HELP! Non-dissers are invading my turf!

[Sabrina90744]

I would give him the WDW phone number and let him make the arrangements. Just kick back and enjoy the ride. I know its hard because lets face it most of us dissers are just a tad bit obsessed with planning.

 

[HopperFan]

First I don't think DH would ask me that for fear that the evil eye would slice him in tiny pieces

He has watched the planning process for years. Even if we do a laid back, counter service type trip, each day has a general location plan. Even though I am going next weekend for 8 very planned days, I am already planning the trip in January. It may appear to be an illness to others, but our trips are always great (with the random blip that occurs when we TRAVEL WITH OTHERS!)

Rest days are IMPERATIVE (according to him really) and if I were paying to staying at Beach Club, you bet I stick with my pool day plan.

Make changes to my ADRs for strangers, I don't think so. I know that sounds harsh, but you have never met them. I'm sure they are nice, but that doesn't mean you are compatible. I have done WDW with multiple family and friend groups. 50/50 shot of a good time. I would never attempt to hook up with folks I don't even know.

My maximum compromise (even though I probably wouldn't even do that ) - hand DH a printout of itinerary, he can share with them. If they want to make their own ADRs at same place or meet you at a park, fine let them take care of that. Since when are you their tour guide ?

And the two days thing - how long have they known they were going and just now say something......maybe they are just being polite to your DH in case they run into you, and really didn't want to be with you. I know if I was going the same time as a co-worker, I would wait until the last minute to tell them, so we didn't have to make plans, but covered myself in case we cross paths.

Good luck, have a magical trip, and keep your plans

 

[DisneyFairy19]

Try to make the best of it... I know how it is to travel with others and its a pain.. Just try to do your thing anf not worry about anything else

 

[martyshoney]

Tell your DH he did plan something. It was a great plan, when he married you. If he'd married me, he would be planning the appropriate way to uninvite the other 2 families.

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! I would be the same way!! I would tell him that I spent too much time these past few months planning this trip for him to come and just try to change things for people that I have never even meant. I am sorry, but to me Disney World is just too expensive to have to do something b/c of someone else, you need to do what you want to do!! Or tell him you will just cancel everything and let him redo it all!
Good Luck and hope you have a great trip!

 

[the Fidge]

Tell your DH he did plan something. It was a great plan, when he married you. If he'd married me, he would be planning the appropriate way to uninvite the other 2 families.

I have to borrow this and keep it for a rainy day ok?? What a gem!!!!

 

[Disneymaniacs]

Why don't you invite the 2nd family to enjoy the pool with you on Monday. This is their vacation too so they most likely will pass, no feelings will be hurt, and you still get your pool day. Have a great trip.

 

[Hannathy]

I have a couple thought one it is his vacation to so he does have a right to add things he wants ie friends. Second but more important is and I don't think I have ever been on a vacation that this didn't come up was you need to have some flexibility built in. What if you get there and the day you had planned for pool day is stormy but the next 3 days will be beautifutl will you sit in the room or will you change plans throw on your poncos and hit a park and swim the next day? On our last trip we had planned a park on the first day of course but with airline delays didn't get to the hotel till 2:30 AM guess what our first day turned into our pool day and we flipped with the day we had planned and all turned out well.
Kids get sick, weather doesn't cooperate, etc. try to relax a bit and enjoy your trip no one will grade you on sticking to your plan.

 

[Va-bear]

I would try to accomadate him/them some ...life only happends once. I think your own idea was best... Spend the morning together in MGM and then IF they want they can hop over to Epcot , if not, part ways having spent part of a nice day together. I too would try to add them to the ressie - but otherwise , with the time of year in mind, offer to have them come and do "standby." 2 weeks ago we walked right into WCC for breakfast - zero waiting.

Yes, you've done a lot of planning, but as someone said, we LOVE that, so that's part of YOUR own fun... but consider there are other PEOPLE involved. When we take the humanity out of our lives, and rush rush rush, dont enjoy other people, live only by agenda's, etc, etc,.... you live a regimented and unflexible life, missing SO many opporutunities and pinholing your life. You might go with them and have a horrible time - but at least you gave it a shot (and showed you cold try...) OR , it may be one of the best, UNIQUE times of your life??! No matter what, I hope you have a super great time!!!! Just being with your loved ones should make that a guaranteed event!!

 

[Hope73]

After the trip you will have to let us know how it all was.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

This thread gave me a very bad dream last night! I am a bigtime planner when it comes to WDW, and the OP's problem threw me into a tizzy, I guess! I don't like to travel with other people for the reasons the OP is experiencing. Last night after reading this thread, I dreamed that I went to WDW with a bunch of people I don't know, and I was tryng to get everyone moving, going...I remember looking at my watch and seeing that it was 9:40 AND WE WEREN"T EVEN CLOSE TO BEING INSIDE ONE OF THE PARKS YET!!! See what happens when you veer from your course???Utter Chaos! Just kidding of course, you may have a great time with a few changes to accomodate other. I personally would be totally stressed out about it, as you can tell from my dream!

Have a great trip!

VA-Bear, is that you??? I had no idea you were so nice! (Just kidding, of course I know that!) I would have to be a meanie, I think, and stick to my guns...

 

[mrsscooter]

I havent read all of the replies, but surely do get the picture and your predicament (sp?)lol

I have had this happen to us, except with family that lives in florida (which is sometimes worse). Anyway........Here are two possible scenerios for you:

1. Call the two families and explain to them that you hubby made plans with them without even realizing how complicated it is to accomodate two extra families at such short notice, explaining how your free dining is included and there aren't any more adrs left, blah blah, but it would be "great" if when you get back, maybe you can plan a weekend at a local theme park together or something and you can also emphasize the fact that since you dont know when you will be getting back to the world with your kids and that this is probably your one and only trip for quite awhile, you really want to keep this trip "family" so that you can make this the best trip ever. If they have kids, they will understand.

2. After telling your husband that because you have to "sacrifice" family time together by spending it with other families, you will be calling to make another wdw vacation. LOL If, you do this, give the other parties all of the names and numbers, etc. and let them plan for themselves. YOU ARE NOT THE LOCAL TRAVEL AGENT. You are responsible for your family and yours only. I would also not change any days of your trip plans, because you know your children and their personalities and when they are tired, etc. I would rather have a planned break one day and get rested than to be going 24/7 with two cranky kids. You don't want to be appologizing the whole time either for your childrens behavior, when you know they are just plumb tired.

I hope this helps, and I am sorry if I have come across a little on the "rough" side, I guess thats the navy wife in me coming out. LOL Whatever you decide, I hope you have a great time and fill us all in when you get back.