but whatever works!

 

[cleo]

Same advice I always give: find out why he doesn't want to go. He may have some very good reasons.

If so, address those issues. That's the only way you'll get agreement that doesn't end up in your feeling like he's dragging along, unhappy, and you're wishing you'd never bothered. Or, maybe he'll give you some good reasons that make you reconsider your timing.

If he doesn't have any 'reasonable' reasons, you may have to decide if 'convincing him' will mean you're dragging him around, unhappily, in a place you really want to enjoy. OR, he may be comforted by talking about whatever worries him about this trip, and he'll skip like a girly all around the World.

 

[SnwflkCts]

My trick - "Hey DH -- "diamonds" or "Disney"???"

WDW is actually CHEAPER than the diamonds I'm looking at.

Good luck asjen72 - in reality maybe just a little talk of how cozy it will be -- just the two of you ... great savings ... don't buy each other gifts ... this is the gift ... look at this hot little cami set I bought just to wear there ...

 

[helenm29]

Oh, I LOVE that DIAMOND THING! I might just try that next time!
Actually, going WITHOUT the kids would not be a big plus! my husband loves to bring the kids to DW and doesn't think it would be any fun without them! I really don't know what I would do to get him to go with just ME! Sorry, no help here! Good Luck to you though! Yo Ho! Helen

 

[TaraPA]

My DH is also not a huge Disney fanatic like I am - he is going this Dec. ONLY because I promised he could take his laptop & Blackberry & I wouldn't complain about him taking work calls while we were there. HOWEVER - if you can't convince him to go with you this Dec. did you ever consider going alone, with a girlfriend, or with one of your kids? I would LOVE to go alone - really, you're never "alone" in WDW. I went last time with just my DS (age 5 at the time) while DH stayed home with the 2-yr old DS - we had such a wonderful trip. I've also considered going with a girlfriend. I know you want to go just with him, but don't despair if he refuses - move on to Plan B!

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I would find out what's important to him and figure how that would work at Disney. My DH likes to save money, so I told him about the free DP. Does he like the beach? To ride water boats? To golf? What is his idea of a great vacation? The best thing about DW is that you can do so many things. It's not all about the rides. So, try to find out what he wants from a vacation and show him how he can have that at Disney. I would also tell him that I would make it "extra special"

 

[Vivianne]

Try these:

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Maybe one will work, Dont giv up.

 

[tmt martins]

Do like me with DW I just book it and tell her she needs off at that time.

 

[Harvest02]

My DH is also not a huge Disney fanatic like I am - he is going this Dec. ONLY because I promised he could take his laptop & Blackberry & I wouldn't complain about him taking work calls while we were there. HOWEVER - if you can't convince him to go with you this Dec. did you ever consider going alone, with a girlfriend, or with one of your kids? I would LOVE to go alone - really, you're never "alone" in WDW. I went last time with just my DS (age 5 at the time) while DH stayed home with the 2-yr old DS - we had such a wonderful trip. I've also considered going with a girlfriend. I know you want to go just with him, but don't despair if he refuses - move on to Plan B!

So, I am not the only one who has this problem? My husband HATES Disney, but my kids and I LOVE it! He went with us in June and now hates it even more because he was sick while we were there! He says he will never go back again! SO....I am taking my kids next year in October for the MNSSHP by myself. Maybe he will change his mind by then, who knows!! My DH is a workaholic also, so he was on his phone alot too while we were there. But, I figure we might have a good time anyway since like you said "you are never alone in Disney". I agree...try to find someone else to take along that enjoys Disney as much as you!!!

 

[mmmcq]

Actually laughed when I read your post......my DH tried to convince me to go for our 20th anniversary a few years back and I said "no". I can't believe I said no....but I couldn't stand the thought of not taking my then 4 yr old who hadn't been since she wasn 9 months. I LOVE WDW.....what was I thinking!

Ask your DH if there is somewhere else he'd like to go and why. That will give you some insight. You can play the pro and con game.......and then maybe he'll change his mind. Or maybe you'll change yours, go where he'd like to travel....and then next time.....it's your call.

Good luck

 

[PrincessAlways]

If you can convince him, let me know!! DH went along only once when my boys were small. He has NEVER gone back & doesn't WANT to go back! Now, if you look at my signature, I've been back quite a few times. Mostly to meet my brother & his family, sometimes with one or more of my sons. Other times, I've gone with friends. I will always continue to go back HOME! I've never gone by myself. I don't know if I would -- maybe one day. If he really doesn't want to go, don't force him. He'll have a terrible time & make your visit miserable Make plans with a friend and/or coworker & have a magical time.

 

[RayaniFoxmur]

I started by showing him the website Doombuggies which basically is a huge fan site to the Haunted Mansion. Once he saw all the inner workings of the ride he really wanted to ride it and experience it. He was facinated, and totally hooked! Now the man that cringed when I mentioned going to Walt Disney World for our honeymoon in 2008 is sitting on the edge of his seat for our trip to Disney World this coming New Years!

 

[DiszyDeanette]

Can't help here. We're going in 17 days, and DH is not only already planning next year's trip, he is looking forward to bringing our grandchildren someday. Our oldest is only 16! LOL!

 

[Kristina]

The Doombuggies site is a good idea! Also if you are computer savy there is a great Travel Channel show on WDW at Christmas for download somewhere that would surely do the trick! Get em interested! A long time ago my boyfriend would have loved to go but thought it was way to expensive at the time. Me, I was crazy with longing to go, so I placed a copy of the Unofficial guide in the bathroom. Now before that he wouldn't surf any Disney sites and didn't really want to talk about Disney several times a day like we do now . However I truely believe that book in there did the trick because after that he was much more interested and well, we went on our first trip a year after that .

 

[STEAMBOAT209]

Fishing and golf can be booked if your interested in going

 

[tn_disney_addict]

Ha, I usually say:

"Hey honey, DD(8) and I are going to WDW, do you want to go?" He can't STAND the thought of us going anywhere without him. He always says "Yep!" and has a great time. Keep in mind he always says, that is the last time I am going, you guys are on your own next time! He stayed home ONCE when DD and I flew down for a weekend to attend the MVMCP and I think the 48 hours we were gone almost killed him.