Here goes, please no flames

[L107ANGEL]

So I got the call last night. My Dad died. Before you all get upset, he left me completley when I was 8 and I had no say. I feel apathy yet guilty. Sorry, just needed to vent!

 

[Stacerita]

Vent all you want. You will see no flames from me.

 

[Tiggeroo]

My father is 62 and I often wonder how i'll react to this. He's in good health and all that. But he has very little relationship with any of us kids. When we were growing up he was a compulsive gambler and mixed in some alcohol. His behavior caused constant stress and upheaval in our lives. Any closeness disappeared and it's sad. My mother got caught up in it all and is also very distant. I can't imagine any of us kids being able to help them if one goes first. Since I live the closest to my parents out of the siblings I am seriously considering moving to put some distance between us. Otherwise I may end up caring for adults whom I have no relationship and little feelings for.

 

[Miller1412]

No flames, your feelings are personal and you can vent all you need.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Vent all you want. You will see no flames from me.

Thanks!

 

[kdibattista]

 

[Shugardrawers]

When my bio father died I was 19. I had seen him once, for about 30 minutes in the last 6 years and very little before that. I feel your pain. You experienced the loss of your father years ago and it's not suprising that you feel apathetic now. Don't feel guilty. They're your feelings and you are entitled to them. My condolences on the loss of your father in more ways than one.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Thank you all!

 

[Loubon]

Sorry for your loss regardless of your relationship with him (or lack there of.)

 

[Marseeya]

I'm sorry. No flames here, because I can kind of relate. My biological father died last year and I didn't feel much of anything except disgust at him for missing out on knowing me and my family.

 

[DreaminDisney]

Vent

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Vent away sweetie.

 

[canwegosoon]

I know..mixed feelings.. my Grandfather did the same thing, abandoned my mother and her side of the family, but cared for and gave support to my uncles and their side of the family. I tried to reach out to him, and there was never any response, so when he passed away last year, I didn't go. I was shocked my mother did(not a nice scene btw). I was sad that he was gone-sad that he never came around, sad that he would not know my kids, but relieved that I didn't have to wonder anymore about the whole thing. I loved him for who he was(my Grandfather), but he never knew. His loss. Sorry if you are having any similar feelings...hoping all is ok. No Flames!!!

 

[Goofball]

I can imagine your feelings would be complicated; don't feel bad for anything you might feel.

 

[L107ANGEL]

I am so glad to see I am not the only one!

 

[SillyMe]

Hugs (my smilies aren't working right). No one should judge you for feeling the way you do, Angel.

 

[MsDisney23]

 

[tevagirl]

Your feelings, no matter what they are, are legit. Don't feel guilty. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Thanks All!

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey , good dads are hard to come by