How do I become more inconsiderate?

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

I was raised that if you commit to something you follow through, if you have to cancel you do it as soon as possible, not 5 minutes before, that you should be on time and if you're running more than a few minutes late call before the time that you were supposed to be there, and if you make plans you don't cancel because something better comes along.

But I'm starting to think I'm the only person who actually thinks about the other people involved in my plans and now they are effected by my actions.

So how do I become more inconsiderate? How do I cancel when something better comes along? How do I stop calling when I'm running late and just show up when I get there? How do I cancel plans at the last minute because I just don't want to hold it anymore?

Because I'm tired of being the only considerate one around, and I must evolve into this new era of all about me-itis.

Help?

 

[maddhatir]

Thats OK- there are STILL some of us considerate people left!

i think of it this way--- i treat situations/people the way I would want to be treated. that is why i am considerate. i say please and thank you. i dont like to leave people hanging. it makes ME feel like a good person to do all that. thats just the way WE are.

but guess what--- there are too many people out there who are INCONSIDERATE already-- i dont think we should join them......I LIKE TO STICK OUT! and am proud of it.....

dont let THEM get to you!

 

[ticktock]

I can so relate to this. I find myself socializing less and less. The same people who are so inconsiderate in their manners act like I'm odd because I don't want to be around them anymore. Oh. OK, I'm the rude one because I tell you no, I don't want to be included, instead of saying I'll be there and then showing up late. Whatever.

Maybe I should just tell them "Frankly, you are not worth my time." Do you think they'd get the hint? Probably not. Hang in there WatchinCaptKangaroo, don't let them turn you to the dark side!

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

Thanks guys. I feel a lil better. These people are my friends and otherwise are amazing and good people. They are just chronicaly late and chronic flakers and I'm just annoyed at the moment. It shall pass.

 

[maddhatir]

chronic flakers and I'm just annoyed at the moment. It shall pass.

chronic flakers annoy me too!

sorry- i couldnt pass that one up!

 

[figment52]

I was raised that way too - you are not alone.

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

Maybe it's what I get for living in the land of the shallow and materialistic.

 

[maddhatir]

I am seriously considering moving to Mars!

I really dont care for the people here on earth!

 

[MAKmom]

I can relate tonight! I helped BIL with SIL 50th Birthday party today. He invited 65 people regrets only. 2 people responded no. Only 25ish showed up. We made food for 65! He had tables & chairs set up for 65! 1 of the people who did not respond or show up was the Birthday girls sister!

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

I am seriously considering moving to Mars!

I really dont care for the people here on earth!

Ya, go back to where you came from! And take me with you!

 

[Aidensmom]

We do need to form a new community, Mars is a possibility.

Yesterday I got stuck in traffic and was late to work by 10 minutes...in an office where there are 50 employees. I WAS THE FIRST ONE THERE! When I discovered I had to unlock the door I for a moment thought I came to work on Saturday. I am sorry, but that is really sad when the whole office thinks its ok to be late!

 

[maddhatir]

Ya, go back to where you came from! And take me with you!

HEY! how inconsiderate!

your learning!

and by the way-- the ship is coming to get me in a few hours!

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

HEY! how inconsiderate!

your learning!

and by the way-- the ship is coming to get me in a few hours!

It'll be late. You might as well stay here for another day or so.

 

[Free4Life11]

It'll be late. You might as well stay here for another day or so.

that was the funniest thing I've read all night! I needed that...

 

[AC7179]

I was raised this way too.

My friends, people who I love, just don't get it.

I will be in the middle of a conversation with them and their cell phone will ring and they will just quit talking to me to answer it, then they stay on the phone forever. How rude!

I'm sorry you're feeling down.....

 

[N.Bailey]

Well, I have a surefire way for you to accomplish your goal that I learned from a very good friend of mine. I guess she went shopping with another co-worker one time. Keep in mind, you have to travel 45 minutes one way to get to our closest mall. My friend decided they'd both take their own cars as they had different plans afterward. Actually, I knew my friend just would never put herself into a situation where she couldn't do as she wanted. The other co-worker wanted to look in one store, but my friend did not. So, they went their separate ways for what was suppose to be about 15 minutes or so. My friend didn't want to wait, so she went shopping all alone and left the mall when she was finished. My co-worker spent the remainder of the day trying to find my friend. Eventually she left totally PO'd. My friend thought her actions were perfectly acceptable.

I can still call her my friend to this day because after a 15 year friendship, I know to never make these types of plans with her. Dinner and a movie is fine, but beyond that, no way!

Trust me, this one will work like a charm.

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

HEY! how inconsiderate!

your learning!

and by the way-- the ship is coming to get me in a few hours!

Did that ship ever show up?

N.Bailey, that is insane! I guess I should be glad that my friends flake before the plans are made?

I'm going to add one more thing that really wants to make me smack them. There's a random party going on and then 3 days later all I hear is you should have been there. Well you should have called me. That issue is getting better though after I did that.

Humm. Maybe I am learning.

 

[Michie]

I was raised that if you commit to something you follow through, if you have to cancel you do it as soon as possible, not 5 minutes before, that you should be on time and if you're running more than a few minutes late call before the time that you were supposed to be there, and if you make plans you don't cancel because something better comes along.

But I'm starting to think I'm the only person who actually thinks about the other people involved in my plans and now they are effected by my actions.

So how do I become more inconsiderate? How do I cancel when something better comes along? How do I stop calling when I'm running late and just show up when I get there? How do I cancel plans at the last minute because I just don't want to hold it anymore?

Because I'm tired of being the only considerate one around, and I must evolve into this new era of all about me-itis.

Help?

I think since we live in the cell phone age, people tend to think if they call, even 5 minutes before that makes it okay since they did call. The same thing with being late, I think more and more people are being late because due to cell phones they can call and say " I am going to be late". Cell phones or not, some of us still have schedules we try to go by.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So how do I become more inconsiderate? How do I cancel when something better comes along? How do I stop calling when I'm running late and just show up when I get there? How do I cancel plans at the last minute because I just don't want to hold it anymore?

Help?

Oh yes....

You constantly bug them with their cell phone.
Late people...."have you left yet?"
Canceling people...."have you left yet?"

Here are some real {{{hugs}}}, it really stinks that people are this rude and don't care.

 

[maddhatir]

Did that ship ever show up?

well LOOK at the TIME!

no they never showed up....how inconsiderate-- i think i need to find another planet...Mars just doesnt seem to be OUR kind of place!