How could grand parents forget a birthday!

[lisajl]

Shannon and Tom, Happy Birthday to your son!
Glad you made it special for him~

I thought we were the only ones that had this sort of problem.

My in laws never remember my boys birthdays.
Then when they do, they make it up to them. But, my youngest son told her, "it's not my birthday, it was last month."
Felt a little embarrased, but he made his point.

Lisajl

 

[Bildmouse]

My MIL has 30+ grandkids but mine seem to be the ones that are forgotten. She even forgot my DS's graduation party until we called to ask where she was. DH had picked her up the week before to take her to the ceremony but she forgot about the party even though invitations were sent. He didn't even get a card from her.

 

[browneyes]

Happy Belated Birthday to Shannon and Tom's son. Sorry his g'parents haven't called yet.

 

[newmousecateer]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Shannon and Tom's son!

Sorry grandparents didn't call him.

 

[Indyman]

Happy birthday to your little guy. We are in the same boat. My parents always forget my youngest son's birthday (he's now 9). They only have 2 grandchildren (both mine), so they don't have to remember that much. I started calling them the day after just to tell them what we did for his birthday. I guess that tactic didn't work, they forgot again this year.

 

[Pam]

Please send my birthday wishes to your son:

"Happy Birthday, a little belated!!!!!"

Forgetting our birthdays is something that occurs quite frequently for our family. It's one thing when it's my DH or me, we're hurt but we're adults - but to blatantly forget or blow off our kids is another story!! So ------ my solution is to do the same thing back: I conveniently forget theirs as well. I've also been told that "we didn't get you anything because MIL says you have everything." One year I neglected to do anything for MIL's birthday, FIL approaches me a couple of days later and asks if I forgot. "Oh no," was my reply, "I just thought she had everything and didn't anything from us." Total shock on the man's face!! A couple of years ago, she did remember - and gave me a box of pretzels for my birthday.

Pam

 

[Pembo]

Happy Birthday to your DS!!!!

I think he has lots of "DIS-Relatives" that won't forget!

 

[Kallison]

Buy him a calendar for Christmas and color code all the important dates with Sharpie marker.

My MIL sometimes remembers and sometimes forgets. My parents always call on the day and wish the kids a Happy Birthday if they aren't seeing them. Some people are just better at those sort of things.

 

[Cindy B]

Well I don't have the problem with the retired in laws..and I would understand with them.

Its the currently working sister and parents!

 

[dmslush]

Happy birthday!!


I do have a funny related story. I turned 30 this past July, as the rest of you ladies know, that can be a depressing birthday. Well, I didn't get ANY cards. I always get cards from my granny and my great aunt, but this year, I got nothing.

A couple of weeks ago, my mother, my daughter, and I were visiting my aunt and granny; My aunt says, "Oh! I forgot your birthday!" So I perk right up, she comes out of her room and hands my daughter an envelope of cash. And my aunt says, "You birthday was in july wasn't it?" To which I say, "No Della, my birthday is in July and Shelby's is in October." My aunt said, "Oh, I have my dates mixed up, Shelby you go ahead and keep the gift, I might not see you again before your birthday." My granny then pulled out a wad of cash and gave to my daughter also. LOL, neither one of them said a word about missing my b-day

 

[Meriweather]

Happy birthday to your DS!!

This year is the first year we've had this problem
DD's birthday is late June. Mid June DH reminds MIL of it and gives her DD's address (at school). Birthday comes and goes....nothing (just a card would be okay). DH reminds his mother and gives her the addrss again....still nothing. MIL calls here and I give her DD's address a thrid time. Finally about 3 weeks after she gets a card. It hurts their feeelings no matter the age (sometimes older, hurts more). MIL only has 5 GC, so it isn't too many to keep track of.

Well, then DS's birthday is early Aug. MIL gets address and a reminder. No card. Another recminder......no card. A third and now....still no card for DS

 

[shannonandtom]

Thanks everyone!! It makes us feel better knowing that other people can relate.
The strange thing about this is that his 91 year old Great Grandmother called two day's before because she wanted to send him a card. But our parents in their 50's and 60's can't remember????

Thanks again everyone

Tom...

 

[kidzmom3]

happy birthday to your DS. I hope he had a fun day. Is this a cronic thing or can you give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they forgot. Maybe birthdays are not that important to them (I don't feel this way but some people do). I don't believe in mothers day. I think its a made up holiday. Now birthdays, they are different, but not everyone has the same point of view as you (as in each person) do. I try to make the kids birthdays great, as our immediate family. If other people want to join in the celebration with calls, cards or gifts Great! If not the kids still had a great day.

 

[CamColt]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!

Sorry to hear what happened though. I can relate. My MIL can never remember how old the kids are or their dates. In fact she gave them a book once and it it she wrote their names and DOB(thinking this was something special) and she got one date wrong. Last years bday card for DS was dated 2001, when it was 2002. The best was when she wasnt sure whether DS was turning 1 or 2 a few months later. We had just sent her pictures. Dont you think there is a big difference between a 6 month old baby and an 18 month old toddler, so she could have figured that one out. She even gave me a card when I first had DS. She wrote the wrong name in it! She called him Cameron Justin, hes Cameron Austin.

Just know that it happens to others too, and just try to go with it. I know its frustrating, but what can you do(except laugh at them )?

 

[binny]

Originally posted by Joyce DC
Happy Birthday to your son. If the grandparents are really forgetting, you might try what we tried. Every Christmas they receive a wall calendar with all the family important dates written in (by me!). It worked well for us. Sometimes our older, retired family members aren't being selfish, but since they are retired they don't always keep up with the passing of the days (my mother says everyday's a Saturday!).

Joyce

yep we do this too if you want to be subtle, for Christmas make them one of the calendars that have your family's pictures on them Kinkos makes them or I think you can buy a program to do it yourself.
It worked for us and the inlaws

HAPPY HAPPY DAY to your ds!