How did this become my problem?

[Jennifer S]

A mom from kindergarten calls a few minutes ago ( I am homeroom mom). Hi I'm too sick to make cupcakes for tomorrow's party" Sorry Bye.

WTH - has she never heard of a store? Ask your DH to stop at the store on his way home from work and buy some. Now I have to go to the store and get them.

I guess I'm too nice. I would never have done that. Would anyone here?

 

[mickeyboat]

I would not have done that. I would have sent DH or a friend to the store. That's terrible! Don't call her next time.

Denae

 

[mommytotwo]

I would have never done that to you.
Some parents are like that and now you know who you can cross of your reliable parent list.

 

[Servants of Evan]

Our kids school requires that all snacks/cupcakes, etc be store bought. At least that way they can better ensure the food was made under sanitary conditions!

 

[J and R's mom]

Don't bail her out. Call her back and tell her to have her hubby pick some up. If he'd like to bring them by your house so that you can take them to school tomorrow (along with your child) then you'd be happy to help.

It really IRKS me when folks take advantage of other people. But folks will continue to do it to you as long as you allow it to be done.

 

[bananiem]

Ok, I wouldn't have handled it that way but I have to play Devil's Advocate. Maybe the whole family has the barfs. Maybe she's a single mom. Maybe her hubby's on a business trip. Maybe her hubby's a jerk and wouldn't do it if she asked.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Consider yourself lucky she told you the day before.

Nothing like being the room parent and the person doesn't even show. Kids have to get a drink from the water fountain!

 

[Jennifer S]

Thanks guys- after I posted I thought maybe I was a little harsh. I'm just mad that she dumped it on me at the last minute.

 

[luvdzne]

Our kids school requires that all snacks/cupcakes, etc be store bought. At least that way they can better ensure the food was made under sanitary conditions!

Have you seen dateline?

O.P. I have been a room mom for several years, mostly because no one else would step up. I have had several parents like the one you are talking about, not necessarly doing the same thing, but similiar. I found it easier and less stressful to do it myself sometimes. I wouldn't bother calling her back, either contact another parent or get them yourself. Then put her on you do not call list. Good luck!

 

[Jennifer S]

Ok, I wouldn't have handled it that way but I have to play Devil's Advocate. Maybe the whole family has the barfs. Maybe she's a single mom. Maybe her hubby's on a business trip. Maybe her hubby's a jerk and wouldn't do it if she asked.

I could understand if that was the case but then she should at least make me feel sorry for her instead of mad. I would say oh sorry my husband is away I'm sick blah blah blah. Now she looks like a jerk.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I would also call back and see if she can stop by the store and pick up some and send them in (or send her DH to the store). If that's a problem then she can speak up. Too bad that she didn't explain more when she called the first time so you would know if she truly couldn't get to the store (DH not in the picture, out of town, whole family REALLY sick, etc, etc) so you would understand. Which leads me to believe that she is sick, but could have figured out an alternative.

 

[Jennifer S]

Consider yourself lucky she told you the day before.

Nothing like being the room parent and the person doesn't even show. Kids have to get a drink from the water fountain!

I have been room parent every year and I did learn from an instance where a lot of moms "forgot" now I know to never leave messages and always talk to them. If it's an unreliable parent I call and remind them. You'd think they would want the kids to have a nice party.

Anyhow my DH is stopping at the store on his way home from work. What a good guy

 

[MouseWorshipin]

If she's too sick to make them, she might be too sick to go to the store. Maybe she isn't married or her husband is out of town. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

If she's too sick to make them, she might be too sick to go to the store. Maybe she isn't married or her husband is out of town. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

Maybe, but it would have been nice of her to have explained that. I know that some people don't like to get too personal, but a few details would have made it easier to understand.

 

[Stacerita]

I hate when parents do that. But at least she called you ahead of time. It could have been worst if she just didn't show up with them. We had that happen with snack after one of the sweetpea's games. The parent was given the sheet the listed her snack day, she was told the day before the game as well, and the manager called that night as a reminder. Guess what, parents showed up to the game (with enough time to make a run to the store) with no snacks. All they had to say was "opps, we forgot". And there were all the girls waiting for their snack after the game. Whats wrong with some parents.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Maybe, but it would have been nice of her to have explained that. I know that some people don't like to get too personal, but a few details would have made it easier to understand.

You are totally right about that. It just might not have occurred to her to say, "Oh, by the way, I'm not married, so there isn't anyone to pick them up."

But I'm just guessing. She might have just faked being sick because she didn't feel like baking? What do I know? Zip. Zippidy-Do-Da.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

You are totally right about that. It just might not have occurred to her to say, "Oh, by the way, I'm not married, so there isn't anyone to pick them up."

But I'm just guessing. She might have just faked being sick because she didn't feel like baking? What do I know? Zip. Zippidy-Do-Da.

Zip. Zippidy-Do-Da ??? You had me laughing over that.

The thing is, most women don't shut up about the details. So either she really didn't have a reason to not provide the snacks (other than being sick herself), she is just very closed mouth, or she is lying. My expert analysis.

 

[aprilgail2]

Thats terrible...I am single and if I couldn't do it I would certainly have a friend pick something up for me to send to school if I had to!

 

[clutter]

Thats terrible...I am single and if I couldn't do it I would certainly have a friend pick something up for me to send to school if I had to!

Nah, I'm single and I already ask my friends for too many favors! But I would call another mom in the room to pitch in.

However, the most likely scenario in my case is that I'd simply forget. That's why I don't generally volunteer for stuff like that. Seriously, since I don't get my email until the evenings, it's usually too late to volunteer in our school.

 

[Freyja]

She was just rude in my opinion. I guess I´m too nice as well. I problaby would have picked up the pieces for her, although I don´t feel you should have.