Honeymoon Crisis :(

[pooh98378]

Ok - so DF and I are planning our wedding for January '08. Our wedding is on a Friday. I was not supposed to start my last semester of school until a week from the following Monday. That way, we would have a full week after the wedding for our honeymoon. Well, they changed my schedule. Now, I am supposed to start school on the Thursday after the wedding, which means we would have to be home on Wednesday night, which means that we really only have from Sunday to Wednesday for our honeymoon (because we are staying at Disney until Sunday). We were planning on going to Hawaii, but now that's totally out of the question unless I skip school on that Thursday and Friday (which is NOT suggested for law school...).

DF said maybe we could go on a 'mini-honeymoon' for those few days and then go to Hawaii in May or something. I'm just so frustrated. Unfortunately, the wedding is in the winter so lots of places are going to be cold at that time of year...

 

[DisBride2007]

Sorry to hear that. I had a honeymoon crisis of my own this past January. DH and I were getting married at WDW on a Monday. We intended to fly to California the day after the wedding, then fly to Hawaii and do a 7-day cruise, to fly back to California and then back east. Between the wedding and honeymoon we'd be gone for 2 weeks.

I had to jump through hoops at work to get 2 weeks approved, but I did it finally. And then.... MIL got sick. Really sick. DH was basically taking care of her 24 hours a day. We eventually... okay I eventually decided that we shouldn't go on our dream honeymoon. I didn't want him to be on the phone w/ her the whole time we were on our trip. And what if something happened when we were stuck on a ship 12 hours away?

We finally just ended up staying at WDW for a few extra days. And that was great too. It obviously wasn't our dream honeymoon... in fact I referred to it as our "post-wedding trip"... but it was something. All that matters is you spending time with your DH. You will have the rest of your lives to travel to Hawaii, or Tahiti or wherever you want to go.

 

[PrincessShanShan]

Dh's family lost everything in Katrina. His father and stepmother even moved in with him for awhile. We were married less than four months after the storm and just didn't feel right going on a honeymoon at that time. We waited an entire year and our "disneymoon" started the day after our first anniversary. It wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be and gave me something to plan and look forward to doing. We've now decided that we will celebrate our anniversary every year by taking a trip somewhere. We now have something that will be a tradition that probably wouldn't have happened otherwise, so see sometimes good things come from situations that we think aren't the greatest! Hang in there!

 

[JonetteA]

We wanted to go to Hawaii as well but realized once we got there we would have to turn right around. What about a 3 or 4 day cruise, or go down to the Florida keys. Just a suggestion. Save the main honeymoon for your first anniversary.

 

[MickeyAnne]

Maybe a three night Disney Cruise would work out. Not exacly Hawaii but it my hold you over for a bit until you can do a real honeymoon!

 

[heatherlynn444]

my DH is in law school and he had to miss thursday and friday of this january when school started after christmas! lol. he just e mailed his professors before Christmas and they told him what they would be going over so he could read ahead, which actually scored him some brownie points I think! and it wasn't a big deal, he caught up adn is doing fine. you only get to honeymoon once, so maybe you can miss those two days? it is possible! good luck

 

[ForKeeps]

my DH is in law school and he had to miss thursday and friday of this january when school started after christmas! lol. he just e mailed his professors before Christmas and they told him what they would be going over so he could read ahead, which actually scored him some brownie points I think! and it wasn't a big deal, he caught up adn is doing fine. you only get to honeymoon once, so maybe you can miss those two days? it is possible! good luck

I did the same thing. It was my last semester of law school. I found that it was pretty easy to get caught up because around these parts you never do much on the first day of class. So I didn't miss much and just got the notes from friends. But....I have to admit...I never skip class and I felt kinda guilty when I was playing hooky in Disney world. It was only 2 days, and I'd never missed a class in 3 years...so I justified the guilt away.

 

[Thumper's Tara]

I like the idea some other posters mentioned about talking to the profs and seeing if it would be a huge deal. I mean, it is your wedding/honeymoon.

If that doesn't work, how about a couple of days in an all-inclusive in Flordia or the caribean, and then head for a "major" honeymoon in May. This way, you will have something to look forward to when the wedding planning is over.

We were originally planning on going to an all-inclusive in the carribean for a few days after our wedding, but decided that we really couldn't afford to do it the way we would like to. Instead, we will be staying a couple of days in the GF, 2 days in the Contemprorary, and then a 3-day Disney Cruise.

Maybe you could do something similar? Or maybe spend a few "extraordinary" nights at WDW? Maybe do something you wouldn't normally do?

Whatever you choose, I am sure it will be fantastic!

 

[JJClemson]

DF and I can only stay in WDW for 4 days after the wedding b/c we have to go to NJ immediately for an at-home reception in my home town. DF goes back to school the following week so we don't have time for a real honeymoon either. We're just going to plan our "honeymoon" for our one year anniversary, like Jonette suggested. Funds are tight now with the wedding anyway, so we consider it a blessing in disguise. Good luck

 

[V & S]

Oh, my. Definitely talk/email your profs and explain the situation. This is your honeymoon, after all! I believe most profs would be sympathetic; especially since you are asking now and not at the last minute. AND especially since they changed your schedule!!

 

[pooh98378]

Thanks everyone! The class schedules for the Fall and Spring should come out in the next couple of weeks (all I know for right now is that school actually starts on that Thursday). After the class schedules come out, I think I will be better able to tell how many classes I will actually miss (and how hard those classes are). I talked to one of my friends who missed the first few classes this semseter and she said that it was not a huge problem. I would like to skip because you do only have one honeymoon, but at the same time I know I will feel guilty about it.

We did think about going to the Caribbean, but it is really super expensive at that time of year. I also like the idea of the FL Keys or a Disney Cruise.

It's just frustrating to me because DF and I will both be in our last semester of school and he lives 5 hours away (but he comes home a lot on weekends ). So, it's not like we will just come home and be together constantly -- he has to go back to school too, which means a continuation of the long distance relationship thing for a few more months (it's a long story as to why we chose to get married in January versus after we graduate in May). And, let's just say that FMIL is a bit, um, hovering and so even if we are back at home together, we still have to deal with the constant calls and you need to do this or do that... (She nearly had a heart attack when we told her that we will not have our cell phones during our honeymoon).

So we'll see...

 

[ryantab02]

Boy, do I know about school scheduling! Wow. seems like that will change anything at the last minute. We're fortunate enough to have our wedding two weeks before school starts! I will have two semesters left of school when we get married.

I hope everything works out for you.